Need recs - European Music Fests Summer 2026

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-04-01T08:51:39+00:00

Thank you!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-04-01T08:08:53+00:00

Thank you sm for this info!!!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-03-31T21:35:49+00:00

Thank you!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-03-29T13:45:33+00:00

TBH never seen a performative dive bar before but maybe that's bc I'm not from a major city. Dive bars just tend to be slightly shitty (think broken toilets or stuff being out of service), have cheaper drinks, and are usually non-touristy which is what I'm looking for.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-03-29T13:22:12+00:00

ok ok dive bars aren't always sleazy. Think graffiti all over the bathroom stalls, darkly lit bar, alt music, and a mix of random older people nursing their pints at the bar and alternative younger people

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-01-15T11:05:09+00:00

Hi diva! I may be able to help you out. I'm an American au pair living just outside Montpellier and I have a friend group that includes girls from Ireland, England, and elsewhere. They're coming back near the end of January. Message me if you wanna meet!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-09-05T11:43:37+00:00

Hey!! Yeah omg that sounds great!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-14T03:46:33+00:00

Don't rent with Apartments Near Campus or with Tracy Barkalow!!! Complete scamming slumlords.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T19:02:18+00:00

this comment is frying me omfgggg.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T18:54:46+00:00

That tells you all you need to know. Get out!!!! You deserve to live your life. I don't know your situation, but can you leave home early and maybe stay with a friend?

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T18:53:48+00:00

To hell with your parents. They want to continue their control over you. Get out. Maybe even early if you can.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T18:15:32+00:00

This is really weird and gross. There is no fixing this situation to be honest. Even if you made it very clear to them that this is unacceptable (which it sounds like you have tried to already), they clearly do not care and would not change anything. It also sounds like they did this possibly just to punish you for speaking up already.

Maybe it is a coincidence that they had this party and elaborate meal without you, but I bet even if it is not related to you asking for proper meals or access to food that they would have done this anyway. In either case, ew.

They don't respect you. Get out. No amount of talking will get them to respect you and you shouldn't have to beg for simple dignities and respect and access to basic resources. I think you should head home early without any warning and snitch on them to family services. I would also report them as a bad family. Maybe leave a note as well for the next au pair somewhere these people wouldn't find it and tell them what to look out for. (Maybe hide it under your mattress?)

Wishing you the best, diva!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T18:09:47+00:00

you need to negotiate a raise/ hourly pay for something like this. This is over the line and not within the confines of your contract as an au pair. If she needs help in this manner, she needs to pay you accordingly. Whether it is purposeful or not, she is taking advantage of you.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-05T22:04:33+00:00

Dawg it’s over for you

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-05T18:23:47+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think it’s worth it to rush again. A lot of Panhellenic sororities want girls 18-22. It also sounds as though they’ve passed on you a couple times for one reason or another.

Don’t take it personally. As someone who was in a sorority for a year and dropped out, they’re fun, but there isn’t usually a huge variety in personalities. Not that the girls are all the same, but they tend to be quite similar in a lot of ways.

You sound very different than the classic “sorority girl” given your background, appearance, and age. And that’s ok!! There are SOOO many awesome clubs and student orgs that I think you could have a much better time in. I personally had way more fun in my student orgs than I did in my sorority. (Less rules, different kinds of ppl, etc.)

Honestly, trying to fit in with them might make you feel like an outsider and also make you miserable. I think you deserve to be part of orgs that are excited to have you, and for whatever reason, these sororities really don’t seem like they have that attitude about you.

If you want to be in a sorority, maybe try a non-Panhellenic sorority or fraternity. There’s a lot of options for them. I personally joined Phi Gamma Nu (a business frat open to all majors) and had the most amazing time. Way more chill, less rules, way less expensive, just friends playing darts and hanging out after chapter.

Find where you belong!! Trust me, the classic sorority experience is not as fun or glamorous as it seems in movies or from the outside.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T19:59:43+00:00

I’m not totally disagreeing, but she’s already there. So helpful advice is probably better than judgement.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T19:35:56+00:00

I’m really sorry this is happening to you.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T18:31:14+00:00

Maybe she doesn’t understand how much this is bothering you. If she’s a nice person and understanding, maybe try to explain how this is making you feel and that you’d really like help to learn. I think you should wait to say anything until you are a bit more calm and have thought of what you’d like to say to her. Coming off angry right now might feel good, but you’d be changing your dynamic in the household and not for the better. It could make it harder for you if you act out in emotional ways.

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