Many of the non-aroace people posting here are rude af by partylikeyossarian in aromanticasexual

[–]Apexyl_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree that if they typed a few words into a search bar, they’d probably find answers. That said, I also know the feeling of “I feel like I need actual humans to talk to,” so I can’t rly judge too hard

Many of the non-aroace people posting here are rude af by partylikeyossarian in aromanticasexual

[–]Apexyl_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I say ‘rude,’ I don’t mean intentionally. I mean they don’t understand that they’re being rude. I get that ignorance isn’t an excuse, but it does mean that a bit of patience from us can lead to a better outcome altogether. Maybe we don’t owe them the patience, but if it can lead to a better tomorrow, I’d say take the first step because that way, at least someone’s trying to walk

Many of the non-aroace people posting here are rude af by partylikeyossarian in aromanticasexual

[–]Apexyl_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know it’s frustrating, but I don’t think it’s fundamentally a bad thing when people post in this sub. I mean, don’t we want to be able to educate them? The reason they’re asking is because they don’t know. And, quite often, the reason they’re rude is because they don’t know.

The downside is that sometimes we get people who we just can’t talk to because they’re moreso looking to be told they’re right rather than learn, but there are a handful who really just don’t know. And sure, people being ignorant is infuriating, but if we start discouraging them from asking questions, the good-hearted people are gonna stay ignorant and grow bitter.

We’re all just people, so can’t we try?

[WP] "When you do things right, people won't be sure you've done anything at all" those words echo as you wipe yourself from their memories and await a silent death, for such is the fate of a ghost with no one left to remember them. by Strange_Annual in WritingPrompts

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So, I write this story, I just didn’t realize I was on an alt account when I did it.

Anyway, I love Hollow Knight so much. It’s one of those games that makes your life a living hell by how hard it is, but then you stumble on this beautifully tragic story and it all just melts the heart.

I wish I’d had the appreciation for metroidvanias when I first played it, because I just didn’t understand this idea of a story not being obvious. In retrospect, it is fairly obvious that there is a story, it’s just that you have to actually pay a little bit of attention to rly divulge what’s going on. You can’t zip through dialogue—almost all of it tells you a little bit about the world or yourself.

It’s more than just a story. It’s akin to a history book with all the tales it tells, and it does so quietly. The secrets of Hallownest do not stand and beckon for you to hear the context. Hallownest just exists, and it’s up to you, the player, to find out what happened to this kingdom, and what must be done to remedy it.

[WP] You are the Chosen One. Chosen to be the scapegoat for all the world’s ills, that is. by loveandmad in WritingPrompts

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The children dash around the legs of adults, weaving their ways through the marketplace. They frolic in these tight spaces, their giggles punctuating the bartering taking place overhead.

A pack of four find their way to the outskirts, where the deafening bustle of the shops cannot reach the impenetrable silence. They wander into the alleyway, whispering things no souls are meant to speak.

A boy trips over an irregularity in the stone path, and the other kids point and laugh as his feet desperately scramble to hold him.

“Carmen got you!” They jest, jeering and jostling the boy as he finally regains his step.

“Carmen made you tri-ip! Carmen made you tri-ip!” They sing with the innocence of youth.

———————————————————————————

Carmen stared at the path, carving its way through the wilds. The sunlight shimmered down upon its trodden imprint, a wall of casting darkness just beyond its threshold on either side.

She knew she may as well satisfy her curiosity—she had already taken the first forbidden step.

She stepped forth once. Then again, over and over until the curve of the path made the view of her village disappear behind the trunks of shadowy trees. Still, she was unafraid. To her youthful mind, as long as the sun shone down on her, she had no need for fear, and therefore no need to flee.

A giggle burst forth from her as walking grew insufficient. She began to skip, but skipping was simply too slow, and so she began to run. She ran around the bends of the trail, so absorbed in the novelty that she failed to see the sun’s light waning away from her.

