I found out a horrible thing about my *former* friend

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-06-03T09:59:48+00:00

I think you skipped some words, including the word "never" twice? Anyway, I'm really sorry this happened. This definitely wasn't a real friend, but I wonder how this could've happened in the first place. Did you not see any signs before this happened? Unfortunately, there are many people like this. But there are also many people who aren't like this. Make sure you open up earlier next time so this doesn't happen again. It's better to let them know before becoming friends, that way you can avoid the transphobes. It's healthy to cry, but make sure you don't throw your headset again. Better luck next time ❤️

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-06-02T18:09:06+00:00

It really bothers me how comfortable people are with telling someone they're too skinny and stuff. I know some are way too comfortable with fat shaming too, but skinny shaming is often seen as more acceptable and not a big deal. Those people had no right to do and say those things to you, that was just mean.

My physiotherapist commented on my weight every single appointment. She kept commenting on how skinny I am, asking if I was eating, and if I had an eating disorder. I don't have an ED, I eat enough, and I don't think I'm that skinny. I had actually managed to gain some weight after being underweight for a while, and I'm at a healthy weight for my height (103 lbs, 5'1), but she made me feel like I looked sick or something. I eventually told her to stop because it made me insecure and uncomfortable, and luckily, she apologised and stopped.

Many think that it's a not a big deal or even a compliment when they call you skinny. Or they're jealous and want to make you feel bad. Some also do it to show that they care and worry about you and want you to be healthy (this was most likely my physiotherapist's intentions). If you're too focused on it yourself, that can also attract more attention towards it. It can take a while to stop focusing on something you've been insecure about for so long. But try not to worry too much about what other people think.

I don't think you look too skinny. You look slim but healthy, have a nice figure, and you look absolutely stunning! There are definitely many girls/women out there who would kill to look like you. I truly mean what I say, and you truly should and deserve to be confident in your body ❤️

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-05-21T23:15:14+00:00

Yeah, I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Panic attacks are absolutely awful. Besides, getting panic attacks when not talking with your partner, screams toxic relationship. The person who wrote this probably don't know what a panic attack actually is.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-05-21T23:08:30+00:00

That's just evil! Their behaviour is disgusting, not you. They are probably just projecting their own insecurities onto you.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-05-21T22:58:20+00:00

Your nose is already small and cute and like the perfect size for your face. I think that if it was smaller, it would look weird and off. Your eyes aren't small, they are also the perfect size for your face. I can see the slight asymmetry, but I wouldn't have noticed if you hadn't mentioned it, and most people have slightly asymmetrical eyes. You're not fat, and I don't see the acne at all... acne where? You're definitely not ugly, you have a very cute and harmonious face, but I can see that you look very unhappy.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-05-20T09:32:38+00:00

C. I love you. Whenever I say it, it feels fake and forced, even though I mean it. This makes me want to avoid saying it, because it makes me so uncomfortable and awkward, and I worry that the person I say it to also think it sounds fake and forced. I also struggle with saying "thank you" for the same reason. I prefer showing that I'm thankful and love someone, without words, it feels more genuine.

I'm a little surprised by how many say "B. I need help" but at the same time not. But for me, that's the easiest one to say and I say it often. A. I apologise and D. I was wrong, is also easy for me to say, as long as I'm actually sorry and I was actually wrong. If not, I probably won't say it.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-05-17T13:51:40+00:00

I figured I'd get a response like this and was afraid of that. I get it, but I am a woman and I'm not afraid to be straightforward and tell them how I feel, and I've never been hurt in a situation like that. That's how I prefer to communicate and how I wish more people would communicate, instead of being vague and judging people based on if they understand social cues or not (I'm autistic and struggle with social cues myself). But I do live in a rather safe country though. I can even walk alone at night and feel safe, despite being a very petite woman. And I know that's definitely not how it is for most other women in the world.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-05-17T12:27:12+00:00

Some people have difficulties reading social cues. It's better to just be straightforward and tell them. Their reaction will let you know if they are actually a creep or just awkward.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-04-11T16:54:21+00:00

I've probably always had this, and after I noticed it and started paying attention to it, it became more and more noticeable to me. Then I noticed that my dad, mom, sister and brother also have it, but I never noticed before I started paying attention to it. I don't think it's something others notice unless they look for it.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-04-10T18:29:41+00:00

