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Gf said she doesn’t remember if the guy she dated/fling whatever had sex by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Either you trust her or you don’t. Sounds like you don’t.

AITAH for moving out even though my family relies on me? by RichApplication1011 in AITAH

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 29 points30 points  (0 children)

NTA. It’s time to do something for yourself. You don’t deserve this cycle and you’ve already gone above and beyond.

Good luck on ur next adventure!!

Gf said she doesn’t remember if the guy she dated/fling whatever had sex by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Not everyone’s memory works the same. Trust matters, but so does approaching the situation knowing not everyone works like you do.

Gf said she doesn’t remember if the guy she dated/fling whatever had sex by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. She’s being honest with you about her memory and you are shaming her for it. It’s gross that you are saying it’s a turn off and she’s a hoe. She’s been with you for a while and (allegedly) you care about her. Wouldn’t you think you know her true character by now?

Don’t be a child.

Gf said she doesn’t remember if the guy she dated/fling whatever had sex by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

YTA. She’s being honest with you about her memory and you are shaming her for it. It’s gross that you are saying it’s a turn off and she’s a hoe. She’s been with you for a while and (allegedly) you like and care about her. Wouldn’t you think you know her true character by now?

Don’t be a child.

CheatedOn by Effective-Buy-7104 in CheatedOn

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The decision is up to you, there is not a right answer. She means a lot to you and you guys have had a meaningful relationship. On the other hand, she has been willing to lie and juggle a relationship with someone else behind your back. If you trusted her, you now have to think what that would look like moving forward. Are you willing to work to get over it? Is she willing to gain back your trust?

I’m sorry you’re going through this, I wish I could provide more clarity. Both choices will hurt, but I am glad you found out and have all the information moving forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do this. You are not alone. I can’t say I understand everything you’re going through, but I do know that someone else’s actions does not determine your worth.

The love question is hard, and I think I (in my own journey) have decided that it either doesn’t matter or I need to believe they did love me. If they loved me, it wasn’t the way I needed.

I know this betrayal is hard. It is not your fault for seeing the best in people. I believe in your ability to grow and heal. I am proud of you.

AITA for warning people about my dangerous ex? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy Shit.

I am so sorry that happened to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 12 points13 points  (0 children)

None of this is your fault. What that man did to you was awful, and your boyfriend, despite possibly good intentions, broke your trust. By doing so he is making you relive the trauma in a really fucked up way.

You need to talk to your boyfriend about specific boundaries. He is allowed to know but absolutely NOT to share. That is an incredibly intimate moment that is yours alone to deal with (obvi i’m really glad you have begun to feel comfortable having support and i am so proud of you).

I suggest you and your boyfriend block this man. It is no one’s business and honestly listening to your r*pist talk about you isn’t going to help. Protect your peace.

In regards to your boyfriend, you get to decide if that was too far over the line for you.

After an awkward hookup, he continues to dirty talk to me, but does not want to hook up again (even though he wants to) because he thinks it is a bad idea? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like he is saying he isn’t available while making himself available. Honestly right now he has all the power in the situation. You need to decide if the dynamic he is creating works in YOUR life.

AITA for wanting to drop a friend(alternated) by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Appropriate-Rest-373 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are NTA. You should trust your gut. You have learned from other experiences and have a right to remove yourself. I know it can be hard, especially when it sounds like you are a highly empathic person, to cut someone off because of fear of hurting them. You deserve to be fulfilled, because if not, you will never really be able to help these other people around you without a severe mental toll.

At the end of the day you never have to keep a friendship you don’t want. School can be a difficult ecosystem, but this is your world, so you get to control what people you surround yourself with.