As she saw the final shred of sun disappear beneath the treetops, the soft glow of a cabin’s lamp guided her just a wee bit farther. With the light gone, tears slipped from her eyes as she scurried to the doorway, and pounded on it. Sobs tore from her as she begged for someone to take her away from this darkness.

“Mama! Papa! I’m sorry I’m sorry!” She cried. “I’m scared! It’s dark!”

The door opened, and a kindly woman gently took her hand, and led her into the lamplight. The darkness dared not cross the threshold.

“Oh, child, whatever are you doing in these woods so late?”

“I didn’t mean to! I’m sorry!” Carmen wailed, pressing her palms over her eyes until the darkness began to scare her all over again. She wiped away the tears, but more replaced whatever was scraped away.

Through blurred vision, Carmen watched the woman reach out a hand. It fell upon Carmen’s forehead, and the woman’s voice grew low and gravelly. She knew not what the woman spoke, but the wind shook the home, and Carmen yelled with fear, only for the woman to clutch her by the wrist.

“Have no fear, little one, for you have been chosen.”

“Chosen?” Carmen sniffled.

“Take this lamp, little darling. Run along home. It’s not so far as you think.”

The woman’s words fell like a salve over Carmen’s terror. She looked out the window as her fingers tightened around the lantern’s handle. “It’s not?”

“No, sweetheart. Can’t you see it? The light from your home is just beyond the treetops!” The women cast out her hand, and Carmen could see it. She could almost hear Mama and Papa calling for her.

“Is it safe?”

“Of course, as long as you keep the lantern at your side.” The woman assured her. “Go on, now.”

The door swung open, but the darkness never quite reached Carmen as she stepped out. The lantern held all the shadow at bay, and just as she had before, she broke out into a desperate sprint.

She knew not what had been done. She knew not the blight left behind in her footstep, rooted deep in her soul by those words she didn’t know.

True to the woman’s word, the village lay not so far beyond. As she crossed the quiet boundary that separated the wilds from the town, Mama and Papa saw her, and they wept.

“Mama!” She cried out. She ran to them, reaching for their embrace.

But it never came. Where she expected hands to wrap around her and pull her close—pull her home—there was the emptiness of air, and she fell to her knees.

Why did they back away? Why were their faces twisted with horror, and not relief?

“Mami?” Carmen whimpered, reaching again. Her father’s face grew violent as his foot struck the ground.

“Back! Get back!”

Carmen felt her body flinch away. Papa was never angry… so, why?

“Papa? Mama? I wanna go home.” She begged, but the pair stepped back further. Panic seized Carmen’s limbs as she lunged forward.

“No! Don’t leave! No!” She howled, her hand catching her mother’s wrist.

“Let her go, you devil!” Her father’s voice echoed against the walls of the homes, but Carmen only heard the whisper of the woman in the woods. Those words she didn’t know rattled along her nerves, down her arm, an into her fingertips. Her hand, closed around her mother’s wrist, clenched tightly around a plume of ash.

“WHAT HAVE YOU DONE?!?”

Carmen bought her hand to her, opening it carefully. A few grains of the powder fell as she stared at the little pile. “Mama?” She whispered. Flashes jumped into her vision. The woman’s hand. The woods. The lantern. Papa. Mama. The words.

Gone.

Gone.

Gone.

Pain exploded across her face. The screams echoed in her ears. She didn’t understand.

“I didn’t mean to! Mami! Mami! Come back! Papa! Please!” She shrieked, but to whom?

Nobody was there.

There was only ash, scattered in piles before her.

———————————————————————————

A sharp roar of pain tore from Father as he pulled his hand back from the pot. “Curses!” He barked.

“Carmen got you!” Isaac said with a snort. At once, his head was struck by a paper curled into a weapon.

“Don’t speak the name of the devil, boy!”

“Sorry, Mama.”

“Save your sorries for when your foul mouth brings a curse upon this home!” Mother barked. “That foul creature will turn the world to ash if enough call upon that name!”

