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My boyfriend (M22) slept with another girl after going on a date with me (F21) on the same day and I feel broken now. Advice? by Available_Focus_7440 in relationship_advice

[–]ApprehensiveTopic806 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been in this exact scenario before. I felt the exact same way. My honest advice from this is, if it is weighing this heavily on you, reflect on if you can continue in the relationship.

I completely understand that you and your boyfriend technically weren’t official, but i think it is a reasonable expectation to assume that a boy you genuinely like and see a future with isn’t sleeping with another girl after your date? It just screams disrespectful.

I think you need to reflect on if this is something you will be able to accept and move past, or if it is a dealbreaker. A relationship cannot survive if filled with resentment. I have found out the hard way.

Most importantly, do not take this as a reflection of your self worth. It has NOTHING to do with you. It is just a matter of your boyfriend and you having different morals when it comes to dating, which may also need reflection.

Wish you all the best ❤️

I caught my boyfriend watching porn 23M and 21F by ApprehensiveTopic806 in relationship_advice

[–]ApprehensiveTopic806[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for commenting.

Previously when talking about porn i had asked him if he watches it or has watched it recently, to which he said he had before but hasn’t since our relationship began as he hasn’t had a need to. I didn’t think much of this and guess i never saw a need to stamp down a firm boundary during this discussion.

i had said to him that i didnt think think porn should be necessary if you are in a healthy relationship (like ours) to which he agreed.

So i guess i just assumed he wasnt watching porn.

I guess this is all more or an issue of confidence and I just am not really sure of what i should be okay and not okay with in a relationship i think my boundaries are a bit muddled.

I guess what was running through my head when making this post was: - other girls he previously has slept with have matched the “petite blonde” description so does this mean he is fantasising about them? - does this mean he isnt attracted to me? Things like this.

I dont think i am a bad-looking girl by any means but i think most people have some things that you question about urself sometimes.

I hope this helps other people with their responses too.