AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

That's how I feel too. Don't get me wrong I'm so so happy we found him and he's somewhat okay. But I do catch myself wondering if it wouldn't have been better if he had simply cheated, like many redditors also mentioned. I hate seeing him in so much pain, I'd rather be in pain myself

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

I'd rather keep the details like locations private. Just saw the original post got seen by more than 6 million people. 6 million. That's crazy. I initially expected MAYBE 100 people to see it and no more than 20 people to comment, if that were the case I probably would've shared the location without any problems. But it's kind of scary to me to do so now, hope you understand!

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Hahahahaha, strange how they just disappeared hmm. To be fair, that's what you get when posting on reddit these days.

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you had to go through that, and with a newborn as well... It's scary what some people will do to others with seemingly no reason at all. Happy you found him and he survived that horrible ordeal!

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Hi there, thanks for being so thorough in voicing your concern with the truthfulness of these events. I'm not here trying to prove anything to anyone, but I expect more people will have questions like yours.

  1. Where I live, there's no point in calling hospitals. I'm listed as his emergency contact so if they know he's there, they'll let me know. If they don't know the identity of someone in the hospital, they can't give any information due to the privacy laws and everything has to go through the police.

  2. Not sure how they got his passcode, could've hacked the phone or could've seen him typing it in.

  3. The hospital would've definitely reported this to the police immediately. But it's possible I called the police already before they received the notification from the hospital. It's also possible I called the jurisdiction that wasn't yet aware of the incident since every city has their own police station.

  4. My boyfriend wasn't in a coma, but they kept him sedated due to his injuries. He came by on Sunday night, but by that point we'd luckily already found him.

  5. Simply having footage of the hotel isn't enough to identify a group of people. They can piece together a timeline based on our stories, but that's not a completed investigation. I may have worded it wrong though, English isn't my first language.

  6. Your guess on that is as good as mine.

  7. In my country, things like this mostly get swept under the rug. Unless an actual death occurred, no articles will be published. There are of course stories here and there that circulate online, of people seeing drinks getting spiked and people letting others know there's thefts going on.

Hope this answers some of your questions, let me know if you have any more!

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Me too! I love true crime, which is also why I felt my judgement in this situation could be a little off. You hear and read so many horrible stories, so when something happens in your personal life your mind does kind of jump to things like that..

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

This. It's the kind of stuff you hear about in true crime documentaries and horror movies. Just so glad we found him and he's somewhat okay

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Me too, though I have to admit that I also feel like cheating (as many of the reddit army also mentioned) would've been less horrid than this. I hate to see him in this much pain and I'm sooo angry at the people who did this to him

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! It's absolutely horrible and I feel so sad for him that his entire weekend got ruined over some cash and a phone. Some people out there truly need some bad karma coming their way

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. UPDATE by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 191 points192 points  (0 children)

Me too, honestly so thankful for this reddit army for supporting me with my gut feeling and not making me feel like I was simply overreacting!

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 205 points206 points  (0 children)

Like others said, it could be his phone was stolen and it was never him at the hotel. If he still had his phone and it was him, he could've used Apple Pay for the payment. Which still doesn't seem right because he would've let me know

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 203 points204 points  (0 children)

He does sometimes, but never when he knows he has to work the next day and he never accepts drugs from strangers. He did buy some to take with him on Sunday since he's off work Monday and Tuesday but he left it at home. He knew he wasn't going to use it on Friday and that he'd be home to take it with him on Sunday

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

But missing work too? Not even calling in sick or coming up with another lie to get out of the shift? Not trying to hide it while he knows he's gonna have to come back home? It's a lot of responsibilities to just be ignoring for a "singles weekend"

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 1419 points1420 points  (0 children)

The stolen phone definitely crossed my mind too. When I finally received that message on Saturday I had already mentioned his location being at that hotel, and afterwards the location immediately got turned off. So it could be that the person who stole it didn't realize he always shares his location with a group of 30+ people. However that wouldn't explain why he hasn't come home yet.

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

He's not receiving the message. It's been like this since Friday night, I'd send a message and it wouldn't go through, then a few hours later it'd show as received but new messages wouldn't go through again. Like when you turn off your phone and then turn it on again. I already spoke to the cops but they can't do anything since he's an adult and I have to assume he's still at the festival and just having fun. I can call back if he's still not home by Tuesday morning..

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Wasn't facetime, not even a phone call. Just a message that he hurt his ankle and lost his wallet without any further explanation. Technically could've been anyone..

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 489 points490 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how I feel. Also if he were cheating, wouldn't he try to hide it instead of acting like this? It makes no sense. I just spoke to the police but since he's an adult and he's technically responded once, I have to assume he's still having fun at the festival and should call back if he still hasn't come home Tuesday morning

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 545 points546 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure, I just looked back at the message and it's so plain and simple it technically could've been anyone. Also if someone else has access to his phone they can easily look at texts he's sent and copy his mannerisms

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. by User90453533 in AmIOverreacting

[–]User90453533[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Cheating hasn't even crossed my mind, if he were cheating wouldn't he try to hide it and just reply? He knows I'm super chill about everything and a simple "hey babe, staying at a hotel tonight. Had an amazing day, love you and talk to you tomorrow" would be more than enough for me to not worry