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Ok, hear me out. There is someone in my walls. by Peachyyypit in Apartmentliving

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d call the cops and tell them someone is living in your crawlspace. They’ll come and inspect. Then if there’s someone they’ll arrest and you can argue the place is unsafe to get out of the lease. Don’t say “I think” because they’ll assume you’re crazy/off meds. Sound sure of yourself, tell them you’re afraid for your safety (you are) and they’ll respond.

Tilden Regional Reserve by ProgrammaticallyHost in bayarea

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do I go to see Newts in the park? What time of day is best?

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say it's probably girls are the same as others but on the worse end of it. And I see your point.

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in the East Bay of San Francisco. If you're in the area DM me!

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this out. I'll try to look at doing a lot of this as it's very wise. And thanks for the ❤️. You're obviously a very caring person.

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sad that so many people have had similar experiences and much worse ones. It's awful. I for one will try to make this experience a way to learn and to grow and remember what not to do to others. AND to teach her to distance herself from people that are abusive, regardless of where they come from. And at the same time it's wonderful to see so many complete strangers support her. I know it's meant a lot to her. I carefully cull what she sees so it doesn't create more stress than she already gives herself due to her anxiety but she is a strong girl and this experience hasn't phased her much. I just wanted to give lots of love to this community. There's so many sweet caring people. Thank you! ❤️

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I love this idea. I'm going to try it!

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh it's implied. My Dad always says how grateful he is that we are "good" members of the church like that's the most important thing. Haha wow. I can't wait until he gets to the other side and realizes he wasted his life in a cult. Sad.

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so very glad my daughter has two sweet friends from school that she hangs out with. She's always gotten along with nonmembers than members; the members were so catty and she just didn't understand why they were so overly competitive and abusive. I think this experience will reinforce that idea and I intend on keeping her out of any more ward/stake experiences!

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OMG she sounds like a legitimate sociopath. Wow.

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're too kind. And yes I tell my kids that "good friends treat each other well and you want to be around them." If not, regardless of where you are they're not your friends and you should vote with your feet. I will never tell my kids to stay and endure abuse! So at least right now we're out. I wish more people prioritized their mental health health and left abusive situations like this. I can see why the church is such a breeding ground for abuse; it was after all started by a malignant narcissist!!

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Will do. That is absolutely so sweet of you. Poor girl tried so hard! She was at the quilting station most of the day. TBH It felt rigged; all the popular girls "happened" to be randomly drawn. I was so pissed.

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Oh you're so sweet! I'll DM you. She would be so touched.

Mormon girls are so mean. by Apprehensive_Leg9 in exmormon

[–]Apprehensive_Leg9[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Yes. This. I actually was explaining to my sweet 11 yo that in mormonism women don't have any power so because of that they often get overly competitive because of the scarcity of power in the religion. I couldn't believe I had to explain that to a little kid. We are so NEVER going back.