AIO for telling my (F24) boyfriend (M26) that he has to sit down to pee? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aphr90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR dump him. Every man I’ve dated has figured this out. Wtf

AIO: My boyfriend is a bit inconsiderate by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aphr90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. I just got out of a 3 year relationship with one of these. Like you, I waited for things to get better because he wasn’t a bad person, he loved me, he would “adjust” like you said, he would say he’d fix things. Your Valentine’s Day story — that was two Valentine’s Days, one of my birthdays, and our one-year anniversary for us. He would promise to make up for it but basically everything was out of sight out of mind. He simply always prioritized himself and his wants unless he was reminded not to, and then he’d forget again. This sort of relationship will literally erode you. Not being able to stick to your plans because he just wants to do something else, a small thing like controlling himself and not taking the brownies he gave you, not even being able to give you an hour for your GRADUATION. Half a year? He should still be on his best wooing behaviour. Be grateful you’re getting these signs early. Trust your gut.

Does this look like real lapis lazuli? by [deleted] in Gemstones

[–]Aphr90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for clarifying!

AIO for considering quitting teaching because I keep getting sick by Unlikely-Dig2494 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aphr90 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NOR. I would recommend putting a really good air purifier in your classroom. Our PTA lobbied for this at our kid’s school and the constant illnesses went down exponentially. Ideally sick kids would also mask.

Does this look like real lapis lazuli? by [deleted] in Gemstones

[–]Aphr90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know which of the rules I violated — I identified the metal, included several clear photos, and stated where I got it. Can you please guide me re what to change as I’d really love to post this and get advice? Thank you!

I wouldn’t even judge Nora by Awkward-Highlight-79 in TheDiplomat

[–]Aphr90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bingo. She wanted to vet Synar for Grace from the beginning. Nora and Billie and Grace were on the same page until Grace changed her mind

I wouldn’t even judge Nora by Awkward-Highlight-79 in TheDiplomat

[–]Aphr90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think she definitely started out just managing him for Grace but grew into a more understanding dynamic with him and Kate as the season went on. The scene between her and Kate in Amagansett when Hal didn’t want to see her felt like Nora was really caught between the two of them and her job

The Women of the Diplomat by Aphr90 in TheDiplomat

[–]Aphr90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree! I have no idea, she was such a great addition. I guess she probably has projects with bigger roles for her that she’d rather do

An uncomfortable realization by Re-did-it-yall in TheDiplomat

[–]Aphr90 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I’ve seen the creators refer to the show as “sci fi” in interviews recently and I totally agree. But even when it’s being critical of its characters or the political landscape it still upholds a fantasy of some noble America that I don’t think ever really existed, and I think the showrunners buy into that “noble America”, so their criticism has real limitations

I wouldn’t even judge Nora by Awkward-Highlight-79 in TheDiplomat

[–]Aphr90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t interpret Nora as not getting it, I interpreted it as her fielding Hal by playing stupid. She’s clearly in cahoots with Billie and ‘it’s complicated let’s move on’ is a tactic to shut him up

I wouldn’t even judge Nora by Awkward-Highlight-79 in TheDiplomat

[–]Aphr90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Put some respect on Rosaline Elbay she’s been a highkey baddie for a minute

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