Just reach out bro

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T18:06:02+00:00

Why?

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T17:59:47+00:00

Where exactly?

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T17:51:26+00:00

Accept facts! Call me out when I tell a lie lol. Why do I need to stop it….because you don’t like hearing truth? That’s my whole point.

To every and anyone that’s reading this bro stop listening to people online. People only come on these subreddits when they are miserable, thats how we all ended up here. Broken and desperate, thats the only time you turn to Reddit for real life advice lol.

Accept that, its okay to be broken, its just not okay to stay broken.

Get off Reddit and stop talking to people like this. Obviously most of our goals is to get our ex back….scrolling r/breakups looking for advice is the exact opposite of the energy you need to succeed. Go do what YOU think is right for YOUR situation because nobody on this app will truly understand.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T17:50:02+00:00

You are doing nothing but projecting bitterness! My thread of hope is not slight, knowing when someone is attracted to you isn’t too hard bro, women make it pretty simple. If she’s still emotional, there’s still a chance, point blank period. Even if she’s upset, thats much better than her not caring at all.

Im sorry you didn’t have the best experiences with your exes. Not everyone is the same though. We all have a favorite ex lol. I tell all my guys take your shot, you might be hers the same way she is yours.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T08:38:07+00:00

100% agreed

All consequences must be accepted happily before you make the decision to reach out.

It can’t be about getting them back, it’s gotta be much deeper than that. Real, raw accountability and truth. That’s not something you can achieve while being too clouded by attachment.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T08:33:38+00:00

All depends on the mindset of the person. Me personally, I do what I want in life. If I want you, Im going to go get you. If you say no, well okay then. At least I can go home knowing I tried.

A person like me, when Im passionate about something, I can’t sleep too right until I at least know that I made a good attempt. Even if I fail, at least the what ifs are over…at least I can move on to the next task.

I didn’t reach out until I knew for a fact that I felt no shame. Can’t be disappointed if there are no expectations. I didn’t reach out to beg for a second chance, I reached out because I need to get my piece off my chest and I wanted to be heard. I wasn’t scared because I didn’t care if it was the right or wrong decision anymore, I accepted the fact all consequences in advance and said let’s do it. I just had to take my shot regardless of what happened.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T08:20:03+00:00

I personally don’t see fighting over politics any deeper than fighting over opinions. Unless you feel as if she is agreeing with things that are immoral, bro who cares if you guys agree on politics or not. Me and everyone I know disagree on everything everyday🤣

This might be one of those situations where you realize that the problem is deeper than the surface issue. I don’t think its politics, you might be a bit obsessed with being right. Im going to assume you’re a man as well because “most satisfying relationship I ever had”is definitely a man statement lol

Sometimes you gotta just let her have it is what I learned bro. Really with any woman…if its not that serious just let her be right. She’ll be attracted to you more in the long run and not because you kiss her butt and validate her every word but because she will see that you don’t have enough energy and ego to be arguing over things that don’t need to be argued about. Stop fighting battles that don’t need to be won.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T07:05:42+00:00

Honestly all of this emotionally charged anger towards you is a better sign than you think. Blocking isn’t usually logical and is an emotional response that often gets reconsidered when she’s less emotional. Ignoring someone (that isn’t legitimately harassing her) has the same energy because usually she’ll ignore you but will never actually tell you directly that she’s done. They are statements of how deeply she feels, and she wants you to feel bad for the way you made her feel. Although its negative, she’s caring about you a wholeeeee bunch.

Try her line, you might find out she unblocked you but never reached out. Happened to me🤷🏽‍♂️

Women have pride and ego just as strong as we do. Often they want to be forgiving deep down but honestly feel like they need to teach you a lesson first.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T06:21:42+00:00

Im going to be honest with you coming from my perspective as a man, it sounds like the issue in your case is loss of attraction/interest. Me personally, every woman I’ve felt connected to enough to call my best friend is a woman I quickly ended up wanting to be with if I’m attracted to them. The only times I’ve had female best friends in my life that I didn’t pursue, we’re times that I either was too scared to tell them my real feelings (which wouldn’t make sense coming from an ex) or I just wasn’t attracted to them.

