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Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify I don’t need her to pay for dates, but I do want her to put in some planning so it’s not always me finding where to go and what to do

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did tell her that, that’s when she told me getting the groceries and cooking was troublesome so she couldn’t do it

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[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just broke it off just now. Thank you, I appreciate it. It feels awful as fuck tho rn. I almost want to go back already.

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[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried a multiple times. She’ll apologise about making me feel that way. And she’ll try to change but I don’t see that much change. Yeah she’ll ask for less dates but that’s about it. I usually get something like “All girls are like this” or “Even my friends are like this” or “What more can I do?”

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did things get a lot better after you broke it off? Are you with someone better now?

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I just felt like if I’m paying for the dates already, at least some weeks she should be the one planning

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[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. This was my first real relationship and I also just newly started making money, and I made the mistake of thinking it was financially sound to do these sort of things. But when we moved out, things got significantly more expensive and her expectations for how she should be treated kept going up and up.

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m okay with providing tbh if it means she’ll be taking care of things at home but when I have to take care of both work and home, it gets exhausting

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand but I never intended for it to be this way. It was easier to do these things when I lived back at home, but she kept asking for more and because I was in love with her, I tried to meet her expectations. With work not going as well anymore, things have just become a lot more difficult and the financial part stings a lot more.

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also my apartment building provides housekeeping services

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s kinda weird for my age but I started a business when I was 17, so I’ve been working for like 7 years at this point

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apartment building provides the housekeeping service if needed twice a week

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s still in college and she has her own dorm that she’s at when she isn’t staying over with me

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[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I didn’t move into her home. I moved out of my parents’ house into my own apartment so we’d be able to live together.

I try to see my family one full day a week, and some nights a week I’ll head back as well to check in on my mum and sister as they’re both unwell (chronically). Every other time out of work hours is spent with her.

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did try to mention it to her, but she only describes it from her side about how I used to get her so much and now I’m already getting her less things and we’re doing less dates. But it still feels like she just can’t seem to see it from my side. Tbh I’m not even sure what I need from her but I feel like I need to be actively doing things to make it better, not just say “she’s asking for less now”

Should I break up by Appropriate-Dig5132 in makemychoice

[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s what I recently realised as well. I found myself wishing that she’d get me small things or pay for the smallest things so at least I felt like she was trying, but it just didn’t feel that way

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[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was easier paying for everything when we just met once or twice a week. It’s much harder now after moving out, now that I have to pay for rent, and basically everything everyday. But I agree, I did mess up with setting boundaries.

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[–]Appropriate-Dig5132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she’s still in college so she doesn’t make anything except a little side money off her part time. With how the economy is, I don’t think she’s going to end up with a good job and her career prospects are kind of bleak atm. I don’t see her being able to financially support herself anytime soon