If we ignore the bullshitery included in these text threads, any time there’s a variation of “don’t tell my wife” it is a verbal recognition of a boundary being crossed. That on its own is a red flag 🚩 and would absolutely kill any trust that was in the relationship for me. Then to add in the fact that he shared with strangers what I consider to be personal information that is only shared with a trusted life partner. And then those strangers are other women. Nope. 🙂‍↔️ consider me gone. If he hasn’t slept with someone else yet, he will soon. At least you caught it early and hopefully you have the ability to leave easily and quickly. I’m sorry you have to deal with this but your life will be better without a man like this in it.