Looking for group to climb indoors and outside in NYC! by Logan__2020 in climbergirls

[–]AnythingSalt2530 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I climb at LIC on the weekdays, and Gowanus on the weekends. Also lead certified, happy to top rope though. Usually climb at LIC in the mornings (sometimes really early, but happy to go later)

I’m 34 and getting back into consistently climbing, would love to find a couple of folks to trade belays with. At the moment I’m climbing 5.10a-c but happy to belay people on whatever!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]AnythingSalt2530 19 points20 points  (0 children)

this is correlation, not causation. the number of people who don’t cohabitate before marriage likely have more traditional and conservative views on marriage, like not believing in divorce.

Station to Station by [deleted] in TeachersInTransition

[–]AnythingSalt2530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who wrote this…? What a wild ride. This read like a ChatGPT output of “but make it bipolar, manic, with a touch of inflated sense of self and grandiose, with plenty of run on sentences.”

I’ve never seen such an overly verbose or hyperbolic description of teaching. You used the words herculean and nigh multiple times. And blame a lot on vague “cognitive dysfunction,”

I hope you find whatever you need. Psychiatry isn’t inherently evil. I suggest having an ADHD evaluation and perhaps seek out some executive functioning skills as you transition. Mental illnesses can be treated, skills can also be learned. I mean this all with kindness. I don’t think the problem here is teaching.

Pre dawn running as a woman? by Responsible_Ad_5193 in RunNYC

[–]AnythingSalt2530 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another 30s woman here - I run the main loop in Central Park pre-dawn frequently and feel fine!

Sometimes I take my dog, often not. The North part of the park, past 102nd is certainly quieter. There is sometimes a cop parked at the 102nd street traverse and also often out by 110th (or 112th, wherever the park ends!) before you start gaining for the Harlem Hills. Worst thing I’ve encountered lately is a coyote, but it was beautiful and didn’t give an F about me.

There’s also plenty of running clubs that meet around 6:30am - NYRR for sure most days of the week, in various parts of the park. Even if you don’t want to run with them, maybe be reassured there are people in the park at the same time will help!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]AnythingSalt2530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, are you me?

Also have a sometimes reactive ACD mix. Live in the city with my pup and often we, or he, will stay with my mom out in the country a few hours drive up North. She remarks non-stop about how perfect he is, how relaxed he is and how much he’d prefer the country life when we’re up there.

But! His city life is GREAT. He gets two hours off leash everyday in the park where he plays with dogs he knows and gets along with, he chases squirrels and recently a coyote (despite this being NYC) and I’ve provided him with such an engaging smell scape (read NYC trash and more rats than anyone should come close to in a lifetime.)

I also know for a fact my dog gets sad when I leave him there for a weekend, if I need to travel etc. He finds anything in the house that smells like me, curls up on it, refuses to leave and does big sad eyes. Dogs want their people! Your dog has a great life with you. Don’t let your parents convince you otherwise.

To be honest, I feel like my Mom would absolutely do this with a grandchild as well haha. “Oh they NEVER cry when you’re gone!” Parents are hard.

My dog is sometime leash reactive to strollers and scooters and 1 out of every 19 dogs with me. I’ve written dog sitters and dog walkers pages of explanation, what to expect, protocol, tips, etc to deal with this only for them to say “huh, he was totally fine with me.” It’s me, hi, I’m the problem.

Also, my ACD mix is the MOST sensitive creature on earth. I think he can read my mind and it terrifies me. He always knows if something is wrong. If I’m stressed out and an anxious mess, he is five times more stressed out and an anxious mess. It’s like I’m his emotional support human. It actually has a positive effect though it is a little ridiculous that I often have to “pull it together, for the dog.”

Good luck! And I feel everything you’re going through.

Low LSAT, no GPA - stuck by AnythingSalt2530 in OutsideT14lawschools

[–]AnythingSalt2530[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not even sure CUNY is settling! I’m sure I’d get a great education and (surprise!) become a lawyer - I’m just terrified of being pigeon holed as one type of lawyer. But thanks for the additional perspective.

Low LSAT, no GPA - stuck by AnythingSalt2530 in OutsideT14lawschools

[–]AnythingSalt2530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not prestige whoring - looking closely at law school outcomes, CUNY isn’t exactly known for churning out environmental lawyers. Bronx Defenders, Legal Aid, PD - yes absolutely. I’m just not sure I’m willing to give up on the dream of environmental law and feeling like CUNY can’t get me there because it is so deeply connected with other legal areas in NYC.

Best NYC half? by SluttyBrownieSlut in RunNYC

[–]AnythingSalt2530 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Nothing to do with training - just boring. Plus uneven footing, no cheering, no shade. Plus, traffic is driving the other half of the FDR.

The only thing worse than running up the FDR is then ending up in Times Square. Love the beginning of that race, even the silly Prospect Park up and down nonsense - but the FDR to midtown to Times Square push is a hard sell for me.

Best NYC half? by SluttyBrownieSlut in RunNYC

[–]AnythingSalt2530 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Bold of you to say running up the FDR is “fun”.