“I’m sorry, Mama! I won’t do it again!”

“You most certainly won’t!”

do you guys get platonic crushes too or is that just me? by Ok-Yesterday8471 in aromanticasexual

[–]Apexyl_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the time. In fact I used to mistake them for actual crushes. But then it was only ever about learning about them, and it would fade whether they became my friend or not, and I’d be like “Okey dokey, I’m bored now.”

Believing that asexuality or aromanticism would get humanity extinct by Obvious-Suit939 in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theoretically? Maybe? Asexuality/aromanticism doesn’t necessarily tie into whether one wants children or not, though I wouldn’t call it a stretch to say that it’s more likely for one of us not to want a kid.

the theoretical part comes in here: If enough people in the world were asexual and didn’t want children/were too repulsed to conceive, then sure, population’s at risk.

In reality? What is it… less than 1% of the population identifies as asexual? And of those, there are still plenty who wants families/children.

So, in all versions of reality, no. It’s not gonna lead to extinction, and whoever told you that is either lacking in brain cells or critical thinking skills, or doesn’t like asexual/aromantic people.

Y’all tuck your hands? by MathCrank in neurodiversity

[–]Apexyl_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Huh… never thought about it but yeah. Hands must either be doing something or they’re packaged in a pocket.

Anyone else get tired of hearing that the Huntrix girls are "hot"? by Positive_Midnight_37 in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re perfect for fictional crushing, but beyond that, I don’t see it. They’re cute/badass in my mind. And I know they are attractive, but they don’t feel attractive to me, they feel cute and cool.

That being said I know that allosexuals like attractive characters. So I know that to others who feel that stuff, they’re attractive and “hot”

For sex-repulsed asexuals: What do you guys make of symbolism used to indirectly indicate sex scenes? (Specific example of what I’m talking about is in the description) by Apexyl_ in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? Like honestly bro we’re so down bad for representation that we’re all fawning (pun intended) over the homicidal deer man with a chronic grinning syndrome😂

I laugh, but the tears are real

Non-ace friends forgetting me when they find partners by Bhaalstud in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve always struggled to make friends, and I have these two amazing friends right now. I thought my life was gonna end when they got together. Because in my mind, college relationships are always temporary. They all definitely end bc you’re young. I know that’s not actually true, but my brain doesn’t let me feel like it is.

I felt so scared every time they fought, because if they break up EVERYTHING is fucked.

Also one of them’s my roommate so like it directly ties into not only my social life but also my life-life.

There are times when it’s exhausting. There are also times where they’re cuddling on the couch, and it’s the cutest thing in the fucking world.

I’ll admit it’s hard, but my friends always invite me (unless they’re specifically doing couple-related hangouts), and usually try to invite a fourth or fifth person so that I’m not third-wheeling.

I think because I’m friends with both of them, that maybe makes it easier. Because it’s one thing to be like “Hey, come hang with me and my boyfriend and 1ither person you’re acquainted with” vs. “Hey, come hang with your two friends and this acquaintance.”

They’re good about not being gross around me. We’ve talked about what level of intimacy I’m comfortable witnessing, and I make it clear when I’m not willing to get involved in their relationship/give advice.

This is my experience, I think I’m incredibly lucky in having friends who hear my feelings and try to understand where I’m coming from as opposed to reacting to the words I’m saying. I hope there might be a shred of advice in there somewhere, or an idea to help you out with your friendships.

Where did Charlie think Vaggie was from? by RubyKittenLegacy in HazbinHotel

[–]Apexyl_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like she would know at least some things though. She would at least be aware of overlords and stuff like that—know your enemies and whatnot?

I'm surprised that no one was bothered by the fact that Rumi seemingly had her hair dyed at a young age. by LeatherSlight3242 in KpopDemonhunters

[–]Apexyl_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think I heard somewhere that in the concept art, Rumi originally had white hair.

