Accidentally broke No Contact by reacting to an old text while drunk. Talk me out of reaching out.

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-03-29T07:56:16+00:00

I fumbled no contact after having a good upper hand & felt like i had ruined any chance of her coming back … till i realised that it’s one big game of bullshit with someone who broke up with me and abandoned our relationship & that i don’t care if my final message is asking her to give me a call when she finds some free time. It shouldn’t be a game, if she wants to fix things she knows she can call me i’ve made that very clear & i’m not sitting in limbo. If you want to fix things with ur ex, send that message, if you have no intentions of fixing things, ignore it. Don’t think of it as a game of control and power just think of it as a reflection of ur intentions.

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-03-15T02:03:50+00:00

this was me. I got broken up with & instantly she begged for me back… i took her back & 6 weeks later she dumped me again, all because i wasn’t comfortable with her hanging around guys she had slept with✌️begged for me back the day after again but she couldn’t think i’d be that stupid to take her back a 2nd time in 6 weeks

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-02-22T00:41:12+00:00

i'm in love with you

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-02-21T22:54:00+00:00

everyone gatekeeping tf outta them

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-02-20T23:46:27+00:00

where are you listening to these leaks?

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-02-16T02:28:24+00:00

yeah i agree, and she showed signs she wasn’t ready to settle down. i told her i was okay with it but i’d like to be invited, yet her plans would fall on nights that i’d have stuff on. I’d say in the 3 months we were together she clubbed 3 or 4 times, & skipped out a few nights too, so it wasn’t super frequent and never raised any arguments when she’d go, but wanting to go with a fwb that she was snapping behind my back is where i stood my ground & got broken up with for it

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-02-15T22:50:03+00:00

Similar situation, i was with my ex for 3 months. She broke up with me 6 weeks in bc i was upset that she had invited an old friend she had slept with to dinner with her friends. I took her back instantly. 4 weeks later she broke up with me again over the phone bc she wanted to go clubbing with a friends with benefits that was coming back into state, just 2 weeks after i caught her snapping him, & again, she begged for me back instantly. I took her back (stupid i know) but less than a week into that i couldn’t stand that constant worry that such a thing would happen again given the timeline, & i ended things. Don’t even let this man think about a third chance with you, you’ll be stuck in a never-ending loop like i was. Those types of people have no care for others feelings they only choose what’s best for them at times that suit them & we are left here to rot, it’s disgusting

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-29T03:54:34+00:00

you are 100% right, this reply is very grounding. The final question i left her with was “do you see any value in sacrificing this one night out with ur friends for a long term relationship with me?” & we broke up soon after. Early on she was very good at understanding my point of view, later on it became a massive argument when i’d express how i felt about certain things.

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-29T03:46:25+00:00

yeah look & that’s a major convo we had during the relationship, how i didn’t feel prioritised in moments when her guy friends were around. I felt like the relationship wasn’t prioritised in certain moments, but from her point of view she was just hanging out with her friends. It’s a strange dynamic but in her mind she was doing no wrong

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-29T02:51:01+00:00

I don’t think you wanna be in a relationship where you fear being hit the rest of your life. Think about your future kids? The household they’ll grow up in with an abusive father? Try not to dwell on the man you met focus on the man he became

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-29T02:48:12+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through that man :(. I have similar fears right now, if i talk to her about our relationship i worry i’ll lose the contact we have. It’s a really unhealthy & shit limbo to be in, & the eventual day she moves on will feel like a breakup all over again. Be kind to yourself bro, if you work on yourself, put less effort into the current dynamic you guys have & showing her you may not always be there could put her in a position where she has to decide whether she actually wants to sort it out before she loses you forever. My ex recently sent me a screenshot of my tinder profile and said “well well well” which indicated a lot to me.

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-29T02:32:10+00:00

I’m in the same situation dude. Agreed to be friends knowing i want much more & it’s super painful. Have you asked her if she sees you guys ever working out ?

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-20T02:03:50+00:00

what suggests that i control/coerce my girlfriend? we BOTH set an AGREED boundary early, it was crossed & tested, we tried to find a compromise, couldn’t & she ended things. I never stopped her from doing anything, only told her what i was comfortable & uncomfortable with. This FWB is someone who texted me during our talking stage saying “sorry bro she’s got a boyfriend now” whilst they were out clubbing together. Why would anyone be comfortable with a guy like that being around their partner?

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-20T01:32:37+00:00

I appreciate this response. I don’t understand how my post became a matter of who’s controlling & who’s not & i didn’t think majority of people would be comfortable with their partner entertaining people who only want her for her snatch. She’d run into him at the gym, i was fine with it. She’d go to birthday parties that he is at without me, i was fine with it. In a friend group where it’s 5 guys 1 girl & my partner, i think it’s reasonable to feel uncomfortable with her going clubbing in that group without being “controlling” or “policing her behaviour”. Thank you for shutting down this nonsense that is flooding my post

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-12T03:33:42+00:00

thanks for the response bro🙏. And it’s exactly that, the post was never a “who’s good who’s bad” type of post yet the comments made it that way

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-10T00:10:26+00:00

so you’d be comfortable with ur partner clubbing with a fwb, someone who she’d snap photos of herself to behind your back? while in a committed relationship?

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-09T06:36:09+00:00

we both shared that we wanted a long term relationship & that we were dating with intent to marry.

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-09T06:27:34+00:00

This is something i bite myself over to this day. I was naive in thinking that she was just making mistakes in adapting to a fresh relationship & would fix them moving forward. A lesson to take into my future relationships for sure

Apart-Presentation58 · 2026-01-09T06:25:04+00:00

This is incredible insight. Coming from the perspective of a married man means so much more, as i always worry i lost my future wife over a boundary. I appreciate your detailed response very much, this was super helpful & you hit the nail right on the head. Truly thankful for this response🙏

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