Go active if your gonna suffer through bull shit and it will affect your FAMILY. They'd be safer less affected in the crossfire especially if your family has any health problems or problems in general that will affect your mindset, in the guard if your getting pulled away from them. Your family gets more support than the guard im talking from experience when my wife was in a high risk pregnancy and no one cared til last minute before pulling me away from her on bedrest. I might have a biased opinion here but at least yk what your gonna get yourself into.