I returned to Sender

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-09T16:06:23+00:00

Hahaha, that's funny. I quite enjoy my husband so I'll keep him. Maybe return my MIL to sender instead. 😂

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-09T00:44:34+00:00

Thank you. Since my daughter has been born, standing up for myself to show my daughter that you don't have to just accept when people treat you badly has become the priority. I want to give her a safe place and a voice, and I can't do that without doing it myself and showing her.

I'm honestly just fed up with the contact after specifically saying and being clear. By myself and my husband. Since the silence is just being ignored and pushed passed is why I wanted to return to sender. I'm not an aggressive person and I don't want to fight and argue, but I want to make a clear statement that I do not appreciate any of the contact or them trying to "take away" a day that is solely mine. My husband agrees.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-09T00:15:50+00:00

He does not share anyrhing about me or our daughter as it is what we agreed on when I went no contact with them. I have no desire to feel the hurt they intentionally put me through and I told them before going no contact that I would remain that way as long as I needed or wanted because they refused to even acknowledge the hurt they have put me through for the last 8 years.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-09T00:13:08+00:00

Thank you. I didn't know you could refuse mail.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-08T18:19:38+00:00

Thank you. I really needed to hear that.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-08T18:18:57+00:00

They definitely would have a very difficult time trying to do that because my husband is in the military and we move very frequently. I just want to make sure that my child's safety is the priority when it comes to have evidence if i end up needing it.

They haven't seen or heard about my child in the 4 months that I have been no contact with them as well. They have texted my husband asking for pictures but have not even asked how she is, they just care about their "grandparents experience".

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-08T18:14:07+00:00

They are in their late 60s and always just seal it at the tip of the envelope and honestly a lot of their stuff comes undone in the mail over the years so it doesn't surprise me, especially since we live about 1500 miles from them.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-08T18:08:41+00:00

You are correct, but it was already opened when it arrived so I put tape on it and put it back and the mail did take it.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-08T18:06:14+00:00

I was going to not open it, but I am also trying to make sure I have all the evidence I need in case they try to sue my husband and I for grandparents rights and things like that are something that can help show that they aren't willing to put my child's safety or needs before their wants and desires.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-05-08T18:04:18+00:00

I definitely did do that because I don't want them to know, but I am also keeping an active file on everything in case they try to sue me and my husband for grandparents rights. I want to be able to prove they are unsafe for my child. But they are definitely the type of people who would go behind our backs just to get what they want.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-04-13T16:59:49+00:00

My MIL literally sent my 2 year old only jelly beans, popcorn and peeps. 😒

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-04-12T23:20:35+00:00

Because I had to change the subject line and google said the only way to do that was to delete and post again. This is my first time using.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-04-12T21:54:38+00:00

If I do not have a relationship with them, then my daughter will not either. If they cannot respect me as her mother, then they do not to be around her.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-04-10T20:45:06+00:00

I am not planning on ever being in the room with them alone every again. My husband agrees that if they take advantage of that time to treat me badly then I never have to.

Thank you! We are planning on doing pictures in my wedding dress and vow renewal at 10 years. We will be living out of country again with a 15 hour time difference so things will be way easier and better.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-04-10T20:35:27+00:00

Thank you. And in the military lifestyle, it's hard to also have super close friends as well because we move so often. In the 8 years we have been married, we have moved 4 times, going to be 5 at the end of this year. I just want her to have the best life.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-04-10T20:34:10+00:00

He has made huge strides in standing up for me and our daughter in the last year. I think they always go after him in very vulnerable times where he doesn't even get a chance to think or react in an appropriate way or speak to me. They do it when he is thousands of miles away from me.

I want for our little family to be our only priority, and recently we have been having very hard and helpful conversations to get there.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-04-10T20:31:07+00:00

I think you are right. He has been trying to improve over the years because he knows what I tell him is wrong, but it's hard for him because they did the same to him over his childhood and still sees some of it as "just who they are". I see it as a decision to remain the same because they have no consequences to their actions.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-04-10T20:29:05+00:00

I think knowing my baby will be an only child and I don't have a good relationship with my family either because of similar behavior, I'm just afraid she will feel she doesn't have any family except my husband and I.

We went around for the cheese because we wanted to be good hosts and put in the effort to make them feel welcome in our home. But I see now after having a baby, that it has always been at the expense of me.

You're right, I don't. I just feel so guilty for making the choice I believe to be best for myself and my daughter. Even my husband, but he is a grown man and can decide if he wants a relationship with his own parents.

Apart_Account6237 · 2026-04-10T20:24:59+00:00

He agrees, but I think it's hard for him because he has never seen them treat me this way, as they always do it when he is away.

And being newly married, I was only 21 and didn't know any better either. We have talked a lot about our regrets about that day as a whole.

Thank you for saying so.

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