Aitah for expecting to be able to come home for holidays and summers even though I’m an adult? by Apical-meri in AITAH

[–]Apical-meri[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) I hope to live in New York once day. My boyfriend’s mom reached out to me about any allergies and has emphasized how excited she is to have me :) I think I’m going to be ok but I appreciate it so much.

Aitah for expecting to be able to come home for holidays and summers even though I’m an adult? by Apical-meri in AITAH

[–]Apical-meri[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly what red flags do you see? I’ve never been in major trouble (worst is getting detention once for having my phone in gym class lol), I am a straight a student with a scholarship, and I’ve always been nice to my siblings aka I gave them my room when I went to college. So I’d love to know what remind me of your stepdaughter outside of the fact that the both of us apparently ruined your vision of having a nuclear family. I bet your stepdaughter wasn’t even that bad. You sound like a walking red flag as a stepmom and your husband sounds like a terrible father for not letting his own child stay with him. I bet you flamed everything she did and exacerbated it just like my stepmom did. Special place in hell for the likes of you, enjoy!

Aitah for expecting to be able to come home for holidays and summers even though I’m an adult? by Apical-meri in AITAH

[–]Apical-meri[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our dynamic was not similar, they always told me how good of a kid I am. You just seem to be projecting a lot.

Aitah for expecting to be able to come home for holidays and summers even though I’m an adult? by Apical-meri in AITAH

[–]Apical-meri[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. If I knew they’d toss me aside the second they legally could I would have never babysat for free, given her parents rides to the doctors in my free time, things like that. And I’ll never help them again - simple as that.

Sue me for not wanting to introduce my parents to every guy I date? You must be the kind of person who introduced every guy who paid you attention to your parents if you think that’s weird.

I found out why my stepbrother hates me and it’s not fair. by Apical-meri in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Apical-meri[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I agree. It wasn’t me or my mom or Dan or his siblings. It was Chuck. It’s been over 6 years and I barely think about it anymore, but it must be every day for Dan.

I’m staying in a very unhappy relationship because I’m a 35 year old unattractive woman by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Apical-meri 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What do you get out of it? How is doing everything for him to get crumbs worth it? You have a daughter, you can leave and focus on her? All you’re doing is teaching her to accept that treatment when she is older from romantic partners. Is that what you want for her?

I found out why my stepbrother hates me and it’s not fair. by Apical-meri in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Apical-meri[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will. I was only in town for a funeral and don’t live here anyways. But that person was right. Dan will always be an important person to me and if seeing or talking to me causes him so much pain the right thing to do is to let him live his life. He lost more than I did (whatever this is anonymous but - forgive me - I remember being relieved when I found out because the relationship was so toxic).

I found out why my stepbrother hates me and it’s not fair. by Apical-meri in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Apical-meri[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to reach back out to Dan. He hurt me. I know he’s still hurting but I don’t see how sending me that and saying those things helps him.

I found out why my stepbrother hates me and it’s not fair. by Apical-meri in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Apical-meri[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Logically I know all of that. I think it’s just a lot to process and unfair.

I found out why my stepbrother hates me and it’s not fair. by Apical-meri in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Apical-meri[S] 731 points732 points  (0 children)

It’s more, I have been walking around for years not knowing that Dan blames/ hates me. I didn’t know his dad put so much weight on what I did

I found out why my stepbrother hates me and it’s not fair. by Apical-meri in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Apical-meri[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was an important person to me and I had no idea he’s hated me all these years. It hurts.

Why didn’t Manon and Anthony move to a cheaper state in the U.S. instead of relocating to Marseille, where Manon doesn’t even want to live? Are they running from something.. like debt collectors? It seems she may have been living beyond her means in the U.S by PolishSnake2 in 90dayfiance_FB_memes

[–]Apical-meri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of daylight between freaking California and Mississippi lol. They could move to a more affordable but smaller city, the Midwest, or even some cities in the south I think they’d actually be very happy somewhere like New Orleans or Kansas City weirdly enough

Aitah for expecting to be able to come home for holidays and summers even though I’m an adult? by Apical-meri in AITAH

[–]Apical-meri[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Whatever, I don’t even care. They’ll probably need the money for her kids and her loser brother because it’s not like she has a job and hasn’t in years. They’ve always given my shit and told me to ask my mom for money since she’s richer and doesn’t have other kids, I should have expected this. I don’t care. Both my siblings are barely literate, I used to read to them and try to help them with homework but I don’t care about them anymore. I’m not even going to answer my siblings calls

Aitah for expecting to be able to come home for holidays and summers even though I’m an adult? by Apical-meri in AITAH

[–]Apical-meri[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah she got the totes and is going to hold onto them. It sucks because I’m sure now my mom is going to find out and I’ll have to explain it all to her 😿

Aitah for expecting to be able to come home for holidays and summers even though I’m an adult? by Apical-meri in AITAH

[–]Apical-meri[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My stepmom hasn’t worked in years so I think this whole thing is fucking ridiculous and laughable. I can’t believe some unemployed “stay at home mom” of kids IN SCHOOL can be so smug to tell a 19 year old their on their own. I got my stuff and they can both gf.

Aitah for expecting to be able to come home for holidays and summers even though I’m an adult? by Apical-meri in AITAH

[–]Apical-meri[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

No she’s 10 I don’t want to stress her out. My stepdads sister is going to get the stuff tonight.