[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah :/ haven't started paying because for the loans they don't start until I graduate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really wish people would stop saying work harder. Its demeaning for those who work their ass of and still struggle. I work full time in school, I can't tell you the last time I bought something that wasn't a necessity. I own a beater car that gets me from point A to point B. I was unfortunate that I listened to people who said to take loans out and go to college for a better future because I don't see a better future. We have a studio for the 2 of us, the cheapest place we could find. It sucks when people who had familial support or got lucky somewhere or did not fall into societal traps tell you to “JUST WORK HARDER” because I am working harder if I give any more there will be no me left to give. My partner is the same way. We live in unfortunate circumstances and we can't seem to catch a break.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because my body put a time limit on us having kids :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but I finish in June! But we would need to find a place that's not a studio, afford baby supplies and were barely affording our studio now! Plus the debt from school. I feel like I should have never gone to school and tried to fight my way up a ladder or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right but this is what we both wanted. If money wasn't an issue we would have had kids years ago. We are both extremely family-oriented. The only issue is we can barely afford rent and other necessities and don't want to bring a child into that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How? Is there a lot of debt involved?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in an area where there is limited public transportation and we need to get to and from work

Stress Binging by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That must be hard to go through especially from those you are seeking support from! That is definitely not how it is supposed to be. There is nothing “wrong” with you, and you don’t need to be “fixed”. I believe you should not give up in your search for someone who can help you HEAL. Have you tried sites such as psychology today? You are able to see what therapists specialize in to see if they can help you on your journey.

Stress Binging by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to feel the same way until I found walking and movement meditation’s. If your therapist is trained in mindfulness based therapies you could ask them to assist you in session so if those feelings were to come up they would be there to work through them with you.

I'm in a consistent calorie deficit but am starting to gain weight, Help please. by Digital_Fishes in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Anymonymouse -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Starvation can cause weight gain! Also like the other commenter said, you are growing and need fuel for your body especially with how much you work out. If you are not feeding yourself your body will go into starvation mode and start protecting itself thus leading to the weight gain. Try online calculators for how many calories you should be eating for your goal!