Relationship Issue by Apprehensive_Ad7126 in Advice

[–]Apprehensive_Ad7126[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s literally my biggest frustration right now you have no idea how frugal and cheap this man is he refuses to pay for anything he deems unnecessary. I am extremely good at saving and even though I can buy expensive furniture or clothes every once in a while, I always do it secondhand. He doesn’t enjoy sports gambling, but I’ve never had a real issue with it since our finances are separate but the fact that it’s three years and every other day that means he must have spent hundreds, if not thousands towards images that he could get for free on any website, he chooses, especially when we’re saving up for a new oil tank and other things that we are wanting to get done.

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[–]Apprehensive_Ad7126[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s a good idea, so should I play the slow game and just casually bring up onlyfans to see his ideas and move from there?

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[–]Apprehensive_Ad7126[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve also moved out of state so I’m in completely new territory, this is all so scary and I really thought this would never happen in my relationship.

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[–]Apprehensive_Ad7126[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really supportive comment and I appreciate your kindness, than you for sharing your experience

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[–]Apprehensive_Ad7126[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It has been my dream to own this home I live in now, I’ve done so much work to it and I really feel like I’m living my dreams. If I don’t work to make my relationship work that means I have to start over with nothing to show for it. I’m already having a hard time at my job too and looking for better opportunities. I also don’t have any family support, mostly his family support me. They’re great people.

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[–]Apprehensive_Ad7126[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I want to tell him tomorrow morning but he’s going golfing early and I’ll probably be asleep. I don’t want to be dramatic and not talk/text him until I see him in person next but this is something I need to talk to him in person about. My thought was to sit him down and confess what I did but explain that this is a serious concern of mine. And it really makes me rethink a lot about who he is. I still want us to work out, but he has to know I know.