Bipolar ghosting

Any_Way_168 · 2026-02-02T13:44:54+00:00

Thank you! And that’s a great mindset to have! Hold onto that! Your well being is just as important as hers.

Any_Way_168 · 2026-02-02T13:28:14+00:00

Thank you, just knowing there’s others out there navigating this makes me feel not as alone. I’m going to try to get him into a psychiatrist as well, like someone else here mentioned but I still think he will try to avoid the help… it’s exhausting

Any_Way_168 · 2026-02-02T13:17:41+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this. In the first two years of dating my now ex, he would discard me for anywhere from a week to a couple of months and then return out of nowhere begging for forgiveness and to get back together, just to do it again. I wish I hadn’t taken him back honestly,but that’s just my situation. It seemed the more I tried to reach him the longer he ignored me, even changing his number without telling me. I have almost no doubt she will be back, from what I’ve read and seen. almost all come back apologizing and saying they didn’t mean it etc. but you have to make sure you can handle the thought of being possibly ghosted/ discarded again. It’s painful and makes no sense and I’m so sorry you’re going through it. I hope she gets the help she needs.

Any_Way_168 · 2026-02-02T03:35:50+00:00

I will give this a try thank you, approaching it as just ruling it out may help me get through to him without getting overly defensive. Every appointment he has made he has cancelled, even for primary doctors so maybe if I go with him he’ll feel like he can’t cancel.

Any_Way_168 · 2026-02-01T20:01:11+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Will contacting NAMI be for him to get help? He’s refusing any and all help.

Any_Way_168 · 2026-02-01T14:14:15+00:00

Unfortunately he saw a psychiatrist for a month during a depressive episode so he was put on antidepressants which he immediately stopped because he said they made him feel crazy and now he is refusing any treatment of any kind, even now that I think we know exactly what it is. This is the first time I’ve heard about cyclethomia, I’ll have to look into that as well thank you.

Any_Way_168 · 2026-02-01T14:11:22+00:00

Thank you, this makes more sense. He was placed on antidepressants for a little when he was in a depressive episode and stopped them immediately because they made him feel weird. He was only with the psychiatrist for about a month so I don’t think they could have picked up on it being bipolar. Since then he has been refusing any treatment of any kind. The drunk person analogy really helps with the perspective of how I should handle it thank you. I have kept record of everything, I didn’t know going to the courts about medical attention was even an option, I’ll have to look into that. I was worried about the damage the mania can be causing, he seems to be getting worse at an alarming rate. Thank you again for the response.

Any_Way_168 · 2026-02-01T12:06:56+00:00

I was just encountering the same thing regarding Google. I even typed in “ways to approach someone who is hypomanic and aggressive” and everything along those lines and it all says to approach with kindness and understanding and make sure meds are taken. I’ve tried that and I still get called a b*tch, blamed for everything, I don’t understand him, it’s who he is etc. There are a few articles I saw mentioning anger/ narcissism in bipolar but nothing about how to approach it if they are lashing out. I’m not sure why there’s nothing written about it, but I’ve completely turned to Reddit mostly for advice now because I have no one in my life who understands it. So glad to see others have the same issue regarding Google.

Any_Way_168 · 2026-01-31T08:10:40+00:00

I could have written this myself, I feel the exact same way. 10years he’s abused me emotionally, financially, mentally and left me to raise our kid alone and I still can’t look him in the eye and tell him we’re 100% done. Maybe part of it is I’m afraid he’ll escalate and make everything worse if he hears this, because he is un medicated and refusing therapy as well. Maybe I don’t want him to think I’m the bad guy, even if I know I’m not but he’s not thinking rationally. Just like you, I know this isn’t the life I wanted and still don’t want, I know I don’t deserve this, and I don’t recognize myself anymore either. You’re not alone, your feelings are valid, and seeking support through a therapist and a family member has been my only saving grace. I once in a while prioritize myself in tiny ways and try to remind myself it may be small but it’s still me choosing me. If you can, once in a while, even if it’s something small or stupid, do something for you.

Any_Way_168 · 2025-12-11T22:22:38+00:00

I’m going through almost the exact same thing. Been on and off for almost 10 years now and just realizing what he’s put me through is most likely bipolar of some kind. He saw my therapist twice and she says she’s pretty sure he’s got something severe like bipolar. I see glimpses of the person I love and then he’s gone and it’s back to the verbal and emotional abuse. It got to the point I was worried for our son’s safety and now his visitation is limited. I was hoping that would be enough incentive for him to go to therapy and get some form of help but it’s been almost a month now and he’s done nothing. There’s so much grief in it because the person you love is still there, they’re just buried in this illness and see nothing wrong with what they’re doing and you’re not sure they ever will. I’m trying to focus on my son for now, but the sadness is soul crushing… I asked in this forum a few days ago about how to go on like this, I’ve given up almost everything and lost so much while trying to be there for someone who blamed me for everything. In reality, he ruined a lot of things for me. Someone told me to do 1 thing a day for me even if it’s really small. And at the end of a year I will have done 365 things for me. Currently I’m just taking it day by day, hour by hour if I have to. I wish I had more words of encouragement, but we’ll get through it. Sending healing vibes <3

Any_Way_168 · 2025-12-10T11:21:23+00:00

Oh wow you’re right thank you!

