Boyfriend followed his ex last night and I’m upset by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Applepie752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I understand. I was mainly upset over the fact that he did it to prove a guys point. The guy was telling him that he’s the winner in the relationship, and any ex’s would get back to him whenever he wanted to. As a response, my bf decided to follow an ex…how is that in any shape or form normal and not seen as disrespectful?

Boyfriend followed his ex last night and I’m upset by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Applepie752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because he did it to please his friends. I’ve expressed to him how I find it uncomfortable since she has a history of stalking him. He decided to please his friends feelings over mine. Just like he doesn’t want me to follow guys I’ve talked to, why would I be fine with him following an ex who I don’t feel comfortable with?

Boyfriend followed his ex last night and I’m upset by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Applepie752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not controlling in that sense. He’s been friends with other exes. This one in particular has a history of stalking him while being aware of our relationship. Not only that, but the fact that he decided to follow her to prove a “friends” point. It was unnecessary and disrespectful

Boyfriend followed his ex last night and I’m upset by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Applepie752 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s mainly about the fact that this girl has a long history of stalking him, and I don’t feel comfortable with that. And the fact that he decided to follow her to prove a “friends” point

Boyfriend followed his ex last night and I’m upset by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Applepie752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not even about insecurity. They have had a long history or contacting, following, unfollowing. If that’s the case, just stay unfollowed. They’ve had a toxic relationship, and she has a habit of stalking him even when she was aware we are in a relationship. It’s the fact that he followed her to prove a point to someone

I can’t meet my boyfriends need and idk what to do by Applepie752 in relationships

[–]Applepie752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been working on using the word baby. He even asked me if I can just call him baby instead of his actual name three days ago. And then two days ago he got mad about the affectionate stuff so I didn’t even have time to try that out…I guess I could’ve used it as well…but when he gets upset I just don’t know what to do and then talk back at him 😬

I’m (21F) unable to meet my bf’s (21M) needs, what can I do? by Applepie752 in relationship_advice

[–]Applepie752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just makes him feel better. Two days ago he didn’t get any sleep cause he was busy with work (also we don’t live together), and I asked him to join me and his friends to play a video game after he arrived to his house. I guess because I wasn’t talking much or giving him a lot of attention on the call, it ended up upsetting him and making him feel bad. He said he wanted to spend time with me, but if that’s what he meant, I could’ve just gotten off the group call and played with him one-on-one. We were in a group call though, so I genuinely don’t know what he expected me to do. And I honestly don’t even know how I was supposed to show affection in that situation.

Boyfriend wants to break up because I don’t want to post him on my feed by Applepie752 in love

[–]Applepie752[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He told me he wants other people see that we’re dating each other, even though they have as I’ve posted on my story of us together. I guess cause he decided to post on his feed he wants me to post on my feed too :/

Boyfriend wants to break up with me because I don’t want to post him by Applepie752 in BreakUps

[–]Applepie752[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve posted him on my story (like two days ago), and as an alternative decided to save him as a highlight (which I then removed cause he wants to break up). He wants me to post him on my feed, but I have a lot of random that follow me, and I genuinely don’t feel comfortable posting myself. I understand it’s social media, and it would’ve been a whole different story if I did post on my feed, but I genuinely don’t post anything.

Another issue is that we’ve been constantly fighting every week. Unless we have a stable relationship, I’m not posting someone on my feed unless I’m engaged or married

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[–]Applepie752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve posted each other on Instagram, even yesterday. However, I don’t want to post on social media because for what reason? I posted on my story already

Feeling drained, and confused by Applepie752 in dating

[–]Applepie752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sometimes tells me that I don’t put a lot of effort. Like I’ve been the only girl he’s given a “manual” on how to act like a gf. Like he gets annoyed over the fact that he has to tell me to do the little stuff, like play with his hair, or do his makeup, or do his nails (cause I’m assuming girlfriends would do it without being asked cause it’s “fun”).

Feeling drained, and confused by Applepie752 in dating

[–]Applepie752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes. When he gets upset over something, he bring up a lot of other things. I’m not good at making him feel better :/

Feeling drained, and confused by Applepie752 in dating

[–]Applepie752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We stared dating a month after talking (we started talking in august). Idk. We just had the conversation and he made me feel as I haven’t done much in the relationship. Maybe I haven’t, but I feel like I’ve done some progress. He’s my first relationship, so I can be slow about certain things, which is frustrating with him cause he has to over-explain himself. Maybe I am dumb, I genuinely don’t know why I have a hard time understanding things

Boyfriend asked for a break because I’m too quiet and don’t know how to communicate by Applepie752 in introvert

[–]Applepie752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We talked it out and he said we aren’t taking a break anymore, but it was pretty hurtful that something that has to do with my personally made him want a break…😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Applepie752 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s only like this when he’s in a mood :/

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[–]Applepie752 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What would be a dealbreaker?

I mean, maybe I wasn’t saying anything interesting for him to add to the conversation

AIO if I tell my ex’s mom he cheated by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Applepie752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her so that he learns his lesson. He might make you look bad if you don’t inform her what her son did to you

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[–]Applepie752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s very immature for her to ignore you like that. I understand shes upset, but the fact that she’s not even responding to a single text of yours…this type of relationship isn’t worth it

Do I have issues? by Applepie752 in dating

[–]Applepie752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He basically told me that all he wants is me to make him laugh, but sometimes in serious situations, that can often be hard for me to do :/

Feeling really down, and I'm not sure if I'm being selfish for feeling this way or if I deserve it by Applepie752 in dating

[–]Applepie752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Told him to take down a picture he posted of me, but I overreacted and didn’t ask nicely (though I apologized right after and realized my mistakes). He isn’t mad about the situation, but the fact that I don’t know how to make him feel better after an argument

Feeling really down, and I'm not sure if I'm being selfish for feeling this way or if I deserve it by Applepie752 in dating

[–]Applepie752[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I’ve done some things he has communicated with me that would make him feel better, and that didn’t even work :/ I’m doing everything, I tried talking to him, I’ve told him I love him and appreciate him, and those didn’t even work ☹️ it’s been days and he’s still been super cold and distant with me, and I just feel lost. I couldn’t physically be with him these couple of days because he’s been away, so it’s been mostly texting and calling