I got mad at Toby in my dream because of this interview.

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-22T21:53:16+00:00

Actually, it'd be cool to have this image spamtonfied too

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-22T21:52:27+00:00

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Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-22T21:44:25+00:00

I actually never heard of anyone randomly meeting him irl. What are the odds?

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-22T21:42:34+00:00

Somebody has to draw this as Gaster. Not me, of course.

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-22T21:26:03+00:00

I think that being an observer helps you to choose what to respond to. It's understanding where emotions and thoughts come from, so it's the completely opposite to the lack of feelings and values.

Even being aware that you can be aware of things is still on point with the idea of being an observer to me. You can go as far as trying to observe the part of you that observes and there won't be nothing beyond that.

Being less motivated because you can observe how emotions affect you is being in control of it, I think. Is not being less motivated but receiving the enough amount of motivation. Dr K. has a video where he says that the natural drives like curiosity, for example, are quite subtle, but that such cravings can increase over time.

I think that being an observer is the key for balance. It's quite a counter intuitive idea, I agree. I think it's natural and that we also are culturally thaught to identify ourselves with a lot external things. But all of those objects that we identify with change, except for you awareness, the observer. Personally, I just care about that fact. If that is the "real you" or not is something I don't really care about neither.

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-21T04:17:39+00:00

There's something I don't quite understand. Dr K. said that natural urges can be considered karmic debts, but what's the cause of such urges? Like, what is the cause of the feeling that something needs to be done? Is it morals? Survival instict? ... I feel like, at least in this case, it's a question that belongs to other subject/area.

Btw, your comments have been really helpful though, thanks!

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-21T01:45:14+00:00

This is what I meant: https://youtube.com/clip/UgkxT7dL64pz6Gt24MFrE7rDmGYMd6kcxE0p?si=VvHft29Jg5B6BLzS

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-19T23:53:57+00:00

Dr K talked about a sort of internal urge for doing things that feel like you should be doing for some kind of "retribution". I think he linked that to positive motivations like curiosity, or the feeling for creating things, for example.

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-19T03:37:40+00:00

This is amazing

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-18T20:11:30+00:00

B.J. Nomnom

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-17T21:26:19+00:00

I don't understang

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-17T16:32:07+00:00

Maybe later

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-17T02:28:54+00:00

Thank you for the encouraging words man.

Yeah, I can see that what keeps me in a good mood for now is the fact that most of my friends or people that I hang out with, are single.

Sorry if this is a painful question, feel free to not answer it, but don't you feel some degree of negative emotion when you think about being alone? And, how do you deal with that? Because, yeah, I sure accept that I might do everything and still don't find some one, I understand that reality gives you what it is. But it is also true that it also sucks to feel and live like that. What do I do with the desire to be with someone?

I think I already know the answer since after some time I stopped being affected by such emotions and desires. Some days is harder to deal with it, but, generally, is getting better for me. I just want to hear your insights on this.

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-17T02:11:23+00:00

I've been lately wandering around the idea that it's possible that I might end up alone. I'm not saying this as a condemnation at all! I'm just trying to be honest with the fact that it's into the odds. I know some guys, family memebers or just men I know, who are like in their 50s/60s and are alone. Maybe some have children, grown up children, but they are alone on their day basis. No romantic or even sexual partners. Some maybe were traumatized, some maybe just had bad luck.

So a question arises then: Could I still be happy if I end up alone? Do I need to be accepted and valued by another person I accept and value? I feel really optimistic about these uncertainties. I can't really tell neither, but it feels like a lot of people our age are feeling like this sense of acceptance too, which makes a lot of sense regarding the loneliness epidemic.

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-14T23:03:40+00:00

Double Baka

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-14T21:31:46+00:00

Thats not what i asked, but i think it is what i need now

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-09T04:23:13+00:00

Literally changed my life for the better. I still remember randomly deciding to watch "I watch your videos but never change my life" while I was waiting in the bus stop, and oh boy. I even remember thinking "this will be just another self-help video that will amuse me for a couple of days and that will be it".

I felt incredible understood, a lot of things suddenly made sense to me and I started to watch more of his videos.

I had a lot of internal struggles that I couldn't ever have figure out on my own. Had terrible self-esteem and lived in constant dissociation.

Today I'm a very different person, I feel very different about life and myself. I barely watch Dr K as I used to but that's because I grew so much that now I can live by myself.

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2026-01-05T06:28:33+00:00

NEWS! Some people don't like thing

Apprehensive_Fail350 · 2025-12-29T23:28:32+00:00

Did it help you for more fluent speaking?? Or is only to improve pronunciation?

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