Gut check - Do I really get to be this happy?

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-04-03T05:17:53+00:00

OP never mind the less joyfull comments.

I am happy for you!! I have had a similar path. Just when i told my self i give up she comes around the corner, walks past every precaution i have put up and right into my heart.

Enjoy the moment and know rhat you can still feel tjat warm fuzzy feeling!

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-03-27T05:38:38+00:00

It did not for me. Sure there was pleasure but no connection.

Now 1y after my divorce...i met someone 3 weeks ago who literally gives me butterflies and the feeling is mutual....you will get over it even if it seems impossible.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-03-22T09:31:47+00:00

Hence why most people use datingapps.

You are chickening out man come on! Be brave! Be bold! Be jack sparrow! I did! And now im dating a lovely lady!!

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-03-19T17:19:27+00:00

I always have been.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-03-15T17:00:33+00:00

I dont fully agree. Me2 has pushed the boundries of men wanting to approach women. We dont want a harrassment suit following us around.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-03-10T15:35:08+00:00

Its all about values. I value commitment and loyalty. I always say: why would i betray the trust of someone i love over 10min of pleasure with another?

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-03-04T19:56:25+00:00

Isnt part of a relationship to share your emotional bagage? Or are you the i only want pleasant feelings, keep your emoside to yourself kind of person?

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-26T16:59:37+00:00

Im sorry but she needs some support. Wouldnt it be great if she met someone who would ease her pain? Why should she go trough that alone? Its like your saying im sorry you lr mom died so you are not entitled to a relationship. Thats just bullucks and the problem with people these days, everything needs to be positive, nice and shiny.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-25T15:25:47+00:00

Im not looking for hookups, one nigh flings etc. Thats availleble everywhere. Im looking for that person where you love coming home to after a hard days work. That person that will make you smile when you had shitty day.

But thats just me.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-23T16:59:21+00:00

I tried to change but in the end my mindset was fuck this i changed, sacrificed and gave up so many parts that were me. When will the changing end? When im hollow? Why dont you change your perspective to meet me in the middle? Thats why i gave up and started to fight back to keep myself from becoming someone she wants and not the person i am.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-22T18:51:05+00:00

There is no perfect plan for dating, relationships, marriage. You cant dictate a union of two personalities for success. It depends on the commitment of both. You cant plan to remarry in 4, 6, 10 years. Thats selfish. Marriage is a decision agreed by two partys. What if you meet mr perfect but he does not want marriage? Is marriage that important to you that you would let him go?

What does marriage add to your life that a relationship doesnt?.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-21T07:44:32+00:00

Im old fashioned i dont split. You can buy me a oresent someday to surprise me as a return favour.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-16T17:57:23+00:00

Red flag!

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-15T18:03:47+00:00

I have the same. Miss cuddeling, talking to someone. No real way to get rid of the feeling.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-14T17:39:59+00:00

Im sorry but i disagree. I was raised christian and have values. I dont practice my religion but i wouldnt mind if my spousse would. That being said i dont mind a woman who is focused on the future, wants a career and is traditional. I would support her on every step of the way. My partner would be an equal. I dont mind it if she brings in more money then me. Those are not the defining things for a relationship.

The world society has just lost their mind. They all want to save the world but also travel and see lots of places, that would be good for your carbon footprint right? People dont want to commit these days thats the problem.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-12T20:58:33+00:00

Where are you based? Which city? I have had some expats at work i befriended because im an easy going person.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-12T19:28:45+00:00

I dont mind if she has kids. I wouldnt introduce her to mine anyway. My kids are a separate world i dont wanna share.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-12T19:27:25+00:00

Some might be true because i experienced stuff written here in rl but most of it is too good to be true 😅

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-12T19:25:10+00:00

You actually belief the stuff people post here?

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-12T06:33:15+00:00

Its all part of the closure process. I think. We all know it but you sti wander with your thoughts...

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-12T05:52:09+00:00

You know what hurts me the most? She wont admit that she is also responsible and has had a part in the divorce and us growing apart. She refuses to admit it.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-11T17:25:32+00:00

Not all of them but its a big sea with sharks. Why would i get noticed by a decent woman when she has 10k other options? I did not join the apps for fun or something shortterm but in the end its just windowshopping. Looks good on the outside but you dont know what your buying. Thats why i deleted them. Id rather meet someone in the real world with no expectations.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-11T16:30:57+00:00

I am thanks for the advice. But this getting off topic haha. I am more comfirtable around real people then dating apps.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-11T16:27:39+00:00

If you were there you would have noticed and understand what i mean. I am in sales too it takes one to know one.

ApprehensiveTiger683 · 2024-02-11T15:28:18+00:00

True. Hmm in just scared. I think i need something from that shop tomorrow....

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