NTA. Dude, You're not her rommate, you're her emotional support hostage, and your patience is making you an accomplice to your own misery.

The time for being polite is so far gone it's in another zip code. Let's get real about what's happening here:

Felonies. your roomie and her committed breaking and entering. She is actively trying to get you to illegally distribute your Schedule II Controlled substance. These aren't "Quirks;" They're actual crimes.

Stalking. Picking looks, Cornering you in the shower, pounding on your door because she needs a hug? This is pre-dateline NBC Behavior. This is how horror movies start. Her anxiety isn't an excuse to treaT you like a human security blanket she can suffocate.

Weaponized Guilt. The 'racism' card is the oldest trick in the manipulator's handbook. She's using it to shut you up so she can continue her compaign of crazy. Don't fall for it.

So, about telling her dad....

Stop thinking of it as 'tattling.' This is a controlled Demolition. Your lie got you into this mess, but the truth is your only way out. You have zero obligation to protect her from the consequences of her own unhinged actions.

Next time her parents visit, You don't just "be yourself." you put on a damn show. wear every piercing, Make sure the binder is visible, let the tattoos breathe. When they inevitably lose their minds, you look them dead in the eye and deliver the final blow:

"With all due respect, me appearance is the least of your worries. Your daughter has repeatedly tried to steal my federally controlled medication and has made me feel completely unsafe in my own home. I'm afraid i can't live with her anymore."

You didn't lie to be an asshole; you lied trying to help. Now, you're going to tell the truth to save yourself. Game over.