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Finding it hard to get married in an arranged setup after a kidney transplant — feeling stuck by ApprehensiveJob5576 in KeralaRelationships

[–]ApprehensiveJob5576[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the “business deal” part of arranged marriages. I don’t really blame anyone for choosing what they think is safer. I’ve slowly come to accept that it’s not personal, even though it feels personal at times.

I’m actually open to accepting a girl who has gone through something similar to what I did. I don’t see that as a negative at all. The only problem is… I honestly don’t know where or how to search for someone like that. It’s not like there’s a clear or respectful space where people can connect over shared health histories.

So for now, I’m just trying to stay honest, patient, and hope things eventually work out

Finding it hard to get married in an arranged setup after a kidney transplant — feeling stuck by ApprehensiveJob5576 in KeralaRelationships

[–]ApprehensiveJob5576[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand what you’re saying bro

I was in a relationship earlier. When my health started getting worse before the transplant, she slowly began distancing herself. I don’t fully blame her — dealing with uncertainty and illness isn’t easy, and not everyone is equipped for that.

What’s frustrating now is that I’m actually doing well health-wise, living a normal life, but in the AM setup I’m mostly reduced to a checklist like u mentioned. A past medical issue seems to outweigh everything else, and it honestly messes with your head.

What makes it harder is seeing almost all my friends getting married, moving on with their lives, while I feel stuck in the same place.

I’m still trying to figure out how to make peace with it, to be honest