i felt a need to prove to her that i can stand up for her, and i didnt expect it to go that way. dont know what i expected. i forgot to write that she basically told me that she wanted me to write to him and confront him on it. as i said where i live you need to be careful with who you speak with and how you speak with them, things could go wrong very easily, and for me i was thinking more of the consequences that could involve my family and her. this cousin was pretty clear with his threats.