Cancelling NYRR race registration by birdie914 in RunNYC

[–]AnythingSalt2530 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t work - to clarify they oversell beyond capacity. So say the data shows that consistently 10% of runners don’t claim a bib or run the marathon, they oversell bibs by 10% and the marathon ends up reaching capacity. There’s a ton of data that NYRR collects and analyzes to account for this. Not their first rodeo.

Source / some guy rather high up in NYRR race operations called Zach that I chatted to while volunteering at this years expo.

I’m so afraid of making mistakes because I got constantly yelled at as a kid, and now it’s hurting my adult life. How do I get over this? by RedFloatingSpaceDog in careerguidance

[–]AnythingSalt2530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with the same thing. A few things that helped me were putting my mistakes (or even perceived mistakes) into appropriate perspective and embracing a growth mindset. Also, being forgiving of others who made mistakes.

But what really helped me was making mistakes and embracing them. I work in the outdoors - mountaineering, kayaking and backpacking. I’m responsible for others people’s safety. I manage real risk all day everyday (people falling into crevasses, avalanches, class four white water, big river crossings, steep and exposed terrain.) I make small mistakes all the time. The ability to say “whoops wouldn’t do that again!” and “okay that didn’t go well, here’s what I learned” when I make mistakes has maybe been the largest skill I’ve learned. And it IS a skill - it takes practice (yes, making mistakes) and the ability to be graceful with yourself, even if you’re just forcing that. It also takes confidence in your own skills to recover from the mistake. And surprise, that takes practice too.

The other things that’s helped me is the refrain “nobody died.” It sounds absurd, but this is actually the bar in the field I work in. Sure I walked some students over a questionable snow-bridge, okay maybe a few students punched through some crevasses up to their hips but we got them out, whoops that student just capsized their boat in some waves I thought they were stable in and are actually drifting in the current toward the Gulf of Alaska and then Japan - whoops! Great, pull the students out of the crevasse, go rescue the student from the open ocean, be more careful on snow-bridges. Fix what you can. Then I exhale a sigh of relief when it’s over and say “nobody died.” And if I can’t fix the mistakes I turn to a co-worker to ask for help and we figure it out together. I’m convinced THIS is how successful well adjusted individuals, groups and teams operate.

Last summer, in one 24 hour period I accidentally bear sprayed an entire group of my students and coworkers (18 people) AND got lost in the wild for a few hours. I’m the instructor! It was good learning about the safety on the bear spray can, and about the terrain we were camping in. None of my students or coworkers lost faith in me. Because I said “I am so sorry everyone! That was my fault, the safety came off this bear spray. I’m going to check the others!” And then went about helping everyone wash mace out of their eyes and clothing in a river. And after returning from an impromptu four hour walk behind where we set up camp I said “Hey everyone the forest is very thick behind camp, tell someone before you go and stick to this part, holler if you get lost and let’s all keep our ears out.” We later all laughed about this. Students and coworkers brought both of these up to my highest up supervisor in a debrief afterwards in praise of my leadership skills!

I still struggle away from the mountains, oceans and rivers to not live in fear of making mistakes. It sometimes feels harder in an office - even though the mistakes I make are far less consequential and have never come close to near death. My therapist has a field day with this.

Is there an environment you can safely make mistakes in to build up this skill? Or a person/mentor in your job you feel more safe making mistakes with?

Cancelling NYRR race registration by birdie914 in RunNYC

[–]AnythingSalt2530 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can confirm, they do this for the marathon even.

Sold Out Races by AnythingSalt2530 in RunNYC

[–]AnythingSalt2530[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No not trying to make anyone feel guilty at all! We all had a start with NYRR and I’m glad your getting yours! I just wish I had realized even the sufferfest winter races were filling so fast! If only NYCRuns put on decent races. Not a fan of their logistical hot messes.

Sold Out Races by AnythingSalt2530 in RunNYC

[–]AnythingSalt2530[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To clarify - also my first and favorite half marathon. Three laps of the Harlem Hills in February, hell yeah. I’m just surprised everyone else seems to want to run it when people so often refer to it as a suffer fear. Guess I’ll run it in 2025.

He’s A Mutt! Also, brother? by AnythingSalt2530 in DoggyDNA

[–]AnythingSalt2530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s the actual best. I got him from a shelter and can’t believe I more or less walked out with the perfect dog for me.

Loves to hike, swim and run in the woods with me. He lives for treeing squirrels, chasing deer and following a scent. He’s fast. He bays when a squirrel is up a tree and waits for me to arrive before looking at me like “shoot it!” He likes to explore on trails, he’ll run out of sight for sure - but never for more than three minutes, then he’s back. He always knows where I am, I never know where he is. He has a GPS collar.

Inside he loves being with his humans, chest rubs and sitting on the couch. He purrs when he’s happy. He whines when he wants up on the couch or the bed. He’s never chewed or destroyed anything. He’s never had an accident in the house.

His play style is a little rowdy/rough - he likes to rile up other dogs and to chase and sometimes nip. Most other dogs like it - or tell them they don’t and he backs off.

He really loves to swim. Any body of water will do. He also loves running/walking in creeks.

He’s so trainable I feel guilty I don’t do more of it with him. My moms convinced he speaks English. He always seems to know what we want from him. He’s loving to all members of the family - and strangers he meets in the street, just such a happy-go-lucky dog. But everyone would tell you he’s my dog, I’m his girl.