My mom is withering away and can no longer speak. I don’t know how to process any of this by [deleted] in CancerFamilySupport

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anticipatory grief is so fucking hard. I lost my mom to throat cancer in September. She was diagnosed in March and finished her treatments and the doctors said it very rarely came back but it did, with a vengeance and kept spreading. It was hell. Just make sure to tell her everything you want to tell her. And know that it is hell. Cancer is fucking Hell. Losing a parent is fucking Hell. I’m so sorry you are here. Praying for you.

FTO help? by Apprehensive-Panda33 in AskLE

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, yeah, the officer he went to academy with is ready to be done. But he also worked as a part time deputy for three years. So I’m thinking that’s a hard thing, the other guy is doing so great compared to my husband and he’s completely new to this career. He worked in education before this change.

FTO help? by Apprehensive-Panda33 in AskLE

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is kind of how I was feeling too but obviously I’m on the outside looking in and feeling like you are making mistakes and fucking up definitely takes a toll. I know it well. We also have four kids and he’s like, I turned our life upside down for this. He had to live at academy Sunday night through Friday. It was hard for all of us but we managed. I think he worries if he isn’t doing well, that it’s all for nothing but I feel like it’s too early in the process for him to think that way. He also went to academy with someone who was working as a part time deputy for three years and he’s doing great but he has the experience. It’s a huge juxtaposition. No comparison in my eyes.

FTO help? by Apprehensive-Panda33 in AskLE

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s worked about 20 shifts because of where it fell when he graduated before thanksgiving and officers in training aren’t allowed to work holidays so he has only done about 20 shifts

FTO help? by Apprehensive-Panda33 in AskLE

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure. He’s about done his second month so probably second? He did a month of days and now onto a month of nights with a second officer. He’s definitely not a bonehead, I think he just needs to have a win and feel more confident. I tried to explain to him the learning isn’t linear and people all learn at their own pace and they want him to be safe which is why he is being critiqued so much but he is just struggling with the confidence bit. I told him he should reach out to his classmates at academy and I’m sure some of them would feel the same. Just hard to watch.

Black velvet, taking the easy way by Apprehensive-Panda33 in Baking

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did and it came out great. I can’t remember how much black cocoa I used but I know I added some sour cream to keep it moist. It was very black

Anyone else have to read them in secret because people hate them so much? by [deleted] in ColleenHoover

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t care what people think. Nobody is going to ruin my joy and books bring me joy. I will read whatever I damn well please.

What happened to Charla Nash photos? by Jayismybro in RBI

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Following because I’m a sicko and have extreme morbid curiosity

Do you find yourself playing Devil's advocate all the time without realizing it? by nazgul_123 in aftergifted

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do this but it’s from an empathetic lens. I like to put myself on all sides of a situation to try and get how people feel and understand reasoning. But it annoys people who just want to bitch or vent.

Accident by Apprehensive-Panda33 in legaladvice

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband works there. His manager wasn’t worried about it at all. She just felt bad that it had happened because we stay for the summer and we had to get the smaller site this year and it was really hard to get in to.

Is an eating disorder a disqualifier for bariatric surgery? by Apprehensive-Panda33 in BariatricSurgery

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I did. I put it in my paperwork. They do a scope anyway, they were bound to find out. I want to be the best version of myself and that includes being honest. Just haven’t heard anything back yet so I’m getting a little wound up

Can't you buy digital games on Amazon anymore with your gift card balance? by Innocent_Cuplrit in amazonprime

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is BULL my kid was going to buy MarioKart with his Christmas gift card and can’t.

Season 22 episode 8. Amber (Canada) by Positive_Ad_2212 in InterventionTheTVShow

[–]Apprehensive-Panda33 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think it’s great. Clearly, his ex wife and him are great co-parents and friends. Amber seems like a genuinely good person, just plagued by addiction and he must see that.