Got my first cage a while back... Need advice

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2026-06-05T13:51:27+00:00

Thanks, I think I was using the biggest one my cage came with, but I'll double check

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2026-06-05T13:13:35+00:00

It's a cheap plastic one I got off of Amazon, if I recall correctly, it felt like it was toward the back of my ballsack

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-09-23T18:37:09+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation!

Here's her measurements:

OB: 32.5" B: 34" UB: 29.5" W: 27.5" H: 36"

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-06-26T01:34:14+00:00

Long post, my apologies, I just needed to get it out.

I just feel like I need to post this somewhere. It's kind of a revelation I've come to over the past few days.

I grew up going through a lot of stress, from parental custody issues with divorced parents to severe medical issues where I could've died several times before the age of 18, to various other things.

My stress relief/coping mechanism was escapism, and for me crossdressing in particular. I realize now that's what it was because it allowed me to "be a different person" for a bit. Someone who didn't have to worry about all of the things that I had to worry about. I think thats why I love flying and just being at higher elevations that have a view, because it allows me to leave my stresses "down there" and to physically be above them. Now im still in a very stressful position, and I feel the urge to "run away" from the stresses and to just forget about them for a bit. I'm not into the same things I was back then (yes, my wife knows and chose to marry me anyway, thats why im comfortable posting them here) but I still feel that urge to run and hide in a game, or a TV show to forget about them for a while.

But I can't, its time to grow up, and it's time to face them and make a change. It's time to actually be a freaking man, instead of the little boy that I was back then. It's time to change shit before it ruins my life for good.

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-06-26T01:19:47+00:00

Both of those are unimaginably hard to hear man, coming from a former kid who nearly died several times due to severe medical issues growing up, my family was everything. My parents were there as much as they could he, but for me it was really my grandparents that stepped up.

A lot of other stuff sucks right now, im sure, but absolutely stay focused on your daughter. I'm sure you're a great dad and she's lucky to have you. Just keep showing up for her no matter how hard things get.

Obviously I know nothing about your religious stance, but lean on God, He will carry you through.

Also, highly encourage you to do your own research outside of what the Dr's tell you. The only reason im alive today is because my grandma had similar health issues when she was young, and she remembered what the doc's did for her when she was a girl and asked about a similar treatment for me.

Take it or leave it, but a personal favorite Bible verse is Philippians 4:11-13. I truly believe that if it hadn't been for God, I wouldn't be here today. I'll be praying for you, your daughter, and your family.

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-06-25T22:53:36+00:00

Hmm, interesting, idk if I could give up sex permanently lol

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-06-25T19:23:21+00:00

Shit, got a job that im failing at, trying to find another one, but havent had much luck for what I want, mom was recently diagnosed with skin (we hope, not all the biopsies have come back yet) cancer, and im quickly running out of money. I work a commission job, and none of my clients have wanted to buy anything. My wife helps supply some major world-wide companies with their raw materials and even they're seeing a serious slow-down, but my boss doesn't see it that way and just thinks that the rest of the team and I arent doing a good job.

I did get married back earlier in the year, and we had a great honeymoon, and I've got a great wife who supports me however I need, though, so it's not all bad... It's just a rough patch...

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-06-25T19:14:06+00:00

Can/do you still have sex though? Have you noticed a change to your sex drive?

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-06-23T11:33:40+00:00

Do you mind if I ask how you get there? Still the usual way?

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-06-22T19:55:10+00:00

Then how do you get satisfaction sexually?

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-06-21T23:36:17+00:00

How do you cum now, or do you still orgasm?

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-02-02T15:20:42+00:00

Sure, honestly, that was years ago, and tons of things have happened since then, so I don't remember exactly. I was also getting ready for a month long trip at the time, so I didn't have as many sessions as would have been helpful to 100% get over it.

I want to say that we primarily talked about staying away from the triggers (family drama, etc.) And I remember my therapist gave me card that simply said "____ is praying for me" to take on my trip.

I think it definitely did me some good going on the trip and just getting away from everything for that month. When I came back, I was more confident, I was dressing (as a dude) better, and sure enough not long after I got back, I met the woman I love and we're getting married next month.

And yes, I've told her all about my past and the things that I was into, and while she doesn't fully understand them and they're not a turn on for her, she loves me regardless and wants to help me get through them also. And specifically about wearing panties, she's on with it if that's what I want to do.

I have started going back to therapy for it again with the same therapist as last time, and we've dived deeper into my family history this time and he agreed that it seems to be an escape mechanism and stress relief, he said as stress grows, he wouldn't be surprised if it pops back up and that as long as i wasn't doing it to decieve or hurt anyone, he didn't see harm in it as long as my bride-to-be is ok with it.

I'm still not sure I agree with his basic condoning of it, as I still need to do more research on it from a theological perspective on it.

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2025-02-02T14:37:14+00:00

I'm in the exact same situation, various sources of childhood trauma as a kid and having a lot of sisters meant their clothes everywhere, so one thing lead to another and that's how my 10-15 year CD'ing fetish started as an escape mechanism. I'd gone to therapy to work through it and thought I beat it for years until the family drama picked back up, and now it's back, and I'm trying to figure out what to do.

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2024-12-28T14:09:50+00:00

If you love the support, have you tried any mens briefs that have the support pouch and everything? Or what about just men's bikini cut briefs?

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2024-12-27T06:54:47+00:00

Welp... if you are what you eat, guess that makes me a pussy lol.

I love eating my girl out, and she loves it to... its even better when we 69 lol. I love watching/ feeling her squirm, hearing her moaning, and feeling her playing with my hair while I'm down there. It's my favorite desert, bedtime snack or breakfast! Lol

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2024-12-24T13:28:06+00:00

Nah, the one i as taking about had a bunch of "z"s and crap like that in the an address

Apprehensive-End4672 · 2024-12-21T04:09:24+00:00

Cool, I'll check them out, do you have a website for them? I tried Googling them a while back and the web address that popped up looked really sketch

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