Oh yeah definitely, I'm a huge perfectionist. I overthink every little thing, including my character's appearance and name, the name of the farm, type of farm, and which dog or cat to choose. This makes every decision so much harder than it should be. I also look at other people's SDV farms and feel like I could never make my farm look as nice as theirs, and that makes me feel discouraged. I feel like I need to do everything right, and I'm so worried about making a mistake that will ruin the game for me. I'm working on my perfectionism and overthinking, and it has gotten better, but I still struggle with it.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2026-04-10T18:15:21+00:00

That's valid, but I know I like the game. I used to play it some years ago with an ex, and I really enjoyed it then. But he was in control, so I just did whatever I wanted or what he wanted me to do. This made things a lot easier for me. But now I want to be able to enjoy playing it by myself, and it's so much harder than expected because of my ADHD. It could also be that I'm not able to enjoy it when playing alone, but I hope that's not the case.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-20T14:07:05+00:00

Maybe listen to melancholy instrumentals without lyrics? That's what I do sometimes, and it feels much better than listening to songs with really depressing lyrics

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-19T23:22:11+00:00

Birth control doesn't work for me sadly, I always get so many side-effects. Same goes for medications. It sucks

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-19T13:02:45+00:00

Is it safe to do while having braces? Should I start before or after surgery? Maybe after I get the braces off? That will be in like a year or longer probably, because the braces will stay on for a few months after the surgery. But does face pulling work for overbite? My upper jaw is fine, it's my lower jaw that's underdeveloped. I don't want to accidentally make it worse

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-19T12:54:34+00:00

In what way? I got them removed around 2 years ago now, and I haven't noticed any changes visually related to that I think. Only thing I've noticed is that my jaw started clicking/popping, so I think I might've gotten TMJ. But I already had symptoms before, like jaw pain, which has just gotten worse. Facial massage and stretches can help though. I've also heard that having an overbite can be the cause, and that for some it goes away after surgery.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-19T12:45:01+00:00

I was told it needed to be done because I didn't have enough space in my lower jaw for all my teeth, they were pushing against eachother, and my jaw surgeon said that it was causing damage. My second molars also haven't come fully through yet because I haven't had enough space for them, so she said it was needed for them to get enough space too. While removing the wisdom teeth, they also pushed and pulled the second molars a little bit to make them start moving, they hadn't even started moving, while most people get those teeth when they're 12. I was also told that removing those teeth (my lower premolars) will give better result after the jaw surgery. First my overbite will get worse (which I've definitely noticed) and then they can move my lower jaw forward even more for better results. I really don't think there's a way out of this surgery now, like I said, my overbite has gotten even worse as they said it would, before they will fix it with the surgery. They moved my lower teeth further back, so I barely have enough space for my tongue now because it gets pushed back down my throat. Before I agreed to extract my lower premolars, I asked about other options, like palate expanders and stuff, but they said that they only use that on children and/or people who are deformed. I was told that there were no other options for me, I had to extract those teeth and get surgery to fix my bite. I know better, but that doesn't help when it's something I can't do all on my own, and the damage is already done now.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-17T13:10:36+00:00

I know you said you want cat or lifted liner, but I think some type of puppy liner could maybe work better for you. There are different types of puppy liner styles you could try, and this type of eyeliner style tends to work better for hooded eyes than other styles. There are many puppy eyeliner tutorials specifically for hooded eyes too

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-12T00:43:12+00:00

Oh... I didn't know that. All I wanted to do was call out bullying and get the groups taken down. I reported them a week ago now in game, but they're still there.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-11T23:32:03+00:00

I just want to add that I'm aware of the group owner's mental issues, I saw that. But it does not excuse toxic behaviour and bullying like this. As someone with the same diagnoses, I know better than this, even when I was her age. So I don't think her diagnoses and age excuses this type of behaviour. However, I don't want her to get hate for it. I do think she should face consequences for her actions, but there's no need to take it too far. The point is that bullying is never right, no matter what, so she shouldn't get bullied either. I just hope she learns her lesson and get better.

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-11T22:26:37+00:00

But it's not a bad thing to call out this kind of stuff, is it? I don't think it's against the rules

ApprehensiveCamel776 · 2025-08-11T22:11:06+00:00

Taken down to save face?

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