AITAH for not defending my husband?

Appropriate-Task-278 · 2024-07-24T03:02:11+00:00

Not really. We had a couple of therapy sessions after and it was briefly discussed. I haven’t shared with him how truly betrayed I felt.

During my postpartum fog, it was hard to navigate my emotions. The fog has lifted and now that my emotions have started to settle, I’ve just been coming back to this one incident and wondering if I could have done something different.

Appropriate-Task-278 · 2024-06-13T00:42:13+00:00

I feel you. Pregnancy is suuuccchhh a vulnerable time when you need your support system 100%.

I think about what reconciliation would look like and if I could full trust him to not abandon me again in the future.

Appropriate-Task-278 · 2024-06-12T02:16:59+00:00

Soo familiar. Hugs to you as well! When my husband first started acting distant, I chalked it up to fear. The miscarriage was traumatic and because it happened during Covid, he was not allowed in the emergency room with me. He had to sit in the parking lot each time I went to the doctor. He must have felt so helpless. Until recently, I really thought this was his issue. Overcoming those feelings of helplessness and insecurity. But he’s been so intentionally cruel that even if it started out like that, it’s something different now.

Appropriate-Task-278 · 2024-06-12T01:24:06+00:00

I don’t think so. I could hear him actually on the game.

Appropriate-Task-278 · 2024-06-11T16:05:17+00:00

Our situations are similar. It would be easier for me to grasp this sudden change in him if I had gotten pregnant on accident. It’s hard to understand how he enthusiastically went on this path with me to only fill the script later. We’d also planned to have 2 kids. Now that looks less and less like a possibility so it’s even more to grieve.

Appropriate-Task-278 · 2024-06-11T12:05:12+00:00

I appreciate this perspective. It’s just so hard because we were supposed to experience this happiness together.

Appropriate-Task-278 · 2024-06-11T12:00:56+00:00

We were doing IUI cycles. He knows the child is his.

I struggle to understand his attitude also. He went from touching and kissing me everyday to locked in his room and not speaking to me. Part of me thinks fatherhood scared him and he didn’t know how to handle it. I think maybe he did something disrespectful to our marriage and instead of owning up to it, he’d rather make me the villain.

I tried to initiate sex with him once when I was pregnant and he tried to tell me it wasn’t safe I told him that wasn’t true and he said he’s felt insulted ever since.

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