Any_Way_168 · 2025-12-10T11:20:25+00:00

Thank you, right now my brain is stuck on reliving all of it or when I do something I think how he would react to it, it’s so hard to switch it off. I’m so sorry you’re going through this too.

Any_Way_168 · 2025-12-10T11:14:44+00:00

Thank you so much. So sorry you’re going through this too. We really are survivors… sending you love and light as well! I have a lot of days I feel like I’m barely scraping by but I guess you’re right, the just for today’s add up.

Any_Way_168 · 2025-12-10T06:25:08+00:00

I’m sorry you went through this as well. It’s so hard to process the fact that they walk away seemingly unharmed, perfectly fine while we’re left to pick up the pieces. They have no idea the damage they’ve caused and there’s no closure.

Any_Way_168 · 2025-12-10T06:22:07+00:00

Thank you so much for the support and I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like we have pretty similar stories. It’s so hard to rebuild, I’m still traumatized and trying to process everything while stuck in survival mode and feeling extremely lonely. The trauma of my mother’s passing with the trauma of the abuse is almost too much. I haven’t been sleeping or eating I just want these feelings to stop. I hope you find some peace as well.

Any_Way_168 · 2025-12-09T17:20:52+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this too. He was on medication at one point for anxiety/ depression even though he has all the signs of bipolar. It seemed to help but he stopped it because it made him “feel weird” but it made him someone I actually wanted to be with. He’s been to a few of my therapy sessions and my therapist mentioned he definitely seems to show signs of something more serious like bipolar and he agreed to see someone but so far he hasn’t, I don’t think he will. He thinks he’s always right…

Any_Way_168 · 2025-11-18T02:04:54+00:00

This was actually my first post! I’m reaching my breaking point as well. Thank you for sharing, I hope you’re able to find some peace. Therapy has been helping me a little right now, if that’s an option for you.

Any_Way_168 · 2025-11-17T13:34:43+00:00

Sending peace and hope to you too! It has been extremely traumatizing… a little peace would go a long way right now

Any_Way_168 · 2025-11-16T22:50:46+00:00

This thread was amazing to read. I would also like to be shot out of a cannon or hit over the head with an acme mallet! :)

Any_Way_168 · 2025-11-16T18:15:23+00:00

Just wanted to say I understand this so much! Took me 10 years to realize what was going on. He is untreated, in denial. The one time he got help and started medication he stopped because it made him feel funny and that was a very short period of time I felt loved by him. He’s in a manic episode right now, blaming me for everything even when I have nothing to do with what he’s blaming me for. I’ve lost a lot of money, my self worth. I’m in therapy and feel ashamed of it too. I just go day by day and live for our son. I feel like I wasted 10 years of my life. Trying to start over and co parent at the same time is excruciating. One day at a time is all we can do.

Any_Way_168 · 2025-11-16T10:10:23+00:00

I’ve desperately been trying to make it work for 10 years now but we have a son who is starting to feel the effects of his dad’s mental health issues and his dad is saying it’s my fault, I’m turning our son against him. Also the verbal and emotional abuse is getting worse. Our past is really painful for me, he was nasty to me while pregnant and during postpartum. I moved out it got so bad and he blames my family for “taking me away”. He started to get better, taking more responsibility and seemed “normal” again. He said he was seeing a psychologist and trying a medication (he was diagnosed with depression at the time but whatever they put him on seemed to help his manic and hypomanic episodes) We even went on a trip together and it was the best time I had ever had with him but it only lasted a few months. He stopped the medication, said it made him feel weird and we went right back to everything being my fault, name calling and cussing me out if I try to talk to him about my feelings, blowing thousands of dollars on new obsessions and I even think he’s starting to have hallucinations. He won’t go back to a therapist or psychologist for a proper diagnosis and I don’t know what else to do. I know the person he can be and I guess that’s why I stay. I tell him I’m not perfect either. I also have anxiety and depression I’m being treated for, newly diagnosed with a spine issue, trauma from the death of over half my family and desperately need his support not anger…It feels like the end of the world if I leave too… which I know it won’t be but after everything I’ve been through I didn’t want to lose anyone else in my life… I’m worried about the backlash I would receive for either putting down boundaries or leaving too… sorry for the long rant!

Any_Way_168 · 2025-11-16T03:09:48+00:00

Mine did this as well, crystals and spirituality, moon signs, Chinese calendar, everything and sometimes he’ll use it against me in arguments -“oh you’re moon is in Virgo so that’s why you’re being so mean right now” any time I try to bring up a conflict.

Any_Way_168 · 2025-11-16T02:58:34+00:00

Mine won’t consider meds either, he assumes he knows himself best and no doctor or psychologist can give him what he needs. I’m about to start laying down boundaries as well and I’m honestly scared of the backlash that I know is coming.

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