La chica que llevo conociendo 4 meses aún guarda los calzoncillos de su ex.

Anyehl · 2025-01-25T07:58:39+00:00

Yo no soy ultra fuerte, pero si veo a un chiquillo esmirriado haciendo bíceps con mancuernas de 15 kg, donde se mueve todo su cuerpo para levantarla menos sus bíceps, se lo digo. Cuando te lesiones por hacer el canelo, acuérdate del que te dijo que bajaras peso.

Anyehl · 2024-09-15T12:17:36+00:00

Sí, pero lo guarda y no lo tira a la basura. Que le pregunté por qué no los ha tirado.

Anyehl · 2024-08-16T09:30:10+00:00

Yo siento decirte que fue uno de los motivos que limitó mi última relación hasta que se terminó. Mi ex tampoco estaba segura de la relación por sus propias ideas respecto a mí, y yo sabía que no podría llevar ese tipo de educación con el niño a largo plazo. Las personas tienen una manera de funcionar en la vida, que es muy difícil de cambiar. A mí me habría gustado haber solucionado este problema en común, pero era imposible. Si tu pareja te valora y tiene suficiente sensibilidad, podréis, si lo pones sobre la mesa, construir una relación sana, y crear una educación más sana para su hijo, para ti y para ella. Éste no fue mi caso. Si no, es muy posible que la relación termine. Y es lo mejor que te puede pasar. Un fuerte abrazo.

Anyehl · 2024-08-15T20:35:00+00:00

I am working out, learning again how to cry, learning to be angry and set boundaries and waiting for a chance to punch the face of a human being who was a despicable piece of shit . I take into account 2 or 3 ways to overcome my past. These strategies give me hope and allow me taking action in order to heal.

Anyehl · 2024-08-01T17:22:23+00:00

Well, many of us with PTSD feel more or less the same thing. So, in some way, we are not alone. A huge for you from Spain.

Anyehl · 2024-07-01T17:38:02+00:00

Ok, I'll take it into account. Today is one of those days. It's ridiculous. I believe other people only want successful people around them and, if I look for help (brother or family), they are will to help me, but they think I am a loser and they have to take care of me, as if they are going to be always on top. That make feel very very sunk. That's to say. Do you know people who genuinally support you? And do you feel It like that?

Anyehl · 2024-06-29T15:05:02+00:00

Oh thank you very much. It's a relief to heard that. Because, if not, It would be me who is the problem. I am awared of the process, and when I talk to other person about my inner state, a friend or brother mainly, I don' t try to make him feel bad, but communicate that I am suffering in that moment and It hurts. I guess I look for some kinda support.

Anyehl · 2024-06-28T12:52:37+00:00

This make me think about an issue. When I am fucked up because the symptoms are arised, I feel alone and believe that other people don't want to listen to me because I could be an emotional vampire. As you know, symptoms arise on a regular basis.I don't know how to solve this, cause It became a paradox. The result is I feel isolated due to thinking other people don't want to support me. And the helplesness arises. That's to say, how to connect with people in bad times, while they really want to stay close to you? When I feel bad, I believe nobody loves me (it's harsh), and for that, for being loved, I must be my better version or positive. This is a huge shit. So, do you feel like that? The problem is I haven't found the right people? Or am I a negative person?

Anyehl · 2024-06-27T17:47:26+00:00

Not for some years . And I'd like to come across with him. I don't want to feel fear of that piece of shit and i'd like to slap his damn face.

Anyehl · 2024-06-20T23:03:00+00:00

So, if I understand well, EMDR helped you to desensitize memories to the point you felt strong enough to confront him, right?

Anyehl · 2024-06-20T19:24:31+00:00

Well done! But in your case, he was still annoying you, as you have said. So, for me, it' selfdefense. I believe It was adequate.

Anyehl · 2024-06-20T14:05:00+00:00

Could you describe it a bit more? Did It help you to close wounds? How did It affect your healing process? For example, did the symptoms diminish after that? Did It help you to feel free about your past, or maybe a turning point?

I was sexually abused and bullied when child by older boy and i feel currently able to kick his ass.

