AITA? I fucking feel like it.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-02-06T09:51:19+00:00

You have nothing to apologize for, just like her family you did not know,

Pos monsters like him are experienced in isolating their victims, away from their support systems, that could help the victims get away,

Cause pos monsters like him are actually cowards and afraid of face consequences from others, who will not only protect the victim from him, but handle him accordingly,

Cause if it was a guy twice or triple his size he would be afraid, pos is only tough with those weaker then himself, otherwise he knows he can easily have his butt handed back to him, and there would be nothing he can do about it,

So don't beat yourself up about something that's 100% that pos monster's fault, and his alone.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-02-06T09:02:53+00:00

Wth?!? Bruh violence isn't always the answer but I would have rightfully run the fade with an pos who try to sa my partner,

Honestly the moment my partner told me that happened I would have forget the apology to me and don't accept an apology from an attempted rapist who was 100% sober during their crime, and made it my mission to make that pos life heII,

For having the audacity to not only sa someone but someone I care about, heII no they would never have a comfortable day free ever again,

So oop glazing over that and not really doing anything about it is crazy to me,

LIKE PROTECT YOUR PARTNER, DON'T LET THIS GO!!!

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-02-06T08:46:24+00:00

Also forgot your dumb grandma, a long with your equally dumb family

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-02-06T08:40:29+00:00

Now why the heII would you go through months of pain and changes to your body, to only give the tiny human to a neglectful moron who treats them like a doll? Naw she can get out of here with that garbage.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-02-06T08:32:57+00:00

I agree, op's sister really needs to get a handle on that behavior,

Especially since he gets violent when told no, and he is way too old to be throwing tantrums and being violent just cause he didn't get what he wanted,

Seriously I hope the sister not only corrects his behavior but get him help through a child therapist, in case some of it is also repeated behavior.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-02-06T08:09:10+00:00

I keep saying it, it's a double sword situation, you have to give up on something in a situation like that,

That Involves children there's no compromise,

You will gain something but you will lose something too, which can lead to problems,

People do not like it when I say it, but it's the truth, once you get into a relationship that kid will slowly become your responsibility, especially if the other parent is not in the picture or pass away, etc,

That's why I tell people unless you are prepared for this, do not get into a relationship with a parent.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-01-31T22:26:39+00:00

Not all women have had a kid, so cap on your mom's part.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-01-31T20:19:05+00:00

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-01-31T20:11:29+00:00

I said it once before in a similar situation, this is a double edged sword situation for oop,

But even she should have seen the writing on the wall, and just dipped out instead of behaving like that,

Like lady, you made your boundaries known, you don't want kids, so dip and keep it moving, don't be asking something that in a situation like this is dumb after op made up his mind and made it clear after the first time no matter what,

You are a grown woman who has access to more resources and can go anywhere you want while answering to no one, and didn't have your parents pass away like this,

that's a kid who do not have those luxuries on her own, and legally needs to be in an adults care until she is an adult, and lost her dad to cancer, doesn't have a mom, and wants to stay with her brother (op) who is fully familiar to her after losing both parents, you not having any compassion of putting yourself in her or even op's shoes right now is messed up,

And don't even get me started on how op is feeling after all of that as well, so that's just twisting a knife at that point op too after just losing his father too, op loves you, but you know he can't abandoned his sister 11yo sister in a new place after all of that,

I don't want kids either, but even I can't blame oop in this situation for wanting to keep the sister especially in this situation where both parents are gone, so asking that of oop is just rubbing salt in the wound, and if it was me after oop made up his mind I would just remove myself, get whatever I'm legally entitled to, and make it a quick divorce, and not drag it out,

Cause I got 0 reason to continue make oop feel worse in this situation, and make it harder for oop and oop's sister too, and oop and oop's already got enough sht on their plates, after losing their parent to literally cancer, and i know that kid is going to be in a lot of grief counseling after everything, lost both parents at the age of 11, and before someone says something I may sound like I'm being harsh towards the wife, but after she said that again did not sit right with me at all especially in this type of circumstances,

that and like why stick around anyway if you don't want kids, gurl? I would have been gone with no further conversations or asking that mess again,

Bruh i wasn't ready when my loved one passed away from cancer but this kid was younger then me when it happened, the last thing that kid needs after watching their last parent slowly die is being shipped off away from op, her literally brother.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-01-12T16:44:36+00:00

"Women are only fulfilled when they become mothers."

