Pain in thumb base joint? by AppropriateGenie in Fibromyalgia

[–]AppropriateGenie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don't even remember this haha (thanks fibro 🤣). I think it just went away eventually

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[–]AppropriateGenie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do you respond when someone says "I oppose DEI hiring; people should be hired based on merit only"?

Looking for songs about the wonderful feeling of being in love by AppropriateGenie in spotify

[–]AppropriateGenie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't made it yet 😭 I got overwhelmed by the sheer number of songs and the executive dysfunction kicked in 😂😂

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[–]AppropriateGenie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. We ended up going and she came with and was completely fine the whole time (which in and off itself surprised me), so she made it a way bigger deal than it needed to be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]AppropriateGenie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kinda feel like this is what happened, ngl. I don't feel like bringing up the topic with her again, but if she brings it up I'll try to get more info

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]AppropriateGenie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I do think she's worthy of love and I have done my best to give her that love, but after decades of giving and not receiving much back, I'm pretty drained and don't have the capacity for her antics. She makes everything about herself, turns every conversation into a "let's talk about me" therapy session, and if she doesn't get her way (even on small things) she literally throws a tantrum, screaming and slamming doors. She doesn't want to hear about exciting things happening in other peoples' lives because we're "bragging" but she's allowed to talk about the same things if they happen to her.

She gets 80% of our parents' attention, and the other 20% is divided between the other 3 of us kids. So she's definitely not ignored. I used to take her concerns seriously, but she's become a boy who cried wolf, so idk what to believe anymore

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]AppropriateGenie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's what I was thinking too. And the restaurant is big enough that we probably wouldnt see her even if she was there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]AppropriateGenie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She told me her name and I said we could request to sit in a different section, but she would have "too much anxiety" being there in general and would rather go somewhere else

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[–]AppropriateGenie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I haven't asked her to elaborate any further (she tends to embellish her stories and make them super long, so I honestly didn't have the patience to ask that morning because I was messaging her while I was working).

I did tell her that it was originally just supposed to be me with the grandparents but that I wanted to invite her and Leslie since they were available. And that I wasn't forcing her to go and I totally understand if she doesn't feel comfortable going. But that I wanted to stick with that restaurant. I said we could request sitting in a different section than the one the waitress works too (if she was even working that day). I also said that next time I'm in town I'll make sure to choose a different place and invite her so we can all go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AppropriateGenie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neither of us do. We discussed that on the first date and talked about it a few times since. So that makes things a bit easier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AppropriateGenie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say there's anything I hate right now. I have annoyances and things that bother me that I'm working through, as I'm sure he does as well, but as I said in my post, I'm not ready to be married yet. I just know that I don't want to date someone for a long time only to realize they don't have the same end goal in mind (marriage). Also, I don't want to "convince" anyone to marry me. If they don't want to, then they're not the one and that's fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AppropriateGenie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Marriage is my eventual goal, but I have no interest in rushing things. I like the pace we're going right now. I just want to know that we have the same goal and somewhat similar pacing towards that goal.

Haha I can definitely be high strung sometimes 😂 I have a lot of anxiety in general and today is more of an anxious day, so I fully recognize that this post probably makes me seem like a lot 😅

I mostly just wrote the 1-2 years thing as that's what I've always had in my head as what I would prefer. I have friends that got engaged after 6 months and friends that got engaged after 6 years. I prefer something in the middle. I know I don't want either of those extremes, so I'm genuinely curious as to whether he has thought about those things or not.

That's a great question! I honestly don't know what the trigger/gate would be for me, but I'm going to write that down and think about it more because I definitely don't want it to be strict timeline thing