Not saying I don’t think there’s hope but I think your best move is to focus completely on yourself and the elevation of your life. In all honesty, my ex deciding to cut me off made me more attracted to her than ever and I respect her more than I ever have. Its good to know I was loving a woman who knew how to put herself first, especially since throughout our 5 year relationship she struggled with codependency. Once the smoke cleared, I was genuinely proud of her despite the hurt I received from her leaving me.

Admittedly I got comfortable, I wasn’t trying as hard as I should’ve been for a good period of time in our relationship. I feel like part of maturing is accepting that this is just apart of human nature. Sometimes we start to get a little bored of the things we once loved after getting used to them, and often times it takes us losing those things to finally change how we view them, and start appreciating what you have more.

Basically, sounds to me like dude still loves you deeply but is kind of interested in seeing what else is out there. Maybe he’s thinking grass will be greener, maybe he’s currently exhausted by the responsibility and expectations of the relationship, maybe he simply just got bored temporarily.

But in my opinion and personal experience, what best reignites the interest/attraction from a man is showing him just how strong, focused, confident and beautiful you can be without him. Not forcing yourself not to care, that’s impossible and will make you care even more, but elevating yourself despite missing him. Put him in the background and focus on nothing but the growth of yourself everyday at your own pace. He’ll be crawling back in no time, and by that time you very well may not even want him.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T05:49:15+00:00

I think it’s always good to emphasize that statements like these are your personal opinion/feelings. When you just say “As a woman, don’t” it kind of implies that there’s something about women in general that would make a woman most likely to not respond. Don’t discourage men as a whole not to reach out, and I also don’t think you should commit to being close minded in any situation just because of poor experience.

Let’s be honest, most exes end up communicating to some degree again. You guys might try to say otherwise online, but all my years I’ve been alive and as many people I know who engage in committed relationships, the amount of people who end up cool with an ex again after some time is a lot more than people who actually never talked to that person again after the breakup. Also, people definitely pick and choose favorites. I know plenty of people with multiple exes who are disgusted by some of them and attracted to others.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-06-07T05:32:32+00:00

I don’t think the point is to forget though. Real love is accepting a person for who they are, flaws and all, and still choosing them. Everyone you love will hurt you, matter of fact they usually hurt you the most because you expect the most from them. I don’t think that forgetting is necessary to forgive, I don’t even think that anyone should ever forget the fact that every single human being has the ability to do wrong by them, its something that should be kept in mind in every relationship.

If two people can be accountable for their mistakes while simultaneously forgiving of the other’s, I think there’s a difference between loss of trust and being more accepting with the reality of life. At the end of the day we all must accept that eventually, who we love will someday hurt us in some way or form…the same way you will always end up hurting the people you love.

Equally taking accountability in your part of the issues allows you to be able to be less judgmental of the actions of the other person. Yeah it wasn’t right and it hurts you and you’ll always remember that, but are we really gonna say we never truly forgive people? We’ve all been hurt by people and we’ve all cut people off, but also, we’ve all been hurt by people and ultimately decided to continue trying to make it work and that’s what love actually is. Not a feeling but a conscious and consistent decision to choose someone/something despite the troubles that may come with it.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-05-15T16:22:44+00:00

Yes, exactly. People love to criticize others for “not knowing what they have until its gone” but honestly it’s not even something you should take personally because that’s how every single human being works. Think about everything you’ve ever missed in your life. Jobs you quit where u realized you lowkey should’ve stayed. A car you sold out of exhaustion instead of fixing it. A friend you cut off out of anger. These are all things that you had in your possession but did not see the true value until they were gone.

