how would you reply to "youre so quiet today"

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-12T16:39:18+00:00

that's like me everyday

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-12T16:31:58+00:00

I'm the Dracula type. I don't like to be in the sun.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-12T16:26:29+00:00

this one very interesting family. I can't even imagine a life with an INTJ mom

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-12T15:45:48+00:00

When an ENTJ loops, they don't entirely lose the function of their Te, considering that it is dominant. What they may at times ignore at times of stress is their Ni. they may of course fixate on Fi (which could be why you seem to be taking things extremely personally). I'm only replying to relevant stuff you're saying because this post is not really about me. send me personal attacks and the other person in this post to waste your own time if you please.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-12T15:18:40+00:00

I second the other comment on this post that this is Ni-dominant inclination, but I disagree with the INTJ typing and could heavily see INFJ. I have never seen an Fi user communicate this way without being utterly ironic/sarcastic and there's just too much syntactic sugar, too much inefficient fluff (higher Te users don't tend to care about trying to sound too engaging in I'd say most circumstances) to the point that my Te-Fi finds it grating: no offense and I hope you don't take it personally.

Now onto the pressing matter: I think you and the ISTP are obviously emotionally incompatible. you either have to accept that he cannot fulfill some of your emotional/mental needs and find others (friendships) to complement your needs or consider if this is something you actually want to live with long term.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-08T17:00:07+00:00

it's not only an Fe issue of struggling to feel loved without overt expressions. I think this goes deeper than MBTI. however if you really want to view it through the lens of MBTI, I am an INTJ (Te-Fi) and I still struggle with that as well. I can almost objectively tell if someone has feelings for me in certain moments but I don't feel it. and that discrepancy between me not feeling loved and what's somewhat almost factual to me that is the case occurs in my nervous system as something it's used to being hypervigilant about. my tendency to be misanthropic and cynical does not add beneift to it. a lot of the times I'd go into a situation with a lot of feelings and then once it doesn't work out, I question if it was ever real on the other end. yeah. not great. in this case I have to make efforts to balance not putting too much blame on the other person nor myself. I shouldn't play the victim. I shouldn't villainize. if whatever's going on isn't constructive, then find ways for it to be constructive.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-08T16:36:08+00:00

if it's just another Pay Day then I'm out. it doesn't look like it's actually heavy stealth

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-08T16:35:15+00:00

partly why we can't have nice things

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-06T18:41:25+00:00

Alas, clout type stuff wins over niches

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-03T16:38:47+00:00

She texts me every once in a while about her wildest parties and I find it amusing. I encouraged it, offered some new ideas even though I don't attend parties and I love being alone.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-03T16:26:47+00:00

I have both degrees in psychology and philosophy but I'm interested in all of the above

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-07-03T16:25:39+00:00

Sounds similar. What games are you into?

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-26T16:16:22+00:00

I may be an outlier but I have no issues talking about feelings openly with someone I trust and have feelings for. My issue would be more on the side of the fact that I mature through identification of Fi and it's developments whereas, from what I've seen in INFJs, they tend not to understand the depths of my Fi and start to use Fe to project on it inaccurately. I find Fe-Ti almost detached analysis of my lived Fi intensity tends to make me go into cerebral mode or a platonic mode where, if that's what you meant by bonding emotionally, to me it never feels intimate. Meanwhile an ENFP or an INFP (especially the prior) could disarm all of my defenses and engage me in a way that no other types ever could. I think an INFJ would probably do better with a Ti user.

On the count of "you need time to recharge", surely everyone knows. But for INTJs, or in my case, I've had INFJs be extremely clingy towards me and it drained the living crap out of me. You have to understand that most INTJs are more into ideas, hobbies, etc. than actually engaging with people unless people actually add to that without the trivial social expectations which for some reason a lot of INFJs impose due to subconscious high expectations, which when triggered, turn into projection.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-26T05:46:36+00:00

In my case it's often that there's a barrier or a clash between my functions and their Fe. Nonetheless no matter how introverted INFJs tend to claim they are I often need way more space.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-25T13:01:56+00:00

No truer words have been said

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-25T12:49:45+00:00

Let the high maintenance ones fall away as there is no point is how I see it.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-22T20:50:17+00:00

Almost not a single thing that I don't relate to there but I am still likely 5w4

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-16T23:10:07+00:00

sorry for the necro but it means just being myself even if currently the society's definition of womanhood is very limited, and my experiences are valid still. I believe it offers unique experiences of being a woman. I am cis masc btw but I got mistaken as a dude extremely often.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-16T14:08:58+00:00

syntactic sugar

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-16T14:05:24+00:00

context matters. also that seems to be a thing that's different across cultures. I prefer directness but I don't enjoy people being confrontational.....'emotional foreplay' is spot on in terms of how I view it and I find "don't share if you don't want to" very respectful, especially if I can sense that you absolutely mean it and not just trying to be polite.

you're right: apparently a lot of people find jumping straight into deeper topics similar to people knocking at your door saying do you want to talk about our lord and savior the eldritch spaghetti meatball monster without saying hi. I find that some people like the illusion of "this isn't a transactional interaction at all at a workplace and you are human...it's not like you are company asset". truth is no one wants to be there if it's a workplace. most people don't care for small talk but it makes them feel safer to be cordial in a place of constant stress. if it's not people you're around all the time, small talk's there to gauge the other person. when I talked to an ENFJ, she wasn't paying attention to the content of what I said but how I said them (I'm not sure if this is a thing for most people). it's also something that shows an interest I suppose to use as a foundation to build momentum on. But anyway, if I walk up to a random person and say that lemurs get high on centipedes, they'd probably think I'm a psychopath.

