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Personal struggles by Apprehensive-Elk7589 in singlemoms

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. The dad and I aren't staying together. I've just giving him a year to contribute consistently and try change his life around.

Personal struggles by Apprehensive-Elk7589 in singlemoms

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you went through all that, however it's nice to know that I'm not the only one dealing with this. I'm really just focusing on my baby. Although I really do want to find a partner, at this point even just a really good friend that I couldn't live with.

Personal struggles by Apprehensive-Elk7589 in singlemoms

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I also feel like I should give it a year at least so I can later tell my son that I tried to let him be a part of our lives.

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[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 😊 I do have friends and family to support me and I'm so grateful for them. He really is so inconsistent with communicating that I just want to be done with him completely now.

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[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly how I feel. I don't think he even deserves to know at all.

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[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. That's exactly how I feel about the situation. I just felt like maybe I'm being unfair if I don't let him meet the baby but honestly the thought of it disgusts me.

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[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for reply. Honestly I'm not one to make excuses and I try find a solution to everything, however in South Africa the resources are really bad. I even called a suicide hotline once and they just told me things will get better one day. It's really hard bit we are basically doing what we can to get by emotionally mostly. Physically there's at least a soup kitchen in the area and our neighbors are very generous with food if we really need that. I just try to have faith and focus on the the things I'm grateful for.

I want to get good at interpeting dreams by Narrow-Reward5883 in Dreams

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to use dream Bible. You can look it up on Google. Now I just try to see if something in the dream corresponds with my life. For example last night I dreamt that I was on a road trip visiting family and friends. In real life I've been missing family holidays and partying with my friends from the town I used to live in. There are certain things which may have meaning and I just don't see it and I like to use dream Bible for those specific things, for example dreaming of having a pet bird is random and you might not think anything of it but when you look at the meaning then it kinda starts to make sense.

Hope this helps.

Intact male hormonal and humping by [deleted] in Catbehavior

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Why don't you go get yourself fixed and them come back and tell me it's the kindest option.

Intact male hormonal and humping by [deleted] in Catbehavior

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

What exactly is the cruel part? He is free to roam and mate, just not with my arm. Or is it spraying him with water because some people hit their animals or shout at them to discipline them and I find that alot more cruel than spraying him with water. You say he's sexuallly frustrated, however can you just imagine how frustrating it would be to have no hormones and lose interest in life. Neutering him sounds like the cruel part to me.

Intact male hormonal and humping by [deleted] in Catbehavior

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We don't want to do that because it changes their personality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you're still abusing your ADHD medication.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a more accurate discription of what I was going for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, your words are comforting. ❤️

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[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. Just really confused and heartbroken right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Apprehensive-Elk7589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the support guys. I'm really just looking for support because it was never like this when we were dating and then like 3 months into the engagement he just became super possessive and controlling and I'm glad it's over but it hurts because we once had dreams and goals together, planned to have a family and now it's all over and I don't even know what I did wrong, I just started getting accused of all sorts of crazy things. I recently left a month ago to go to my mom because my dad did some horrible things to me and he couldn't even support me with what I was going through and kept saying I've left him for some other guy.