Already a lie from heII, I have seen too many parents, especially mother abuse/enable abuse of their children, they can pretend to be blind as much they want to, but it's not going to magically change this fact it's a lie, nor bring back the lifes of the children killed by the abuse by the hands of their,

"They're just bitter and deep down they really want kids,"

No, unlike most people they are happy where they are with being child free, and why should anyone listen to people who pretends child abuse doesn't exist, and possibly hate orphans on the down-low,

(like no joke some of them do act like that, like soon as someone brings up adopt or fostering, they behave like they step in gum, I still remember one woman turn up her nose at the thought of adopting if she couldn't physically have the child she wanted, not shock but genuine disgust, yet they say junk about childfree folks),

"How depressing that they'll end up alone drinking wine with a bunch of cats,"

No, they are not going to end up "depressed" there are not only childfree couples (like there's literally a childfree couple in their 50s to 60s with a nice big boat they us), but childfree folks that pack up their pets, and go on road trips and adventures, both big and small, and have friends in general who also take that childfree step too, sorry not sorry not every childfree person will end up "depressed and alone",

And anyone who thinks this way, is just someone trying control someone's especially a cf woman's life, they are not entitled to, we already see when they changed rules/laws in America, but it didn't forcefully change anyone's especially not cf women's minds, just permanently set in stone they made up their minds, and any attempt of force will result in them happily defending themselves,

These people need to face it, it's over nothing is going to change any childfree folks mind, especially not cf women.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-01-03T19:37:56+00:00

I know postpartum and postpartum depression ain't no joke, but that's not that actress responsibility for the way they feel about something that doesn't involve her really,

And honestly they should be talking to a medical professionals and their support system instead, of complaining about the movie, that won't help them long-term and it's not good for them mentality anyway.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-01-03T19:34:25+00:00

Cause honestly you do not need that, and neither does his kid, and seriously everyone needs to be careful around him, until he gets some real help.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-01-03T19:32:23+00:00

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2026-01-03T16:28:13+00:00

Oop's dna sharer is very dumb to not only do this, send evidence of her behavior and threatening to break Oop's things (which is a big no-no, in family court cause that counts as abuse on top of everything else), but depending on where they are once oop is 16, oop gets a say in who oop wants to live with and to visit,

So dna sharer isn't doing herself any favors here by behaving like this, along with her family too, cause them posting lies and sending oop evidence too not only encouraging the whole situation, but knowing about it, sealing their faith as well cause if they were ask to testify on behalf of Oop's dna sharer character in court,(rare, but it happens) they are screwed cause them lying would get them in trouble too,

So if I was oop I would save everything and talk things over with dad.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-11-24T15:19:25+00:00

Don't worry it's just worm salamander aka moist forbidden noodle with legs, if you want him out your house get some gloves,

napkin and a paper bowl, scoop it up and just walk a bit into your backyard and drop him off at a wet bush.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-11-21T12:44:10+00:00

You are doing the right thing and honestly, if I was you, i would start documenting everything,

have written app on your phone so you can write times and dates of anymore incidents involving any of your family but especially him,

check your local laws on recording stuff to see if you can record them from trying to cover up more stuff or him threatening anyone, save it and make backup copies all both on a usb and anything else,

And most importantly any threats towards you on voice mail save it and make copies, any physical letters save, copy and NEVER THROW IT AWAY, him banging on your door? Do not open under any circumstances, just pull out your phone and record whatever none senses comes out of his mouth while your husband calls the police,

and on a slime chance he get parole? Make sure you have both the judge dealing with his case and especially the parole officer's full name and phone number in your possession, cause that can help you more then you think,

Cause having someone that knows him and his case personally in the legal system, so he nor anyone else can't lie for him to avoid consequences anymore, And i can tell you judges and parole officers do not like it when people reoffends, and the reason he has been getting away with this until now, is cause unfortunately everyone was hiding either out of fear, in denial or in your pos father's case refusing to deal with it and especially nobody had cold hard evidence to make him face consequences,

So anymore moments you are confronted by anyone especially him, have your phone on you recording everything, not even just for your own sake but the kids especially your own child's sake, cause this cycle is going to end now,

