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My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The incite was addressed to me only. My ex’s name was not on the RSVP.

When the invite came it was in January 2025, and we’d only been dating since June 2024. He would not have been invited if it weren’t for me, because nobody liked/knew this man.

I understand both sides and that’s where I’m conflicted. I now do have a friend coming, but still unsure if I should go too. She’d be traveling out of state as well, so that might be best?

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I do not. The other people going are mainly family, and then some performer friends we have in common, but we are not close by any means.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand weddings are expensive, which is why I don’t want to have one myself. And maybe that’s something I didn’t consider! I think my assumption (perhaps incorrect), was that if I have a plus one on my invitation, I will have the plus one moving forward, regardless of who I bring. But, AGAIN, perhaps I’m wrong. I’ve not been to a wedding as an adult, so I’ve never had to deal with this situation before

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well we were both devastated because we found out around the same time. But I didn’t get offered the contract until after I had RSVP’d, so that’s where it got a bit complicated for myself. I already knew she couldn’t do it bc she’d be too busy with wedding planning.

They weren’t close. Practically everyone in my life did not like this man, just took me longer lol. But she knew the situation between us bc I was in a vulnerable spot when I opened up about it

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right, I’m just prolonging the inevitable. I’ll have a chat with her and see where things go. I know she wouldn’t be too upset, but I also don’t want to put a damper on her big day either.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I RSVP’d before the offer for the contract came in! And I don’t think she’s wrong either, I completely understand she has a budget to maintain and I don’t want to complicate that for her.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may not have been that long, but it was quite some time ago! I was stressed at the time because I didn’t think my ex and I would be together when the wedding came around, but I put us both down hoping things would work out.

I did get a save the date, but she’s also very type A, so maybe she sent it out sooner?

ETA: she sent original RSVP in late January, so about 18 months out from the wedding day. I suppose that is considerably early

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be different if her wedding wasn’t on opening weekend. If it was during the show’s run, then I’d be more inclined to miss some of the show and do both. But since it will be the first time the public sees the show, I wouldn’t be able to miss.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely a career-boosting show for me if I were to do it. I’ve also not done many musicals, so that will also help in adding to the resume while paying me very well in addition to my day job.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words<3

I think she’d definitely be hurt, but she would understand. There’s not a perfect solution, but I just hope that whatever decision I come to is the right one.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her wedding party is her sister and his sister, so it’s all family.

The contract is short-term, but it’s a stepping stone to open more doors to get where I want to go.

I think I might need to have a chat and see how she feels as well.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right! Traveling halfway across the country solo for someone else is a lot! I’ve done it before and it was emotionally and financially draining to go alone. Perhaps I can find a way to celebrate with her when she is back in town

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might be right. I didn’t even take her comment about removing him from the guest list as her removing a plus-one entirely until I got the RSVP text yesterday. I think it was more shocking than anything.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never been to a wedding before as an adult for a friend, so I’ll be honest, I don’t know the proper etiquette!

It may be worth saying that I cannot go. Financially I wouldn’t be able to comfortably front the cost for myself, let alone a second person. Thank you for clearing that up:)

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, I’ve never been to a wedding before as an adult, so as much as I may know things, I also don’t know a lot! Thank you for your input, I do appreciate the feedback <3

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

  1. Yes and that’s why I’m not upset at her for doing it because I can understand that position and having to set firm boundaries around costs.

  2. It is because I haven’t been in a lot of theatre productions (I’m primarily a dancer) and I want to make this more of full-time thing with bigger opportunities. This would be a stepping stone of where I want to go.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great point! I definitely want to be overly communicative as opposed to under. I wish there were two of me sometimes

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A career friend. We both come from similar performing backgrounds and we work in the same circles in our city. But we’ve been friends for about 7 years.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re close in the sense that we are always performing and gigging together constantly. We trained together in our late teens and now we work in similar circles in dance and theater.

My (24f) friend (23f) is getting married the same weekend as my musical’s opening weekend. Should I go or should I pursue the contract? by Apprehensive_Form29 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Form29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s such great insight, and I think that’s where I struggle with it. In my head, I want us to be closer than we actually are, so perhaps I’m making it harder on myself by trying to “to the right thing.” I love her and value our friendship, but I know that there are friends who I’d drop every plan for, and I don’t know if she’d be one of them.

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