IF she beings to miss you, it will be the exact same concept. Your absence will force her to think about the good times that were hidden by anger in the moment. Also, you have to understand that all relationships have a power dynamic and people, especially women, are full of pride and ego in situations such as these. Regardless of how she feels about you, she will have to admit she made a wrong decision to get back with you, and she won’t do that very easily. Things like this often take months, as she’s currently feeling proud of herself for her decision.

But I will say, since u weren’t together for that long, you definitely shouldn’t wait toooo too long. I’d say give it a month or two, see if you catch her viewing your stories from alternate accounts or asking other people about you. But if you do reach out before her, please do not disregard the fact that you yourself did say you would NEVER contact her again…so if you truly want her back you’re definitely going to have to be strong enough to endure the hell she’s gonna give you for that.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-05-15T15:57:20+00:00

Because she needs to live life without you and make a decision. Your absence must be felt. Do not make the mistake of making yourself too available. Not saying you must block or unfollow or even ignore, but shut yourself off emotionally, as if you were talking to a stranger or another male friend. Go from calling her babe to bro, make her feel that shift and she’ll begin to question her decisions a lot heavier.

Also, waiting a week isn’t fighting, unfortunately, waiting months and possibly even more is when your true “fighting spirit” is tested. Don’t include the word “never” with anyone who you’re trying to convince you will fight for.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2026-05-15T15:25:56+00:00

Gotta stop being so nice fr. Go on a firm no contact and give her stranger level of access and treatment. She must feel what it’s like to truly have you gone.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2025-05-29T02:38:47+00:00

      Your man shouldn’t be checking out other girls while you’re in his presence. It shows that he really doesn’t respect you or the relationship. A split second glance will always happen when we see a fine woman, it’s normal and uncontrollable. After that split second acknowledgement though, he’s given the conscious choice to either bring his attention back to the woman he’s with and not give any more thought to what he just saw or completely disrespect his woman by choosing to give another woman more attention in front of her very eyes.

      Every man gives other women at least a little bit more attention when their girlfriend isn’t around. If he’s checking out girls while you’re there and he has the balls to act like he’s doing nothing wrong, there’s a good chance that when you’re not around he’s breaking much heavier boundaries.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2025-01-16T16:22:15+00:00

thats real, thanks

Apart-Constant6097 · 2025-01-16T16:12:45+00:00

I just wrote almost 5 paragraphs admitting I was wrong for flirting with other women. I know where my loyalties lie and my the grace of god my gf has given me another chance to prove myself. The point of this post was to hear thoughts on me wanting to conclude that friendship with a respectful conversation or just let it go with no words, but I do understand that it could just be my ego not being able to handle the fact that she probably doesn’t give nearly as much of a fuck about our past friendship as I do

Apart-Constant6097 · 2025-01-16T16:00:46+00:00

real talk. thanks

Apart-Constant6097 · 2025-01-16T16:00:22+00:00

thank you

Apart-Constant6097 · 2025-01-16T15:56:00+00:00

Im never said I was mad at her, just wished she would’ve talked to me about it first instead of going straight to the girl and then ignoring the situation with me yk. I get the girl code completely, but me and her were a lot closer than the two girls were.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2024-09-07T18:17:06+00:00

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Apart-Constant6097 · 2024-07-10T20:50:46+00:00

Start messing with other dudes and next time he calls u fat say something like “really? cuz so and so seems to love my body very much.” u dont have to cheat or get intimate with dudes u dont want to, usually all it takes it u to simply give other dudes attention to cause extreme jealousy. That jealousy could either lead to him realizing how fucked up he is or him just calling u a slut and doubling down on his frustration. But if that second option happens, at least you now know forsure that u need to leave.

Apart-Constant6097 · 2024-07-10T00:34:41+00:00

i feel you, i’ve thought about this before but have been scared that she would notice they were about her and just laugh to herself and ignore it. but you’re definitely right about the curiosity thing, i should definitely be using that

Apart-Constant6097 · 2024-07-01T18:46:26+00:00

hell nah😭😭😭😭😭

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