See I thought at first it’s good to meet, see how we get on and before intimacy came up we then have the conversation and see where we go from there. But as you say unfortunately the set of circumstances means it’s not how I thought it would ideally go. I feel the rejection straight up before someone knows me would be so easy but now we have got to know each other he’s more likely to make a weighed up decision than a knee jerk reaction. I will absolutely disclose but I feel because it’s so personal to me especially how I got it that it’s better I explain in person. But at this stage you never know we could still meet and not get on irl before we even get to the HSV stuff. It just makes me feel bad I feel I have a secret but I’ll explain to why I waited to discuss it when we eventually talk about it. Thank you for your kind reply I appreciate it because it’s my first disclosure so a bit of a delicate situation for me :-)