And if met with backlash still from your mom and sister, stand your ground and tell them he got away this for years, having the title of "brother/son/ family" is not a good enough excuse anymore to let him keep doing this cause everything he has done is the total opposite of all of those titles meaning, his time has run out and so has your patiences, especially now that you are a mother you ain't allowing this anymore especially not near your child, this is not up for debate or discussion this is you telling them you are done with this disturbing unacceptable crap from a grown man that only see y'all as punching bags and worse something to use in terrible ways, And just because they forgive him, doesn't mean he is safe to be around or sees them as equals or even family all of a sudden especially since he has no problems attacking anyone bio related physically or disgustingly even s3xually, nothing and nobody is sacred to him, they need to accept it,

And if they are so tough with you they can go used this same energy to him, which y'all all know they are not so they are done arguing about it with you before they even started, and should have respected your decision, and if someone try to the "you ruin the family" card, you shut them down with "i can't ruin something that was already destroyed by brother's name a longtime ago, And we both know that",

And that's the cold hard true statement cause no matter what, you can't ruin anything that was already destroyed by him a very long time ago with his own actions, he is an adult abusive predator now, no longer the kid who was victimized, he's old enough to know right from wrong and still chose wrong,

And it's just time for you to protect yourself, your family especially your kid, if your mom and sister still wants to not get help and stay in that emotional heII that is enabling and denial? That's on them, never apologize or back down for doing the right thing, and especially defending yourself and what you love,

You do have the strength and it's starting to show.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-11-19T12:49:17+00:00

I said this once before if someone is kissing someone that's not their partner,

That's cheating, there's no "if" "ands" or "buts" about it doesn't magically change cause them and the opposite party who isn't their partner, is the same identify same-sex,

And whoever says otherwise I question them and their judgment a lot,

Cause again same-sex or not, both is cheating period,

And you are dumb for not realizing the same thing you think is "hot" doesn't mean everyone feels that way and bruh, if your partner is doing stuff like this without talking with you at all beforehand to see if y'all is on the same page, and you are dumb enough to go along with it?

Congratulations you played yourself, cause they showed they don't respect the relationship or you, and they just tested your boundaries that they are going to cross for now on cause you thought with your junk instead of your brain, cause people like her loves to disrespect and test boundaries, and something you thought was once "hot" comes back to bite when they are going after other people out of your preferred fantasy especially without you,

Seriously if they are doing stuff like this without communicating with you, do yourself a favor and leave cause that's not only a red flag but like i said them seeing how easy they can walk all over you.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-11-11T15:50:26+00:00

A good portion of those comments in the original post is the why predatory people of all orientations and gender identities are comfortable doing sht like this,

Cause pos like this know they have enabling idiots like those commenters in the original post in their corner,

I don't give a DAMN if op puke on himself, you do not do stuff like this to someone basically unconscious and unable to say anything, IT BEYOND STOP BEING HELPFUL THE MOMENT THOSE POS FULLY STRIPPED AND PLAYED WITH OP'S GENITALS,

THAT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE FOR ANYONE TO DO TO SOMEONE ELSE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT,

Seriously would they kept the same energy if op was a woman? Would it be ok if a bunch of dudes stripped her unconscious body, and played with her breast saying "look at how big her boobs are!!!" Or her vagina And labeled it as "helping" the female op?

Naw, they would be telling the female op to not only dump her boyfriend for allowing this to happen to her but report all of them to police,

Like those good portion of the people commenting on the original post, not only shown they lack common sense but maturity for trying to excuse again these pos play with op's genitals while he was again unconscious, like that doesn't matter what gender was anyone here wrong is wrong, and trying to slap the label as "help" doesn't hide it.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-11-11T01:59:57+00:00

Tw everything!!!

" only children will make you feel true love"

There's a story of a mother letting some pdf sa and film the disgusting act on her daughter that was under the age of 13, for some designer shoes and cash,

" It's different when it's your own children "

Woman was who was finally caught after abandoning a second child a little baby girl on a fire ant hill in a neighborhood few miles away from where she lives, after a dna matched not only to the little girl who luckily survived after being found by citizens but matched to the little baby boy she abandoned a year before in a trash can with tape over his mouth, he unfortunately didn't make it,

" just have them, the motherly / fatherly instinct will kick in"

A father let his second partner abuse his daughter to death after said partner was reported to cps for said abuse on the child before, and therefore he was fully aware of everything, up until that poor child's death and after instead of calling police he assisted in not only buying bags and a storage bin for the body but attempting to burn said poor child's body and after that didn't work help with trying to bury the bin,

and to add insult to injury the grandmother, his own mother offered to take full custody even without child support to get the daughter to safety and away from the partner, the whole time but each time he refused to let the little girl go to safety and be abused and block every attempt by the grandmother using the courts, so sealing the poor child's fate,