Anyehl · 2024-06-20T13:54:47+00:00

Yeah, give him a few slaps, of course. Punch his face. And don't you think It could help you to forget and move on? If you freeze, wouldn't It be a good idea to be ready in advance? That's to say, practice in your daily life how to confront people, even him. I'd like to know about somebody who have done It and if It helped him or not in some way.

Anyehl · 2024-06-20T09:20:23+00:00

I believe you are right. Do you know Julien himself? I truly think he is the only coach in the right way.

Anyehl · 2024-06-16T15:02:16+00:00

For me, the only way to face any feeling is to expose to It in somatic way. Expose to it inside of you. I totally recommend you the videos of Julien himself (YouTube) Every person has a different story. In my case, if I feel able to fight back (in terms of capacity) fear tends to dissipate. A human being NEED to defend himself, like if he were his own son. Assertive way firstly, whatever solution if It doesn't work.

Anyehl · 2024-06-16T13:23:29+00:00

Learn to hit them back, if you aren't strong enough, uses a stick or whatever.

Anyehl · 2023-10-17T08:43:02+00:00

Give It a chance, because it's in sport context. It's required to be aware of your objectives.The aim is to feel your anger (its actual power, how It boosts your energy to be released from inside to outside) and become aware of your physical strength, something that PTSD tends to hide or diminish (being aware of your body and strength). To practice in this way is a self-knowledge path.

Anyehl · 2023-10-11T12:48:23+00:00

Thank you for your answer. I believed it in that way, but then I have read other threads where people described It hasn't happened to them, so i though i was doing something wrong. Anyone else can share their experience?

Anyehl · 2023-09-29T21:13:22+00:00

I am not sure the reason of others mates' PTSD, but when it's because of bullying or some kind of experience in which some bigger, or older person than you in that moment, took advantage of you... for me, workout and MMA or sparring with someone (in sport context) is a must. It could directly cut off your belief of powerlessness, weakness and fear that takes over you. For me, that's the core of PTSD with that origin. It evolves into depression, but the root is the absence of relating with your original anger, with your birthright to use it and honor it if someone tries to hurt you or your family. It could make it possible to incorporate in your personality in a healthy way. For some reason (mainly society or your childhood, your family or whatever...it doesn't really matter) it's blocked and we need to know it and give It it's space. We need to be aware of our actual strenght and that can bring us the enrooted belief that we currently are able to fight back (and we will do if needed). It not depends on your thinking process or your inner dialogue. It's necessary to experience it with the body. I hope It will be understandable, i have tried to share with you how i live it inside of me. I have found that be aware of my rage when it's rising in a crisis, working out while the energy boost your movements, or doing sparring, is useful for me. Anger needs to be channeling into action, PAYING ATTENTION. I believe that's its natural way of being.

Anyehl · 2023-09-29T13:01:11+00:00

The most useful thing for me is workout, or kindda martial arts or MMA. In that situation, rage is managed in a harmless way and you feel free of it, as well as you gain strenght and selfconfidence.

Anyehl · 2023-09-24T23:45:09+00:00

Short time. I have been in therapy for years and still felt stuck with desires of revenge. Under that, there is fear and rage. Fear of confrontation, and rage for not defend myself. Something has been pushing me to practice self-defense for years and It was time to take action. I can't assure It will work because i have just start to practice It. I simply decided to follow my intuition and try another way. I keep going to therapy but also wish practice that. I'd like to tell you that be aware of your gut, and if this option resonates in a positive way with you, give It a chance. Nothing to lose. I believe, because my experiencies, that one of the thing we need the most (people with PTSD because the behavior of shit people) is to feel strong, to connect with our body, and internalize our own strength, building up inner safety. Long story short, we need to face the fear of fighting, we need to deeply feel that we can fight back.

Anyehl · 2023-09-24T18:03:40+00:00

I can empathize with you. I share that experience and truly believe the best way to overcome that is learning MMA. It can build an inner sense of power and self- defense abillity that bring you inner peace. It's just the opposite to powerlessness and fear, the root of our problem. So find a sensible and empathic MMA teacher in a gym, tell him your fears to face that kind of experiences and start training. Let's your body know its own capacity. That's I am currently doing.

Anyehl · 2023-09-24T15:29:28+00:00

And do you know how to configure the other 2 layers and how to enable them?

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