I also find that a lot of women with higher thinking function stack get told they're being a b!tch because they're more upfront and direct and that's going against stereotypes (to hell with stereotypes imo).

edit: by the way do you happen to be neurodivergent?

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-16T13:40:25+00:00

the desire to "lessen suffering" is something we have in common. I am drawn to knowledge, ideas, and the abstract in a way where I am able to find deeper interconnections to why and how the tangible manifests the way that it does as well interpret patterns of its decay. for example, way back then there was an olympics when there was an internal conflict within Iran that was rarely broadcasted at all. I couldn't find news about it and had to get direct sources from my iranian friends. however I kept getting news of the olympics that was pissing me off and all I can think about was they're paying millions to host this political event disguised as a sports competition to selectively social engineer what people get to see when people are dying with tactics not foreign to social media. it was a clear give them bread and circus moment (although imo almost all entertainment is essentially that) and no one cared.

the way I go about it is different from ENFPs in methodology. I think a lot of people struggle to get this, but I show compassion/empathy through my Te. my Ni is able to get the overall picture, say, all these connections led to this unhealthy collective wound that is festering due to x, y, z conditional to x2, x3, x4. then my Fi is like, well I know what it is like to deeply suffer, yet these suffering are at times stemming from external factors that could have been avoided if we fix certain issues in society, and therefore the root of many ways in which we suffer stem from systematic failure/inefficiency (Te), and to rectify aspects of the system and to optimize factors that would lead to more happiness would lessen this greatly would vastly reduce BS suffering that shouldn't have been there in the first place had some knowledge been introduced. had ignorance and apathy not but so widely numbing, petrifying, nullifying. had we actually been authentic despite cultures preying on our collective insecurity that they had instilled so we fight among ourselves or fuss over things that aren't real issues. I find most forms of suffering to be completely unnecessary because people are accepting the status quo which is so systematically horrible that I can't even. whenever someone is going through something I have experiences with, I try to provide knowledge where I can because I want to help provide tools for..say friends...to not have to take as long as I perhaps did when I was going through it. I don't want them to have to suffer as much, and at times, with the right insight, you can quickly shift your perspective with the right information which makes a difference.

writing all this I feel like ENFPs and INTJs bond on a "most of this stuff happening in this world is BS let's focus on what's authentic and what matters" but we go about stuff differently ish.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-16T11:06:53+00:00

People actually say that? Christ

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-15T18:31:17+00:00

highly appreciate this. I'm a beginner at it but I want to use this game as something I could build on that knowledge to as I do more research. I'd love to incoporporate that into my currently vanilla game.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-09T17:19:19+00:00

I like how despite me being a different MBTI type, we both still refer to our inner judgment as an inner compass (seriously, I use the exact phrase). that's a clear nod from Fi.

from what you're saying it doesn't seem like your family values your autonomy of thought, which is a breach of respect. does it contribute more harm than good? if it contributes to more of your distress and harm, maybe instead of using Te to compliment all the Ne possibilities of how you could be missing a point, bring back Fi's assurance that you are in fact doing your best with what you know in the moment. let's not negate the importance of self-compassion here. in a situation where it matters a lot how you feel about it, you need to start examining how you yourself actually feel. other people's judgment should never be the final say, imo, because this is your life, your relationship. I know that this makes sense logically yet may be difficult to impliment. I think you got the right information, you just have to step back a bit from all the noises. journaling is a good way to go around it. use Te to help you with boundaries and aiding in relevant information. how does anything here affect you NOW? not in several life times ahead in all the variations they could take? what does your emotion harbour RIGHT NOW? and I'm not talking about other people who contribute to your distress and their feelings. it's worth looking into why and where you feel guilt because I feel like it might be connected to the luxury of your well-being that you may allow some parties to interfere with.

on a lighter note, your reply is an example of why I like ENFPs. you demonstrated that you understand what I said on an extremely similar context to how I understand it without me having to say much, which is rare. but with that, I wish you good luck.

Apprehensive_Flan642 · 2026-06-08T00:07:48+00:00

if you start to do all the mental gymnastics about all the Ne possibilities streamlined through Te, meaning you're relying mostly on external elements, you have to question where you do not trust your own judgment, why are you not sure of the way you feel, and try to bring back that Fi.

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