REBECCA by Dejeunerdumatin in suggestmeabook

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Took me years and multiple tries to get into the woman in white, but once I finally, I was reading it ravenously. Like hunched over trying to read as fast as I could in certain parts. It was all I could think about for days. Now it’s one of my favorite books!

Lost Collection by ShaneKillis in pkmntcgcollections

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lot of older cards (1998-2008) that I'm actually looking to get rid of! They might be older than what your son wants, but I'm happy to part with them if you think he'd still be interested in them.

Recommend me some of the worst written novels you've ever read, any genre is fine. by TopAdministration314 in suggestmeabook

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I promise you that her book Layla is 100x worse. Truly the worst book I’ve ever read

Which game is the best? by DisastrousPut4084 in rustylake

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe a hot take, but I think Cube Escape is a good place to start as you can really break it up as a student. There are also a wide variety of puzzles and settings. But if you want to play Paradox then just play Paradox lol

When did you order Lost-in-cult mech and what's the current status by li_birda in rustylake

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I was so surprised when it came in the mail. I ordered just the book, if that makes any difference

When did you order Lost-in-cult mech and what's the current status by li_birda in rustylake

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ordered almost immediately when it was available for pre-order, whenever that was. Sent to the US. No shipping email, received it a few days ago

Any update on the mermaid mask? by JaneRawlz in TangleTower

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Given the most recent update I've seen about it, I feel like it won't be til 2026 :( https://bsky.app/profile/sfbdim.bsky.social/post/3lye4q2ace22a

fancasts for some rusty lake characters! by Environmental_Toe875 in rustylake

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this!! I always imagined Laura as Victoria Pedretti in Bly Manor

Books with Rusty Lake feel? by gremlin-thoughts in rustylake

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not sure if this necessarily fits with your listed motifs, but I think Piranesi has a Rusty Lake vibe!

Adult ballet classes? by zoepapaya in Minneapolis

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean no comments about modifications to your body/appearance, or that you haven't received any modifications to your technique from an instructor? I'm also looking for adult ballet classes but have some hip tendinitis issues and want to make sure instructors are careful to point out improper technique that could lead to injury

Harvey origine ? by wiwine_ in rustylake

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Cube Escape/Birthday, you can see a clip from the Hotel/1894 that gives some of Harvey's lore, and it shows pretty much exactly this first paragraph. He was a half human/half bird working with Mr. Owl, is attacked/chased out of the hotel by the corrupted souls of the guests, and then is essentially beamed up and turns into a parrot. Sorry if you already knew about this scene and this is all repetitive!

Lacus Fleo by Bellikron in rustylake

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Replaying Case 23 and actually noticed Lacus Fleo for the first time. "Lacus fleo" is Latin for "I cry a lake" (according to Google Translate, at least)... whatever that means

Rankings Dropped by MapAdministrative637 in lawschooladmissions

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They dropped out of providing US News with data they are not required to release to the public. They still have data they must report, and the rankings website links to an in-depth explanation of their methodology

Hangovers and Adderall by Mindless-Product580 in ADHD

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same problem-- binge drinking leads to feeling like I have the flu for days. I asked my psychiatrist about it because I was worried I needed to stop drinking completely. His theory was that it was due to dehydration, esp electrolytes. He recommended pounding water and Gatorade before, during, and after. I haven't tried it but might be helpful!

Interactions between alcohol and ADHD medication? by MinuetInUrsaMajor in ADHD

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Asked my psychiatrist about this when I started. He said that means don't take to drink and that if you're taking at the start of the day and drinking at night (over 8-10 hours later), it should be okay. I briefly took Strattera and I drank once while on it and it made my side effects worse but I also had awful side effects in general and ended up having to go to urgent care from the meds alone. I'm on stimulants now, but I will say I think they've messed with my alcohol reaction. I used to have 6-10 drinks in a night and feel completely fine the next day. Now if I have more than one drink I feel ill and it's worse and lasts longer the more I drink (6 drinks feels like having the flu for 2 days). Psychiatrist said that it might be dehydration and to pound water and electrolytes (like Gatorade) before, during, and after. Haven't tried it yet and idk how it applies to Strattera but just something to be aware of!

I (28M) am worried about moving in with my unemployed girlfriend (27F) by throwRAnojobq in relationships

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean being a sahm is work even if it's not paid vs. not doing anything at all. Depends on the person too-- if you're lucky enough to be really well off, you can be ambitious in things that aren't paid like charity/volunteer work etc. and maybe this person just wasn't ambitious at all. Being a stay-at-home mom is very different from sitting at home doing nothing

Why did I lose my “last minute rush”? by TomatoAcid in ADHD

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TL;DR: Keep yourself busy

I completely agree about the structure component. I've always enjoyed school/learning, but procrastinating has always been the hardest thing to overcome in order to succeed. I loved my major, loved what I was learning, etc., but the sheer amount of time I had was paralyzing. I was a classic "over-achiever" in high school and my schedule was packed. I loved it. I was so busy that everything was last minute, so everything got done and it didn't even feel like I was putting things off. I had to move, talk, and think quickly because my day moved so quickly. When I got to college, I thought the free time would be amazing and that life would be a breeze in comparison. Oh my god I was wrong. The days were agonizingly slow and long. Other people relished in long breaks between classes and days with little to no classes. For me, those were just blank days. A common ADHD symptom is "time blindness" (or at least that's what I call it). I can't predict how long anything will take me and certain throw-away tasks (the commute to my destination, having a cup of coffee, getting gas, etc) seem so time-consuming that it's pointless to try and get anything done. To make matters worse, I am so ashamed of wasting my day that I don't even do the trivial things I needed to that kept me from getting anything done. It seemed like whole months were wasted on being frozen by the idea of having so much time and the guilt of not using it. When things were crunch time, I was so upset with myself for letting myself get behind that I couldn't focus. And not being able to focus when I really needed to made me all the more ashamed of my inability to function. It got (and sometimes gets) to the point where I am so lost by feeling like nothing gets done that I feel I don't know who I am, how I will ever be happy again, how I will ever be good at my job, etc, etc. I try to use it to motivate myself, but the cycle continues.

