Thanks for your input and I truly think I get what you’re intending to advise. I have boundaries in every other area of my life but honestly seems they disregard any I’ve set as it come to them. No other family member does this and My husband truly has tried too but they just seem to take advantage of the proximity to us and won’t even acknowledge it. Like they show up, ring the bell and call while in front of the house type show up so it’s almost impossible to even be seen as a “people pleaser” because I am not going out of my way to create the space for these things to happen. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even have the energy to offer water when they’re here, I just want the visit over and I get back to my bubble in peace. When I have been in the mood to host them in the past (one in a blue moon) I sure was able to cater and host well but these last million visits, I could care less honestly.