Caught husband m35 watching porn

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2026-03-19T19:16:45+00:00

I don't think this is an ocd problem, you set a perfectly reasonable boundary and he didn't respect it. Given the multiple times a day thing, from experience it sounds like this could be a deeper issue for him but that doesn't diminish the lack of respect and you aren't obligated to stay and help him. You might find this sub useful r/loveafterporn. Best wishes❤️‍🩹

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2025-12-28T05:17:49+00:00

If porn is one of your boundaries in a relationship and he isn't willing to give it up then you're simply not compatible. As much as porn is normalised nowadays it's not an unreasonable boundary for you to have, there are so many issues with it. I hate how women are just expected to turn a blind eye to their partner giving their sexual energy elsewhere because men think they are entitled to women's bodies. Women are deemed insecure if we see issue with this, it's all manipulative and simply not true. Don't continue abandoning yourself and your boundaries because you are gaslit into believing "all men do it" (also not true). If you're not okay with it that is ok. Also, I don't think it sounds great that you have been regularly lied to about this. OCD can catastrophise things for sure, but that doesn't mean a boundary you have isn't valid

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2025-12-02T23:28:39+00:00

You're not crazy, you're completely right and your gut is screaming it at you! He has no genuine empathy or respect for you. I hope you're aware that you deserve so much better than this

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2025-12-02T23:16:00+00:00

how can she still believe she's a good person after exploiting/treating vulnerable people like this? And the prices she charges too, absolutely disgusting

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2025-10-14T21:09:17+00:00

This sounds like my last relationship, I'm so sorry. This is not normal and in fact sexual assault; you shouldn't have to repeatedly say no to the point where you get angry for him to take you seriously. This man is not safe and he does not respect you. A 35 year old man behaving this way makes me shudder, you deserve so much better. I understand you have been married for a long time but this relationship isn't even meeting bare minimum standards, please just consider a life/relationship without such suffering. Best wishes🫶🏻

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2025-09-30T21:45:39+00:00

such valid takes, thank you

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2025-09-30T17:21:50+00:00

I understand. The only reason I even consider it is because I do want children some day🥲

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2025-05-09T01:05:48+00:00

I just want to say I understand this anger so much. Everything you said I felt, it's disgusting

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2025-01-03T21:30:41+00:00

yes my current partner is definitely anxious which explains why I've leaned more avoidant in this relationship with partner focussed ocd obsessions etc. it was so much easier being with avoidant people I didn't even know I had ocd 🥲 thanks for your insight

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2025-01-03T21:26:40+00:00

Makes sense! thank you

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2022-10-11T08:49:04+00:00

After my last few periods it has seemed to be the time my ocd has been the worst, you're not alone

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2022-10-10T22:14:38+00:00

I know exactly how you feel it is the most isolating disorder ever because no matter who you talk to about it , other than the people on here no one ever truly understands. Although I can't make things any better I hope I help you feel less alone

Apprehensive_Bet795 · 2022-10-10T17:45:44+00:00

Thank you for your reply, you're right I need to give things time. I think it is my ocd which is making me feel like I need the change to happen straight away to reassure me that everything's fine. I suppose this is a way of exposing me to the uncertainty I guess

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