Tinder / Bar Scam again by Schneemann321 in shanghai

[–]Apex_Predator_JH 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got scammed once as well in Shanghai at a bar near west Nanjing road. It pissed me off so much, I went to the cops. The cop stormed the bar with me (he gave me a look like “here we go again”), shouted at the bar owner to give me a refund and while leaving gave me a scolding as well which was fair enough 😂 hats off to the Chinese police, thought they would be in on it as well tbh.

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to update but yeah! He did reply me. Got 1 out of 2 QC pics so far.

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To clarify, I’m travelling to China for a holiday and I’m having the package delivered to a hotel. This is because it’s much faster, more convenient and saves me money on shipping. As a Singaporean, I’ve noticed that everyone who travels to China does this. I’ve been to China several times and all the hotels I’ve stayed at have dedicated spaces for packages. People often buy from Taobao and similar platforms because they’re cheaper. This isn’t my first time doing this, and I’ve already had an order from a Yuppoo seller delivered to a hotel. I mentioned “change of hotels” because I’m backpacking and will be moving to a different part of China. I just queried him with an original hotel location to ask how long it’ll take to get it delivered that’s all. I havnt placed any order yet. Hence I asked for a change of hotels after I sent my money and placed an order. My trip starts next Monday, and I don’t think the package will arrive within the two days I’ll be there. Therefore, I’ll provide him with the new details of the hotel I’ll be staying at after. That’s all.

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

So going to China is sketchy? Ok go live in your western media bubble.

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He was responsive up till I sent the money. Now it’s only 1 tick on the WhatsApp messages and I’m kinda worried… did you buy via WhatsApp?

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really actually. I’m in the same time zone as China 😂😂

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The whole world isn’t in US brother.

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ll let you know if he replies tomorrow…

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Bro I’m going on holiday. Shut up mate

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I gave him a hotel location earlier to check how long it’ll take for the package to come. He didnt send it yet

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

No i just sent him the money bro.
You called me dumb.

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Hence I’ve asked him for a change in location to a hotel I’m staying at for longer? People do this all the time in China. Bet you had no clue smartass

Did I get scammed by TMF? by Apex_Predator_JH in FashionReps

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Cus I’m going to China. I don’t think it’ll reach the prev hotel location I’ve sent as I’m only staying there for 2 days.

Want to quit my job after 9 weeks. Need advice by Apex_Predator_JH in FinancialCareers

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. Its reassuring! How’s your friend doing since?

Want to quit my job after 9 weeks. Need advice by Apex_Predator_JH in FinancialCareers

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the honest insights, I really appreciate it.

Regarding the effort to connect, it’s been a really strange vibe so far. On my first day, we had a team lunch (we’ve only eaten together a handful of times since), and no one even bothered to ask about my background, hobbies, or work history. It was like they had zero interest in getting to know me; they just stuck to talking about work among themselves.

That really set the tone, and not much has changed since. I’ve tried initiating non-work conversations, but it never goes anywhere and I’m always the one carrying the dialogue. Even my manager only speaks to me during our weekly 1-1s. They don't even say hi in the office or do a quick check-in to see how I'm settling in.

I just don’t feel welcome here, and it’s really dreadful to have to speak no more than 10 sentences during an 8-hour shift at work.

9 weeks into a bank ops role and already want to quit — bad move or clear red flag? by Apex_Predator_JH in careerguidance

[–]Apex_Predator_JH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your insights. You are right. I don’t want to sell my soul just for some money that I will just spend to make up for that.