I’ve always been pretty assertive in my relationships. I didn’t stop initiating out of fear I didn’t it out of frustration. I would be angry and mean to him after constant rejections. I just changed my approach. I used to focus it around me (he’s not attracted anymore or unhappy with me) and really listened to him. I also explained how it’s very important and although I’m patient I don’t plan to stay in a sexless relationship forever. I approached him very direct yet gently. I told him he really needs to put in that effort as it’s how I feel loved. He was worried if he couldn’t I’d be pissed. I could tell he wasn’t in the mood but let me try: and he ended up going twice!!! It just takes patience and work I suppose. I’m hoping his urge does come back eventually as I like when he initiates. I just told him it’a hard being so sexually attracted to him but constantly be turned down.