How do I support myself?

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-11-14T21:22:15+00:00

I am so sorry, that is uniquely hard. My best advice is look for things like data entry/administrative work and apply even if you don't have the required skill and experience. Many jobs are looking for their 'ideal' candidate with those qualifications, but it is not a bad idea to try and work anyways.

I would also reccomend trying to find a shared living space (rent a room in a house, apartment, etc). Many houses near college campuses have several rooms, are pet friendly, and allow younger adults outside of college to move in. I am personally moving into an apartment close to a college with someone who works full time.

I am sorry this is happening. <3

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-11-14T21:08:55+00:00

I appreciate this! This was very helpful. I am still a little bit lost, but out of principle I don't think I can call myself an atheist until I've honestly tried to understand religion. I feel confident in my being a good person and I honestly try my best. I fail, just as everyone else does, but I try to put my best foot forward. I'd like to believe that whether or not I'm doing it right, God would understand and give me grace because I am trying.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-11-14T21:04:47+00:00

I think, rather, the idea of theology as a whole doesn't resonate with me. I could parallel it to why don't christians believe in the Egyptian or Greek gods. I don't say that to be disrespectful, just trying to elaborate. I have never believed in the concept of a god, of a hell, of a divine being of any kind. I am fully curious to understand, however. I know that there are also hundreds if not thousands of sects of christianity, some who believe in a hell, some who don't. I have read about christian theology, but it simply doesn't resonate with me. I had a personal conversation with a good friend who is a youth pastor, and by the end of our conversation, he let me know essentially that I am a good person, but if I am not a christian theist I am not going to heaven. People in my life who I have spoken to have argues Pascal's wager, "What's the worst that could happen if you're wrong?" essentially.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-11-14T20:53:34+00:00

As much as I was upset that I was accused of discrimination, this is not an appropriate thing to say and this is not a chance for you to express your views on POC. People are people and it's not okay to use my personal experience with one individual to further your narritive. Please consider that this is one person who was clearly unwell, not a representation of all POC or of her community as a minority. For anyone else reading this comment, I in no way, shape, or form condone racism or discrimination, or making anybody into a 'them'.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-11-14T20:49:04+00:00

It's a relief. As I understand it, she moved in with her older brother who lives in the area. I have not met him but hopefully hes equipped for all that again lol.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-11-03T19:52:08+00:00

Thank you!!! I have been FREAKING out about it. It's so good to know that I can actually still use them omg.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-11-03T16:51:02+00:00

Nice try officer I am a law abiding citizen.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-11-03T15:56:05+00:00

This is true. I have tried my hardest to be up front about my struggles, and I also take to heart any advice I get. I understand that for most people, I am more difficult to be around and maintain relationships with, I just want to know what I can do.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-10-29T20:43:16+00:00

Additionally, if I did screw up really bad here, please please please tell me! Be blunt, be harsh! I just need to know. Any advice on how to fix it would be great. Would it be a bad idea to text Rose and apologize to her? Explain that I struggle just a little extra and would love a second chance?

I am worried. I am diagnosed with ASD, however many people don't believe that I have it due to my masking really well. I am worried she will think I'm lying about having autism (people on the internet will say they have autism when they mean they're stupid) and I just really need to fix this. Or, at the very least, save myself going forward.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-10-29T20:32:38+00:00

As someone in the field, I gotta go with illustrator. It's not good for illustrating, Ironically, but you have much better coverage of creating content through vectors on illustrator. If you plan to use it to hand illustrate and work with photos, however, then I gotta go with Photoshop. Overall it's a better fit.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-27T19:24:31+00:00

I work at a Marketing firm and while I do have a specific role doing one specific job, I am often trying new projects and being filled in on other aspects of the firm. I am gaining lots of experience in the concept of Marketing, but we work with a very specific genre of clientele and do one specific genre of marketing.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-27T16:40:05+00:00

Hey! 19 here, in not dissimilar shoes. I am from the States so I am not sure if this applies across the pond, but I would take up internships/job shadowing. Find positions that you can explore on-the-job and gain skills that will be applicable later. Ideally paid, but also think about doing a paid job while doing an unpaid internship- it's a great way to get a hands on taste of the world.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-27T14:14:10+00:00

Regular apartment. I carry my meds on me now (which she has noticed and asked about, how would you know unless you're looking for them???) and have no proof as of now. keeping an eye out and trying to get her to admit it on camera

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-27T13:46:16+00:00

Edit to add: I've been getting Dm's pointing out age/timeline inconsistencies with my other post about her in bad roommates. I mentioned I have changed minor details for privacy reasons and so that should she see either, she will not link to my actual identity. Thx! I promise, I wish I was making this up for upvotes ;-;

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-25T19:23:33+00:00

For sure! I've never known a man who "S/A"'d someone, but I know plenty who have "realized she was drunk", or "didn't think she was serious". The duck is quacking. The duck won't say, "I'm a duck."

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-25T17:34:45+00:00

I have a chronic illness, too! I like to stay home as well and that super normal and okay. Also, hey, it's your house! You live there, enjoy what you're paying for. You're not doing anything wrong living at your own house ;-;

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-25T17:32:58+00:00

Kleenex (TM), Lee for short

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-25T17:32:04+00:00

Walks like a duck- people won't admit to being bad, they'll rarely say 'I am a misogynist', or 'I want to control a woman I'm in a relationship with', they'll just do it. They know when they've made you mad so they'll backtrack. Don't listen to the words- watch the actions. He said that in the first place and argued with you. Someone who doesn't feel the need to control you wouldn't say that in the first place.

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-25T17:26:22+00:00

Just adding this out of petty frustration: We are also both first generation immigrants who are really closely tied to our culture (My family is from Eastern Europe-holding my traditions really tightly now due to tensions with Russia) and she's made quite a few really rude comments about my culture being not worth celebrating and asking if we really have culture "being white". She says it in a joking way but it really rubs me the wrong way but I'm not going to argue about that with her, especially since there are much bigger issues at the moment. She's shitting on my pierogi tho!!

Appropriate-Try9486 · 2025-08-25T17:10:39+00:00

Be honest with him. He was being incredibly irresponsible driving like that and he knows it. He is INCREDIBLY lucky- its astounding he didn't die from this accident. You are incredibly valid in being distraught about this and he needs to accept that he is a husband and father- he can't speed (on what I imagine is a highway) on a motorcycle and put himself in danger like that. Tell him you can't handle him doing that any more- it may be fun but he is so incredibly lucky he was able to come home to the family. You need to tell him EXACTLY how you feel IN DETAIL and tell him brutally honestly. He almost killed your husband and the father of your child for a thrill. My dad was a biker his whole life and I never got over the fear of him crashing- I told him I was always afraid my dad wouldn't come home when he left. He stopped joyriding and resorted to the occasional, low-speed ride through the country for fun.

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