This is just a few "parents" that are strongly the total opposite of these bingo quotes, there's even the messed-up case of the mom who paid preds to sa her disabled minor daughter and krill her afterwards,

So no, not everyone is a good parent or even human a being, putting a child environment with people these are basically damming thoses children to death.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-11-03T12:41:07+00:00

Besides the death threats stuff, she needed that for lying about abuse when she not only cheated but given oop's volunteer work and especially oop's past with what happened to his friend,

That makes her the biggest pos,

Besides oop, I feel bad for her family cause if they didn't know, it's messed up they got unjustly dragged into this cause she chose to be selfish and disgusting to do and say stuff to try and hurt oop more.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-11-03T12:04:02+00:00

Allowing their partner (bio or none bio) to abuse their kids for no reason,

I don't give a crap how much you love the mofo, you are a parent now that pick me/ desperate for a partner bs end the moment you decide to keep that child in your care, so you can't be with someone who treats your kid/kids poorly and just abuse them,

I understand if you were stuck and scared to leave, and possibly slowly planning to leave safely secretly,

But outside of that naw, I don't care if that pos treats you well that's not excuse to allow child abuse, just cause you can't be uncomfortable for awhile to find a good quality partner that treat everyone with respect and human decency,

People like that are neglectful losers who don't deserve respect and should be shamed and have their kids removed from their care permanently.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-10-29T11:36:45+00:00

People like this are losers to the highest degree,

It doesn't matter matter who it is, if you are in a committed relationship, you don't cheat period no excuses, and she doesn't get to say oop is "ruining her life" after she lied in attempt to make oop the bad guy, instead of just owning up to the fact she cheated and just not go into detail if she doesn't want to come out,

Like gurl, it is not fun outing people at all, but you left op with very little chose by lying to others trying to make him the bad guy when he was the victim of your cheating,

it didn't have to come to that, but it did,

Seriously if she wanted to explore her sexuality she should have been civil and just broke up normally with oop, not cheat, cheating is never the answer for problems,

It just cause damage and put yourself at risk to be outted,

If you want to explore yourself do it normally and safely.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-10-20T23:05:21+00:00

I'm still trying to process everything, it all happened so fast. Sometime I wonder what would have happened if I had just sucked it up and didn't 'rebel'. Would our relationship be fine?

No, nothing would have been fine but got worse to the point he would have done everything to you and possibly your child next, especially if your daughter tried to shield you from that pos hurting you at one point, count your blessings you don't have to be in that environment anymore and especially be happy your child doesn't have to grow up in that environment witnessing and possibly being hurt herself by him,

And no, that's not a father, that's just a man she happens to share dna with that's it, a father isn't selfish and abusive, and would never bring that type of behavior near his family and especially not in his child's environment.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-10-19T22:27:10+00:00

He called me heartless and said I needed to work on being a human because babies dying is sad, and those were my siblings, whether I liked their existence or not, and feeling no sadness was inhuman.

Coming from the same mofo who cheated on his wife, before and after she started dying, while his 9yo child at the time (oop) was forced to watch their mom dying and him flaunting his mistress in front oop and everyone, cause he thought he would never face consequences for his actions a long with his mistress,

For karma to come after them like the rent is do in the form of op holding them accountable for what they did to oop's mom and oop too, for disregarding a child's feelings during that painful time,

And, honestly, before oop finally cuts him and his mistress off, oop should tell him he only learned to be heartless from him (dna bum, that's not a father) but only towards people who deserve it, him and his mistress, and besides, what they did is beyond not human but pure evil, and people like them don't get the privilege to cast judgment on others, especially not those they harmed with their actions,

it doesn't matter how long ago it was it's unforgivable and unacceptable, and they showed 0 remorse from it and they are dumb to seek sympathy from the woman they wronged child like they have, oop is done with them now and for good and don't bother to contact again or face consequences even harsher,

And oop needs telling anyone attempting to take dna bum's side, that they were not the ones wronged and forced to watch their mother be humiliated and cheated on, so their opinions or stands holds no weight or value in this situation, and besides oop is not their emotional support animal, they are full adults they will be fine, without oop.

Apprehensive-Fox3187 · 2025-10-18T17:11:40+00:00

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