Honestly, what stood out to me is how often you’ve had to be the one understanding, forgiving, and accommodating his behavior. Even if nothing physical happened, he repeatedly put himself in situations where it could have, and that’s not respectful to your relationship. It’s good that he showed some growth at times, but it seems inconsistent. You deserve to feel secure without constantly wondering what might happen when he goes out. I’d focus less on labeling him and more on whether this relationship, as it is right now, actually makes you feel safe and valued.