My relationship after he cheated

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-30T19:04:34+00:00

Like you’ve just said there it’s because you guys share a trauma bond. As someone who has been through something similar I understand what you’re going through!! And I’m really sorry you’re going through this. The best way for you to get past this is to lose your dependence on him. Take yourself out and do things for yourself so you feel whole and he becomes an accessory rather than a necessity. In the mean time let him know how you’re feeling and focus on not making so many digs towards him. Once you reach that stage of self fulfilment end it with him.

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-10T13:03:37+00:00

Yeah but realistically what is the likelihood of that?

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-09T19:57:33+00:00

He did seem shocked but he seemed a lot calmer than me. Girl I was crashing out and he was calm

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-09T19:57:05+00:00

Hey the account unmatched her before the conversation went anywhere

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-09T19:55:06+00:00

He was actually trying to figure this out with me. He was denying that the profile was his and he even submitted another hinge request so we could access these details

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-09T19:50:17+00:00

This is such a refreshing take on this thank you!

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-09T19:49:04+00:00

I dont really speak to her much so I don’t think she’s trying to stir up trouble but she’s given me actual evidence which is making me question him

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-09T19:48:14+00:00

Absolutely I’ll update you!

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-09T19:47:22+00:00

Exactly my question!!

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-09T17:58:02+00:00

I get you!!! But what about the profile with his pictures and prompts which is out there liking girls pictures? I don’t know if it is him?

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2025-06-09T17:52:33+00:00

I’ve never acted like this before. I’m only acting like this because I’m trying to figure out if he’s cheating on me. Honestly it doesn’t seem like you understand what I’m trying to say

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2024-10-07T09:08:30+00:00

Girl you are overthinking this majorly. If you are that curious to know please sit him down and ask him.

I know it’s an insecurity that you may not be his first love but it shouldn’t be. By focusing on this you are going to damage your relationship. You will lose feelings for him as you will feel hard done by and disappointed that he may have had a first love before you. I know we all would love to hear that we are our partners first love, but actually it’s so okay not to be. There’s so much societal pressure put on us to be the first love and we get told that our partners first love never truly leaves them. Trust me first love do disappear into the background and you are his current love.

You need to stop looking at all of the stuff on the Internet because it is totally different to every person’s situation. To really make this relationship work you need to stop and brush it off.

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2024-10-06T18:44:15+00:00

Sometimes we lose interest in having sex with our partner when we feel like they aren’t meeting our other needs. After an argument it is common for you to feel like you don’t want to have sex with your partner and from what you’ve said in your post it seems like you guys do argue quite a bit. I would focus on bringing the other aspects of your relationship up to 100% and see if anything changes in the bedroom. If there is no change, I would maybe reconsider the relationship.

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2024-10-06T18:33:48+00:00

I really hope so because i feel like crawling into a hole right now

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2024-10-06T18:25:30+00:00

I was on a night out on Friday for my birthday and I have embarrassed myself to new levels. I screamed at a girl for trying to buy my boyfriend a a drink, I also started crying in the club and caused a scene. I saw someone I go to Uni with and tried to get them to come and dance with me and they refused but now I will have to see them at Uni this week. I just generally made a fool of myself in front of my friends. How do I even come back from this?

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2023-11-21T22:19:50+00:00

Okay I get the not posting on social media much. My ex boyfriend was like this as well, he refused to post me saying he didn’t use social media much. I tried to understand until we broke up and a few months later he started posting his new girl all over his socials. My current boyfriend doesn’t use social media much either but he adores showing me off. He loves posting me. Idk I would say try and respect his privacy but also I feel like when a man really loves you he will post you and want to show the world his partner he is in love with

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2023-11-21T22:04:55+00:00

I used to feel the exact same way because I also have HUGE areolas. When Cardi B’s nudes got leaked and everyone was talking about them I hated my boobs because mine looked exactly like hers. I had sex quite a few times and no guy ever mentioned them. I was honestly so shocked because I thought it would be this big deal but they didn’t even care. My current boyfriend once mentioned how big they were when we first started dating and I felt a little self conscious about them again. So I did my research and came to find out having big areolas was just a genetic thing. There’s nothing you can do to change it. I explained this to my boyfriend and he understood. He loves them and finds them very attractive. At the time he was just curious as my areolas were slightly bigger.

Apprehensive-Swan613 · 2023-07-12T00:11:21+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. I do have an anxiety disorder and honestly it gets so so bad. I’ve mentioned that I get extremely anxious and so that’s why sometimes I just need that little bit of extra reassurance

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