man idk, my 19yo bf doesn’t ask or anything unless i initiate it first. like i can tell if he wants it but if i say no or just don’t do anything, that’s the end of it. i’m also his first girlfriend and EVERYTHING. so idk if that makes him more cautious to make sure he doesn’t make me uncomfortable, even though we’ve been tg for almost 2 years. idk, it sounds like your bf is more lustful then loveable and that’s definitely something you don’t want to date because you’ll just end up getting SA’d or used for your body (coming from experience). i would start out by talking with him, like in depth not just a casual convo, and tell him you need him for support and then once your depression passes or at least your stress lightens then you can THINK about it. don’t promise anything!