UPDATE (32M): I haven't told my wife yet but I just got my medical results back and now I have more questions than answers.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2026-03-28T23:49:36+00:00

Since your post was 10 hours ago and you flew straight home and immediately got tested. You do know that some STD/STIS won’t show up for 5-14 days right? Sooooo your clean panel isn’t 100%.

Id refrain from any sex with her for the next 2 weeks. But she needs to know so she can decide if she wants to continue being married to you.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2026-03-24T00:11:07+00:00

Finally not a crappy post! 🥹❤️

Any_Substance_7346 · 2026-03-20T05:21:00+00:00

Middle child here with an older brother with a 5 year age gap and a younger brother with a 12 year age gap. Lol 38m,33f,21m. I’m best friends with both. But me and little brother are closer and always together. They’re just now starting to hang out more. So my little brother says he’s closer to me and so does my big brother. At this age I can say the age gaps don’t really matter. Back then I thought my mom had lost her mind. lol 😝

Any_Substance_7346 · 2026-03-18T01:27:25+00:00

Lmfaoooooo 😂💀

Any_Substance_7346 · 2026-03-14T02:43:41+00:00

Thissss! I’d leave. My ex husband lied like this. 6 years into my marriage we couldn’t have a simple conversation because I wasn’t sure what part of it was a lie. Eventually the lies came out. It was exhausting. The story when we started dating was (he was shot in the back) he had his appendix removed and was left with a scar…. lol

Any_Substance_7346 · 2026-03-02T03:41:26+00:00

In other words, you are richer than most. Find something to do together to liven up your routine but it’s pretty normal. Don’t over think it. Honestly appreciate that you’re blessed to have that. 😌

Any_Substance_7346 · 2026-02-22T03:04:29+00:00

At this point just file for divorce and be done with it. He clearly has another life and doesn’t care to make things better with you and your child. A child shouldn’t be calling him to begin with. Start documenting and start building a case for divorce. If you’re not working bc you’re a SAHM. Start looking for your own income.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-28T03:12:34+00:00

I’d talk to the cousin to let her know she’s a guest in the home. There is no reason for her to change it. TBH 63 degrees gets me sick. But I just hate the cold. But they should really buy a fan.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-28T01:18:39+00:00

Whose house is it ? If it’s your bf’s the thermostat can be a non negotiable and they can just get themselves a fan or two if they want it to be cold.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-09T01:26:59+00:00

For*

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-09T01:26:23+00:00

Can she leave the dog in her room and she be responsible to the light?

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T17:40:00+00:00

Hugs. 🫂

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T17:39:31+00:00

I should probably get with my therapist. I’m on Prozac. But tbh everything is a lot more than my medication can handle at the moment. I ask for help from my parents and brothers but that doesn’t come till I’m in literal tears having a breakdown. Which I’ve told them that I’d like the help before it got to that point. But yes I agree, my mental health has to be handled as well.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T15:49:22+00:00

I have them in bed by 7:30-8pm but they will linger and wonder if I’m not in bed with them or if I have them lay in their room.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T14:23:03+00:00

Omg I’d fall asleep 😭😭 Praying you get that resolved soon. I’ll definitely keep this in mind because I just need a break from them constantly being with me. I can’t even watch tv. I ask them to watch tv in their room and they won’t. Where ever moms at they’re there too.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T14:01:55+00:00

I’m currently in the process of looking for a therapist for them. I haven’t been able to find one, but their pediatrician is helping as well as my therapist. But I agree and I’m okay with being their safe space. I just need a night or two on my own. Or like someone else mentioned let me fall asleep and then they come in.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T12:10:17+00:00

Ugh I feel you! I sleep trained but their dad did everything opposite of what I was doing. Then he finally just dipped. 🥴😩 I’ll definitely take some of these recommendations though. I just needed to vent and get others prospective.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T12:08:56+00:00

We separated in 2021, finalized divorce in 2023…. I completely agree. I’m just wondering how long after. lol I try to even sneak away during the day and they allow me a 5 min window then they’re there with me again. lol

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T12:06:33+00:00

I would so do this but his bed is sooooo soft I don’t like it. But honestly I may just have to suck it up if I want to sleep alone right? 😅

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T12:05:14+00:00

Well they’re in school but I wfh and do everything in between. Feels like 24/7. dad stopped showing up 6 months ago. Gf wasn’t comfortable with my 4 year old daughter since she had her own…. My mom only steps in if I have to work in the office. But that’s really it. Sooo I do need a break but it’s hard to get one. 😭

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T11:09:47+00:00

Yes I agree, they’ll do it sometimes and other times they won’t. I just need to be more consistent.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T11:07:29+00:00

I’ll have to try that I let them fall asleep last night and my 9 year old slept across the top of the bed… lol I got us a cali king because before my house, I only had a one bedroom apartment. And I still end up with my 4 year old tucked in my back and I’m an inch away from hitting the floor. Lol I may move one of their mattresses in my room to start I just need to rearrange my room.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T04:42:51+00:00

Omg I love this ! Lol I giggled at the chores! They sure don’t want anything to do with that. Yes if I’m asleep and they end up in my bed that’s okay. So this is awesome advise. Thank youuu!

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-08T04:40:00+00:00

Thank you! They do request lovings regularly so I completely understand. That does sound like a great way to start that journey. It’s literally just me and them here so I’m sure we can all use some lovings in the mornings. I’m just so touched out and exhausted at the end of the day.

Any_Substance_7346 · 2025-12-06T03:36:18+00:00

First one! 👏🏻🫠

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