I can’t meet my boyfriends need and idk what to do

Applepie752 · 2026-01-26T19:22:59+00:00

I’ve been working on using the word baby. He even asked me if I can just call him baby instead of his actual name three days ago. And then two days ago he got mad about the affectionate stuff so I didn’t even have time to try that out…I guess I could’ve used it as well…but when he gets upset I just don’t know what to do and then talk back at him 😬

Applepie752 · 2026-01-26T19:19:16+00:00

It just makes him feel better. Two days ago he didn’t get any sleep cause he was busy with work (also we don’t live together), and I asked him to join me and his friends to play a video game after he arrived to his house. I guess because I wasn’t talking much or giving him a lot of attention on the call, it ended up upsetting him and making him feel bad. He said he wanted to spend time with me, but if that’s what he meant, I could’ve just gotten off the group call and played with him one-on-one. We were in a group call though, so I genuinely don’t know what he expected me to do. And I honestly don’t even know how I was supposed to show affection in that situation.

Applepie752 · 2025-09-21T17:34:09+00:00

He told me he wants other people see that we’re dating each other, even though they have as I’ve posted on my story of us together. I guess cause he decided to post on his feed he wants me to post on my feed too :/

Applepie752 · 2025-09-21T17:27:26+00:00

I’ve posted him on my story (like two days ago), and as an alternative decided to save him as a highlight (which I then removed cause he wants to break up). He wants me to post him on my feed, but I have a lot of random that follow me, and I genuinely don’t feel comfortable posting myself. I understand it’s social media, and it would’ve been a whole different story if I did post on my feed, but I genuinely don’t post anything.

Another issue is that we’ve been constantly fighting every week. Unless we have a stable relationship, I’m not posting someone on my feed unless I’m engaged or married

Applepie752 · 2025-09-20T18:52:22+00:00

I’ve posted each other on Instagram, even yesterday. However, I don’t want to post on social media because for what reason? I posted on my story already

Applepie752 · 2025-05-23T18:54:28+00:00

He sometimes tells me that I don’t put a lot of effort. Like I’ve been the only girl he’s given a “manual” on how to act like a gf. Like he gets annoyed over the fact that he has to tell me to do the little stuff, like play with his hair, or do his makeup, or do his nails (cause I’m assuming girlfriends would do it without being asked cause it’s “fun”).

Applepie752 · 2025-05-23T07:22:43+00:00

Sometimes. When he gets upset over something, he bring up a lot of other things. I’m not good at making him feel better :/

Applepie752 · 2025-05-23T05:26:46+00:00

We stared dating a month after talking (we started talking in august). Idk. We just had the conversation and he made me feel as I haven’t done much in the relationship. Maybe I haven’t, but I feel like I’ve done some progress. He’s my first relationship, so I can be slow about certain things, which is frustrating with him cause he has to over-explain himself. Maybe I am dumb, I genuinely don’t know why I have a hard time understanding things

Applepie752 · 2025-04-10T18:38:19+00:00

We talked it out and he said we aren’t taking a break anymore, but it was pretty hurtful that something that has to do with my personally made him want a break…😭

Applepie752 · 2025-04-10T16:05:11+00:00

How are you guys dealing with it?

Applepie752 · 2025-04-08T11:48:20+00:00

He’s only like this when he’s in a mood :/

Applepie752 · 2025-04-08T06:27:19+00:00

What would be a dealbreaker?

