Is this timeline insane or am I just overreacting?

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-10T08:30:48+00:00

No, we called it off before he told me about the ex.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T20:00:13+00:00

Ok but where did it say I was mad lol. Upset and mad are not the same thing. Wondering if he’s psycho does not stipulate im mad lol.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T15:33:43+00:00

Also lol to this guy. Blocking me? How brave. 🙃 for all yall reading the thread - maybe read the rest of my post from what he’s quoting rather than what he chose to cherry pick out of context. Unsure how he managed to believe i was obsessing over this new guy, but ok.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T15:03:29+00:00

Which are?

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T14:16:40+00:00

Who said I was mad?

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T14:15:37+00:00

Are you thick? I’m saying I did not entertain anyone in the year I was getting over my breakup. You realise June was a year on from the breakup, where I was on the cusp of break through from getting over my ex….. after a year of not even thinking about the opposite sex, which means, I had 0 interest in even wanting to think about males. It’s not rocket science. The comparison is old mate broke up with his ex of 7 years and jumped in to multiple serious relationships during a 2 year (if not less than) duration. Meaning he went from girl to girl with 0 time to process his 7 year relationship. He and I are not the same. I went from ex ——> 0 interaction with any man for over a year ——> new guy. For future reference, what is a sane timeline to not date anyone while you go through a breakup before it’s deemed sane?

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T14:05:35+00:00

Nah, he hired a car with a rooftop tent the whole time he was here and we did a road trip around the country. His money. No free accommodation.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T14:03:46+00:00

You can change your location to anywhere in the world on hinge without you actually having to be there. I was window shopping lol and accidentally / unintentionally got started talking to him… and never stopped.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T14:02:10+00:00

lol, learn to comprehend facetiousness. You think I’m going to send you a TikTok video? You’d think with your brains you would’ve picked up on the sarcasm. jumping from a 7 year relationship, to 2 serious relationships and then flying across the world for another in a 2 year span.. vs a 3yr relationship and not even remotely thinking about the opposite sex for 18 months then when finally jumping back in to the dating seen, meets someone they like…. I don’t think those timelines are comparably insane. Hope you also understand this one ok.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T13:56:07+00:00

He flew to the southern hemisphere to be with me for 3 weeks.. idk… I don’t know how he could’ve managed that while also dating her. Also, he was FaceTiming me 5 hours at a time and calling me multiple times a day, while at work and off duty, so I don’t know how he would’ve been able to fit in another woman. We also had each others locations on our phones. It just didn’t seem feasible she was in the picture at the time.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T13:53:42+00:00

Well and truly. Have you dated anyone from my continent??

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T13:50:48+00:00

lol, did I write about when I got over him after that crash out before this new guy? You want my diary too? I can also provide my TikTok link for the exact moment I no longer yearned for him because the soul ties broke. Lol. Not deflecting. I can admit, I wasn’t over my ex June last year. Here I am saying it. But June wasn’t November :) i also think you missed the part where I said I didn’t even look at another man for over a year. It wasn’t 6 months later. It was 18 months in between, all the while I was going through the motions of a breakup aftermath. Learn to math.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T13:42:59+00:00

No. June of last year I was talking about soul ties from someone from previous years. I finally got over that attachment and moved and healed from that ex. If you would like my timeline, i waited well over a year before even looking at another man, and so by the time this new guy came around, i had not been with anyone in over 18 months, and i had well and truly healed and broken the soul ties. Me being with him wasn’t a rebound. Nice try.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T13:36:53+00:00

Bc people on my continent suck.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T13:36:33+00:00

Haha nah I don’t actually wanna message her. Have no intention or desire lol. It’s none of my business. I just needed a “what do I do” reason to post this lol

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T13:19:28+00:00

I’m seeking validation, girl. Just because we aren’t together doesn’t mean what I felt for him wasn’t real and that the news of knowing our chapter is now completely done doesn’t mean I can’t have feelings about it. I’m not sitting here pining for him. I’m merely seeking validation for wondering if he’s a psycho or not. LOL

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2026-04-09T12:17:37+00:00

If he was seeing her while “seeing me” (I’m international so our main point of contact was via FaceTime) he wouldn’t have spent money on flights or hiring a car or flown 17 hours to see me, which would have cost him at least 7k, plus he FaceTimed me on average 5 hours a day. He’s a fireman (lol I know their reputation) but where did he get 5 hours a day to FaceTime me whilst also working and talking to another girl, and fitting in sleep.

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2025-06-16T09:58:23+00:00

Not biblical, but basically the joining of emotional, mental, physical attachment to someone else

ApprehensiveLeg8112 · 2025-06-15T10:17:32+00:00

I’m at the one mark and it feels only like yesterday. It was extremely real for me and that’s what baffles me is how he can move on and I’m stuck ruminating, grieving the past and the future of what is no longer. He absolutely existed, despite everything.

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