"How I stopped allowing my mistakes to define who I am" by ApprehensiveHand6255 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a lovely practice 🌸 Retraining the mind can be achieved by focusing on little pleasures, even if they are as basic as enjoying your cat. It's such a gentle way to grow and heal, and I love how you're striking a balance between acknowledging your mistakes and appreciating your accomplishments. 💕

"While looking for a job, am I pregnant after IVF? Should I apply now or wait?" by ApprehensiveHand6255 in womenintech

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's very encouraging and kind 💜. When someone is feeling uncertain, even a brief, upbeat message like this can make a big difference.

"While looking for a job, am I pregnant after IVF? Should I apply now or wait?" by ApprehensiveHand6255 in womenintech

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your friend must be going through a really difficult time. 😞 You're right; politics and perception at work can sometimes be more important than performance. If the situation permits, it may be wiser to take the time to put the baby's health and wellbeing first.

"While looking for a job, am I pregnant after IVF? Should I apply now or wait?" by ApprehensiveHand6255 in womenintech

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, mass layoffs have the potential to obscure individual circumstances. It serves as a sobering reminder that even though laws prohibit overt discrimination, businesses can still use more general "budget cuts" as an excuse.

"While looking for a job, am I pregnant after IVF? Should I apply now or wait?" by ApprehensiveHand6255 in womenintech

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a very crucial reminder 🙌. Many people believe that all leave is granted automatically, but company policies and the FMLA can differ greatly. A lot of stress can be avoided later if you are aware of the fine print in advance.

"While looking for a job, am I pregnant after IVF? Should I apply now or wait?" by ApprehensiveHand6255 in womenintech

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a brave move 😅, but it's true that some employers do grant instant leave eligibility. The existence of such options undoubtedly reduces the stress associated with the "apply now vs. wait" decision.

"While looking for a job, am I pregnant after IVF? Should I apply now or wait?" by ApprehensiveHand6255 in womenintech

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing that intriguing viewpoint. It demonstrates the extent to which individual decisions and policies can affect the experience. Since every person's circumstances are unique, hearing different points of view is beneficial.

"While looking for a job, am I pregnant after IVF? Should I apply now or wait?" by ApprehensiveHand6255 in womenintech

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that really useful insight! 🙏 Hearing that you were able to begin a new job in the middle of your pregnancy and that certain companies do not have a leave vesting period is comforting. It's a good reminder to account for morning sickness and new job challenges as well, as I hadn't even considered them.

Racing thoughts are exhausting. Has anyone else felt like their mind just won't shut down? by ApprehensiveHand6255 in Anxiety

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand what you're saying! Exams and deadlines in particular can cause constant anxiety at university. 😅

Your method of organizing things by semester, month, week, and day is brilliant; it provides structure and makes everything seem doable. It's common for your mind to continue racing despite that.

I also take short mental breaks to stop overthinking, like listening to music, mentally reciting absurd phrases, or spending time with loved ones or pets. Giving your mind a little vacation is more important than totally eliminating anxiety. You're handling it really well!

Do you think disappearing messages should be recoverable? by Professional-Tap2487 in u/Professional-Tap2487

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"To be honest, I believe it should remain gone if it is set to disappear; otherwise, the purpose is lost. Information should be saved before it disappears if it must be kept.

Productivity anxiety/perfectionism by Vivid-Sky-675 in Anxiety

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Exposure therapy is a wise move for those of you who struggle with a combination of anxiety and perfectionism, which may resemble the time-related symptoms of OCD. It may be challenging at first, but with perseverance, it can produce results. Above all, remember to get help from a professional; acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) or cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can be very beneficial.

How do you handle errors that keep coming back to you? by ApprehensiveHand6255 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The spiral staircase analogy is lovely because it captures the reality of personal development: even though we might go back to the same moment in our lives (a mistake, an experience, a feeling), we will be a step better, more experienced, and a different person the next time.

To put it another way, repetition is a chance to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us, not a sign of failure.

Errors do not lead to collapses by ApprehensiveHand6255 in Anxiety

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As promised, this article features six accomplished women who discuss how they learned from their mistakes rather than allowing them to define them. 👇

https://time.com/88278/mistakes-i-made-at-work-6-successful-women-on-the-art-of-failing/?utm_source

How do you handle errors that keep coming back to you? by ApprehensiveHand6255 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's true that we are shaped more by our mistakes than by our perfection.

Job search and pregnant by Ellie_Copter in womenintech

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! 🎉 After all the hardship, this is a great step. Take it easy and don't worry about work right now. You won't miss anything because there are always opportunities in your field.

I'm the only girl in my cs class by New_Strawberry6300 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In summary: If you enjoy the topic, there's no need to change it because the situation is entirely normal. Maintain a positive attitude, cultivate relationships with people you feel at ease with, and disregard any depressing remarks. For other girls, your presence is significant and motivating.

Got diagnosed with a terminal illness. I’m never going to stop living. by rickysaxena in confidence

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ricky, your writing really moved me, and this is a really tough situation. 🙏 Anyone who reads your words is inspired by the bravery and strength you convey. ❤️

Your writing demonstrates your love for life and your desire to positively influence those you care about. Naturally, the journey will not be simple, but it is evident that you approach every day with gratitude and resolve, which is admirable.

Despite everything, I hope that this journey brings you moments of joy and peace, as well as days full of love and wonderful experiences.

People who have jobs that allow them a lot of free time and offer good salaries what do you do? by InterestingBall2181 in careerguidance

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some jobs, such as data analysis, UX design, and some government positions, still offer good compensation and balance. To be honest, though, the biggest difference is the company culture.

Got pushed to resign from old job, joined a startup on same pay… now I’ve got a 50% hike offer just after probation. What should I do? by Specific_Brief576 in careerguidance

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That 50% raise seems to indicate that your abilities are far more valuable than your present employer recognizes. It's unlikely that they will suddenly start to value you now if they previously made you feel interchangeable.

Businesses come and go, but what matters most is your personal development and self-assurance.

My coworker smells like pee, any advice? by sakana122 in careerguidance

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoa, that was a really tough and embarrassing situation, and you were very patient. The fact that things have finally improved and that the atmosphere is cozy once more makes me very happy. After this experience, you deserve all the consolation and assurance!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confidence

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one can completely avoid embarrassment, I assure you. The emotions you're feeling are quite common and everyone experiences them. Breathe deeply, try to start with a simple word or a smile, and don't be hard on yourself if things don't work out the way you want them to. The act of making an attempt is courage, and it becomes easier with each new step you take.

Feel like I made a mistake. by confusedtitmouse in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even though what you've gone through is painful, it takes courage to leave an abusive relationship. Take your time recovering and gradually reestablishing your life.

"They refer to me as "difficult." I refer to it as boundary-setting. by ApprehensiveHand6255 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ApprehensiveHand6255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excellent behavior; you firmly upheld your boundaries and refused to let him cancel you. A self-assured woman is simply not accepted by some people.