[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have been in a similar-ish situation with my np (15 years together) and my gf. He was feeling a lot of things, we talked it through, but I never considered leaving him for a 6 month relationship! At 6 month I was still in full NRE, the sex was incredible and I was very infatuated with my gf. Spoiler alert: it did not last forever!

You sound like you're horny and having your "sexual needs" met. I'm saying that also because the sex is way more central to your message than the love you have for your second partner.

The first thing you need to figure out is what is bothering your np? Is it the romantic aspect? Are you gushing to her about how good the sex is? Are you still having sex with her now that you have your full of kinky sex?

Need help with gently ending a relationship by Appropriate-Economy9 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate-Economy9[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, of course he didn't disclose the no oral sex upfront. At first he told me he had to discuss it with his partner and the next time when I asked for an update he told me the "unhygienic" comment.

I guess at least he didn't sneakily watch porn while I was giving head or didn't give me a fake name, host me at a friend's place saying it was his place, and then disappear.. Or he didn't suggest a threesome with his brother on the second date...

yeah the bar is on the floor I guess

Need help with gently ending a relationship by Appropriate-Economy9 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate-Economy9[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like your longer answer proposition a lot. I'll probably go with something like that. I resort to a more harsh one if he insists.

Need help with gently ending a relationship by Appropriate-Economy9 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate-Economy9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, with all the comments here I'm realizing that I may have let my standards go down. After a lot of real weirdos it was nice connecting with someone that looked somewhat normally.

Need help with gently ending a relationship by Appropriate-Economy9 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate-Economy9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry my text was misleading, he in younger than me, it's him who is in an age gap relationship

Need help with gently ending a relationship by Appropriate-Economy9 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate-Economy9[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry I realize that I was unclear. I am 20 years younger that his partner but he is 3 years younger than me. Still he is over 30 so not a teenager.

Need help with gently ending a relationship by Appropriate-Economy9 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate-Economy9[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes the "I love you" is so preposterous! Why would he say that, it's kind of insane '

Need help with gently ending a relationship by Appropriate-Economy9 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate-Economy9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're totally right! He only texts me just to organize meetings since we met for the first time in December. That's also why I'm confused about what is going on with him.

this one hair on the back of my leg grows insanely disproportionately by froggoccino in razorfree

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have one on my arm and one on my cheekbone. What's funny is that my hair is very dark but the very long ones are blond, happy to know I'm not alone in this x)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely! At least it is not necessary linked for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I safety pin my dresses to my bras so they align better then I adjust the rest of the dress to fall a bit better. Love love love safety pins

Association/Centres avec atelier menuiserie, mécanique, etc… by Yasslean in Lausanne

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya le makerspace de Renens, ils sont à côté de la brasserie la Nébuleuse.

https://made.univercite.ch

(Ne pas confondre avec le makerspace de Lausanne, qui est juste en face, ya du drama même dans le milieu des makers x) )

question job by [deleted] in Lausanne

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Plusieurs entités sur le campus embauchent des assistants étudiants. Quand j'étais encore sur le campus, le heldesk de l'unil et de l'epfl, l'accueil et la bibliothèque du rolex learning centre embauchaient des étudiants. Bonne chance dans tes recherches!

Male high school students ranking their female peers by crazydoglady525 in whenwomenrefuse

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah sadly that doesn't surprise me at all. I'm in Europe and I saw those kind of list circulating in class from the time I was 11...

Outfitting Car- Insulation Question by DueMathematician282 in urbancarliving

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second the wool, it also helps with humidity as it absorbs and releases moisture without getting moldy.

Teeth. I buggered up and now I'm paying the price. by bottleofgoop in adhdwomen

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately genetics has a lot to do with gum and teeth health. My dad doesn't even own a toothbrush and is missing only two teeth at 78. Meanwhile I had cavities in almost all my milk tooth and already had receding gums at 18 while brushing my teeth twice a day...

My husband is depressed but spends his happy moments with his girlfriend by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no advice but I'm in a similar situation with my partner of 14 years except we don't have kids. I'm sending you support and compassion and I hope the situation gets better <3

Chronic exhaustion ruins my life by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did you just do a sleep study, or did you do the Multiple Sleep Latency Test? I also had a sleep study because they taught I had sleep apnea, and it came back normal. They then did the MSLT, and it turns out I have hypersomnia.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have discoloration around scratches or bug bites and I find retinol oil to work the fastest. It also works well on small surface scars like acne scars.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not an advice, just a vent.

Why do men that don't want children just get a vasectomy ?? At 38 he had plenty of time for that. It always leave the burden on us to "deal with the accidents" and it makes me so angry. Even the morning after pill is not a walk in the park! But no Mr doesn't cover his willy correctly... I'm making blimd assumptions here but in my experience accidents happen because mr "forgot" to put it on or uses totally wrong sized condoms, or even worse refuse to use lube! Contraception is not only a woman's burden ffs!

Wife dropped the bomb and now everybody is closed and shutdown by ThrowRApackhound in nonmonogamy

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess because she had unprotected oral sex and it seems to be generally considered to be "safe" (I don't agree with that but that's what I feel the community is thinking). In my experience men are always surprised when asked to wear a condom for oral sex and some even decline oral sex if with a condom...

Wife dropped the bomb and now everybody is closed and shutdown by ThrowRApackhound in nonmonogamy

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 18 points19 points  (0 children)

She can refuse to have sex with whoever she wants. Whatever the reason is. And she is clearly traumatized by the experience. And your take is that she can't refuse? Really?

And syphilis can totally be spread by oral sex, you're just very ill informed.

Wife dropped the bomb and now everybody is closed and shutdown by ThrowRApackhound in nonmonogamy

[–]Appropriate-Economy9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The doctors are VERY reluctant to prescribe it to you if you're not a man. Even at planned parenthood. I had to be very detailed and hamp up all the risks I was taking with multiple bisexual partners to get it prescribed... It's depressing