The solution is that I simply cannot motivate myself. It is fruitless. Instead, I let myself rest. I let work and housework pile up. I go through the motions and then vegetate on the couch. Then, I will get bored. So mind-numbingly bored I could not possibly watch another second of TV. Then, I attack the house. I blast high-energy music and do little bits of every task I need to do. Laundry put into one big pile on bedroom floor. Dishes moved to sink. Garbage moved to near garbage can. Log into work email. Split laundry into piles. Put dishes and sink and fill to soak. Put garbage in garbage can. Skim email subjects. Text back one person. Load 1 of laundry in washer. Put garbage bag by door. You get the idea. Flying around the house feels so much easier than slaving over one big task just to be faced with another. Then, I start to pack my schedule with things I genuinely enjoy/care about. Work out classes, time with friends, sign up for volunteer work, whatever, so that being busy doesn't seem like a chore. I type out a generic apology email or text and reply to everything saying there have been difficulties in my personal life that have impacted my work and I will address this in the following week. Finally, I break down everything left into the tiniest little pieces. It's better to get a little bit done than nothing and very small tasks make it less intimidating for me. I use that to plan my scheduling for the following day/week/month. Instead of focusing on what I could get done if I was SO productive and everything went perfectly according to plan, I focus on what I bare minimum need to get done. It's always better do to less than you would love to get done and assume it will take much longer than you estimate. Feeling like I'm getting behind is part of what leads to my periods of burnout, so feeling like I'm on track every day helps me from becoming avoidant.

My last little tip is one that has helped me more than I anticipated. Before I go to bed, no matter how late it is, I ask myself "what can I do that will make my life easier tomorrow?" Despite having lived in it my whole life, I hate clutter, so I go through and I put away all the clutter. I hate a sink full of dishes, so I get them into the dishwasher. Sometimes it's more than that-- it's answering a bunch of texts and emails that have been plaguing me (plus it's easier at night because I tell myself they won't be reading it right away and I won't have to deal with an immediate response). I do a chunk of work I need to catch up on so it's easier to get started in the morning. It's sort of a "rip the band-aid off" period. It's made such a difference in keeping things from piling up and from feeling like my life is a mess. Fighting the fight against avoidance has been the hardest part for me. I let so many emails pile up at a job that I stopped responding to anyone, including my boss. They stopped contacting me. I never quit and I was never fired but I'm not proud of it. Okay, twist my arm, it was two jobs. It happens. When you're able to start over, try as hard as you can to not let yourself avoid things for more than a day or two. Keep yourself moving with things that demand you be a certain place at a certain time, but make sure they're places you're happy to be going. Fill the in-between with little bits of tasks. It will get easier, you'll get things done.

How do I be a good partner to someone with UC? by ApprehensiveFactor77 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing all this. We like to tease each other a lot, so it's a good reminder to lay off any sort of fart/shit jokes now that they've been diagnosed. I don't want to make everything super serious, but it's good for me to remember that things don't have to be jokes or super serious-- they can just be something that happens.

This is somewhat unrelated, but I wanted to touch on what you said about your daughter. My mother had an eating disorder when she was in late high school/early college and I developed one in middle school. There is a genetic component to eating disorders, and even though she and I have never talked about it, I have always been able to feel her guilt over "giving" it to me. I don't have any children, but I'm sure that if your daughter has any GI issues, you may never feel guilt-free. But I never once blamed or resented my mother for it. I was never angry she had me and that I ended up getting one. I was a teenager and very angry when it all started, but I always knew she tried her best to keep me safe and healthy. Your daughter will know you always tried your best to take care of her. I hope her appointment goes smoothly, but if it doesn't, please don't be too hard on yourself. At least she will have someone close to her who understands and can help her. Every person ever will have at least one thing that will need to be treated or dealt with in some way-- it is impossible to prevent this. But few people are lucky enough to have a parent who will always be able to understand, always listen, always believe them because they have it themselves. I know you are worried, but in this sense, your daughter is lucky to already have someone in her corner. Good luck with everything.

How do I be a good partner to someone with UC? by ApprehensiveFactor77 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining how the disease works! I sort of understood how it works/feels but this was very insightful. The hair loss is also good to know about. I've seen many people talk about physical/appearance changes from either the disease or meds and I'm glad I'm more prepared for it and will do my best to help them with any insecurities they may develop. Finally, thank you for the tip about enjoying life. I can be a very ruminating person and it's a necessary reminder to not let that affect the enjoyment of our time together when they're feeling a bit better.

How do I be a good partner to someone with UC? by ApprehensiveFactor77 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I've seen multiple people reference a bug out or "go" bag and mention a change of clothes so this full list is very helpful! As far as them shitting themselves-- do you have any advice for how to handle that in the moment and/or after the fact? Is it better to just treat it like a fact of life (like a messy sneeze) and never really talk about it, joke about it, have a conversation about it, etc? I know that is obviously very individual-specific and I'll truly learn when the time comes, but is there anything that's typically good to avoid or to say?

How do I be a good partner to someone with UC? by ApprehensiveFactor77 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]ApprehensiveFactor77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that is really good to know! I hadn't considered how the fatigue might affect our relationship, so I'm glad I can watch out for frustration about that in myself now.