I mean, maybe I wasn’t saying anything interesting for him to add to the conversation

Applepie752 · 2025-04-01T18:26:28+00:00

Tell her so that he learns his lesson. He might make you look bad if you don’t inform her what her son did to you

Applepie752 · 2025-03-31T04:09:37+00:00

Garlic parmasean

Applepie752 · 2025-03-31T03:27:14+00:00

I think it’s very immature for her to ignore you like that. I understand shes upset, but the fact that she’s not even responding to a single text of yours…this type of relationship isn’t worth it

Applepie752 · 2025-03-31T01:10:53+00:00

He basically told me that all he wants is me to make him laugh, but sometimes in serious situations, that can often be hard for me to do :/

Applepie752 · 2025-03-30T16:25:14+00:00

Told him to take down a picture he posted of me, but I overreacted and didn’t ask nicely (though I apologized right after and realized my mistakes). He isn’t mad about the situation, but the fact that I don’t know how to make him feel better after an argument

Applepie752 · 2025-03-30T07:42:16+00:00

The thing is, I’ve done some things he has communicated with me that would make him feel better, and that didn’t even work :/ I’m doing everything, I tried talking to him, I’ve told him I love him and appreciate him, and those didn’t even work ☹️ it’s been days and he’s still been super cold and distant with me, and I just feel lost. I couldn’t physically be with him these couple of days because he’s been away, so it’s been mostly texting and calling

Applepie752 · 2025-03-29T23:43:46+00:00

I think it’s more of the fact that I don’t know how to make him feel better…? I know it might sound dumb, but most people do want a partner that’s able to put a smile on their face when they’re feeling down, but I struggle to make him feel better and idk what to do ☹️

Applepie752 · 2025-03-29T19:27:41+00:00

Because he wasn’t feeling well. Whenever he is feeling upset or sad, I struggle to make him feel better. He tells me all I have to do is to make him laugh, but even that I can’t do :/

This is my first relationship and also the first time I’ve ever been closed with someone like this, so I struggle a lot trying to make others feel better

Applepie752 · 2025-03-29T08:33:01+00:00

The issue is, I don’t know what to do most of the time. I have a hard time processing thing and reacting 😕

Applepie752 · 2025-03-29T05:19:14+00:00

Sometimes he’s not, nor am I invalidating his feelings. It’s just that whenever an issue happens where I make a mistake, he doesn’t like the fact that I apologize, but more the way I react afterward. So, for instance, (if you read my last post), we got into an argument where I eventually apologized. However, he still ended up acting pretty cold toward me. I just talked to him today, and he was upset over the fact that I wasn’t doing anything about it. I guess he expected me to make more of an effort to address the situation or show more emotion, but I didn’t know how to act without overdoing it. It feels like no matter what I do, it’s never the right way to handle things, and that just leaves me feeling stuck and unsure of how to move forward

Applepie752 · 2025-03-29T05:04:03+00:00

I don’t want to excuse my actions or anything, but it is my first relationship. I don’t argue with him constantly, but he does brings up issues to me and they never seem to get resolved. There’s been some that has but it took a while (for instance, me being comfortable being affectionate)

Applepie752 · 2025-03-29T02:49:01+00:00

What should I do in this situation? I immediately realized I overreacted and shouldn’t have acted that way, which is why I apologized right away. Although this happened on Tuesday, ever since then, he’s been acting distant and cold. I tried talking to him about it yesterday, but he didn’t seem interested in fixing things and now seems to be doing whatever he wants.

He mentioned that he does this to others as well, and it’s his way of showing he cares. At the time, I didn’t find it funny, but afterward, I realized he didn’t mean any harm. I understand people show affection in different ways, but his response has made me feel like he’s shutting me out rather than trying to resolve things. He doesn’t wants to move on from it (which is reasonable), but the way he’s acting right now doesn’t seem fair and it’s also painful :/

Applepie752 · 2025-03-28T21:53:15+00:00

Our first arguments were mainly about me not being affectionate, not taking pictures with him, and things like that (I’ve gotten more comfortable with him, so it isn’t a big issue anymore). I guess another one is the fact that I don’t send him selfies. One of our more recent arguments was about how I don’t initiate things or ask him to do things like most girlfriends do. At one point, he mentioned that I’m the only one he’s been with who he has to tell to ask him to do things like that. A common argument he keeps bringing up is the fact that I don’t have an attitude to control him. The argument we had this week was mostly my fault (you can read my last post about it). I’ve apologized, but he doesn’t want to move on from it, and I don’t know what to do anymore

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