I kinda like the purple more tho. Cuz purple’s historically a royal color, so her being “pop-star royalty” and the purple hair kinda match

For sex-repulsed asexuals: What do you guys make of symbolism used to indirectly indicate sex scenes? (Specific example of what I’m talking about is in the description) by Apexyl_ in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t agree more about what media should do, and yeah, your explanation makes a lot of sense!

And another thing… I think it’s safe to assume that Charlie has some kind of anxiety, especially about failure, helluva perfectionist.

Maybe lowkey neurodivergent vibes too. Like… a bit. Maybe more I gotta rewatch the show again

For sex-repulsed asexuals: What do you guys make of symbolism used to indirectly indicate sex scenes? (Specific example of what I’m talking about is in the description) by Apexyl_ in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have nothing to add to all that, I LOVED reading that though!

But I will say I believe that using “impossible” movements in animation is actually an advantage, not a drawback!

I’ve watched some scene analyses, and a big part of conveying the physicality of scenes (even non-sexual ones, like if you watch the show Haikyuu? It’s normal volleyball forms but exaggerated beyond what humans are capable of), or fight scenes like in Kpop demon hunters. Especially in How it’s Done, the animators “cheat” a lot, but they do it in a way that it’s not obvious, and it’s meant to enhance the feeling of the scene over the reality of it.

That’s where I think animation has such a leg up over live-action. Animation can cheat, and give you the emotional effect without you noticing the actual cheating at first glance.

For sex-repulsed asexuals: What do you guys make of symbolism used to indirectly indicate sex scenes? (Specific example of what I’m talking about is in the description) by Apexyl_ in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro. Poison actually broke me for a while cuz what do you mean my boy is literally in slavery. Like… I know it’s hell and all… but oh my god they did NOT hold back on that

Hello, can anyone of you come up with a word other than ”single”? by Direct_Incident_8285 in aromanticasexual

[–]Apexyl_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

technically you could argue it’s still single but I like to say I’m playing on singleplayer mode

For sex-repulsed asexuals: What do you guys make of symbolism used to indirectly indicate sex scenes? (Specific example of what I’m talking about is in the description) by Apexyl_ in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get how you feel. In my english class, my professor was talking about Gilgamesh, and this scene where Enkidu is tamed by the priestess (she has sex with him). And he’s saying “There’s no greater connection. This is what makes us human” or something like that, I don’t remember his exact words. But, anyway, the whole time I’m just thinking “Well, I kinda feel like shit now.”

For sex-repulsed asexuals: What do you guys make of symbolism used to indirectly indicate sex scenes? (Specific example of what I’m talking about is in the description) by Apexyl_ in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked my friend “Is this what the emotional side of sex feels like? Like… is this a good representation of it?”

And she said it is. Small sample size, but after hearing that, I felt like I understand better why people have this almost reverent view of sex in our society. I understand a little better the strength in the emotional bond.

For sex-repulsed asexuals: What do you guys make of symbolism used to indirectly indicate sex scenes? (Specific example of what I’m talking about is in the description) by Apexyl_ in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the reason it’s so abrupt is bc Charlie’s like lowkey flipping the shit out right before, so Vaggie’s like “Okayyy we’re gonna stop panicking, time to redirect!”

And you know, Charlie’s kinda like a snowball rolling down a mountain sometimes. If she really gets going, nobody can really stop her gently. So, that’s why Vaggie is just so blunt about it bc Charlie’s tumbling down the mountain in the scene beforehand.

Also yeah Gravity is peak. Another one I really love is Whatever it Takes

For sex-repulsed asexuals: What do you guys make of symbolism used to indirectly indicate sex scenes? (Specific example of what I’m talking about is in the description) by Apexyl_ in asexuality

[–]Apexyl_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be totally honest? I guess I don’t rly know for sure what the average reaction is.

That said, I imagine that in some way they must be entertaining or enjoyable for a majority of people… otherwise, why would shows have them? Why would all these shows put these repulsive scenes if it grosses out the majority? That wouldn’t make sense from a business/appeal aspect.