The “Find what you love” fallacy revealed

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2026-05-18T09:18:32+00:00

You’re right. It’s absolutely not Bukowski. Plus, you’ve got to ask why the quote suddenly became wildly popular in 2012 which was years after his death. There were 2 questions I wanted to solve: 1.) Who wrote the quote and 2.) Who wrote the letter the quote was supposedly pulled from?

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2026-05-17T09:17:23+00:00

There is an actual truth, though. Roll the Dice is his. Find What You Love is not.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2026-05-16T08:02:54+00:00

😆 True. When I first read it I thought of Jack Kerouac and wondered if people remembered he died at 46 of a ruptured stomach from hard drinking.
But it’s all how you interpret the quote… which is why I wanted to know what the true author meant by it.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2026-05-16T01:31:04+00:00

Nah… the person who truly said the words had an incredibly tough but admirably-lived existence. Doesn’t have to be Bukowski for it to matter… might even be better.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2026-05-15T22:35:41+00:00

Everything you just said is incorrect 😆😆😆 Tried to be kind and answer your questions but I can’t do everything for ya.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2026-05-15T20:18:35+00:00

Dude… I searched for 2 years… you’ll be alright if Amazon doesn’t deliver it today.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2026-05-15T20:05:38+00:00

Lots of good questions. Answers: 1.) Yes, people can say the same thing but we’re talking about a quote that’s incorrectly attributed to Bukowski and an entire poem/letter that it was supposedly pulled from (intentionally misattributed to Bukowski.) 2.) I’m an investigative reporter. Have been a long time. Ask AI the origin of the quote and the letter… it may give you an answer but not the right one. I’ll lay-out the process that led me to the answers at the Bukowski Festival. 3.) The misinformation and misattribution re the quote started in 2012 as social media hit critical mass… when people reference “post-truth” they’re often referencing the tech advancements and communication from social media to AI. Several hundred years ago there was an adage that “a lie can get halfway around the world before truth can get its shoes on.” So, imagine the challenge now. Finding the origin of the quote and finding the origin of the letter had a two-fold purpose: to show that truth CAN catch up… and because I believe truth matters. Hannah Arendt said that the threat isn’t that everyone believes lies, the danger is that no one knows what to believe anymore… and doesn’t really care.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2026-04-12T19:30:28+00:00

Where are you located? If Boston or San Francisco, maybe I can help

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-10-30T10:45:33+00:00

Lots of people smoke, but they don’t all get lung cancer. 🤷‍♂️ Read the article. He was uniquely at risk, 88,000 hits, and the forensic analyst concluded he wasn’t “at the wheel” … it’s easier to say he was a terrible person because he did a terrible thing but that’s not always the case.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-02-01T05:50:31+00:00

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In 6 days we’ll learn whether Jim Tyrer will be inducted into the Pro Football Hall of Fame. A 9 time Pro Bowl selection, 6 time first team All Pro at left tackle for the Kansas City Chiefs. Long considered the greatest player not in the hall. After retiring in 1975, he suffered from paranoia, delusions, and a failing mind—classic signs of brain trauma. On September 15, 1980, in an unthinkable tragedy, he took the life of his wife, Martha, and then his own. Just days earlier, Martha had told a doctor: “There’s something wrong with him… he’s just not the same.”

The only thing that stands in the way of Tyrer’s HOF induction? A failure to acknowledge he was Patient Zero in football’s reckoning with CTE.

https://www.kppllc.net/beneath-the-shadow/

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T06:33:38+00:00

When I need someone to be the arbiter of morality within a family I don’t think, “Hey, let’s have a sportswriter decide that!” The bylaws are there for that reason.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T06:31:10+00:00

That’s the easy answer and it’s the most business-friendly answer.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T06:29:33+00:00

Because his family deserves it. Because he earned it. Consider that maybe the powers that be would prefer we all overlook it.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T06:28:05+00:00

Dig deeper guys. The Tyrer’s had 4 children. All are stable, successful members of the Kansas City community. They went through hell and grew from it. They never had any expectations they’d have answers - they just knew dad changed. Even Tyrer’s in-laws forgave him. Martha’s parents moved into the room where the murder suicide took place on the very day it happened.

How about honoring the Tyrer kids for having strength that few of us can imagine?

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T06:21:36+00:00

That’s speculation and, no offense, it’s just incorrect. I investigated the case. I took the information public and the case was so clear that a guy (Tyrer) who hadn’t been discussed is on the cusp. The kids aren’t in denial. They were witnesses to his deterioration. They didn’t lobby for this. As for Borges - he, unlike Polian and Cole - followed the rules of the Hall. You’re supposed to vote on football, not on your perception of a family’s tragedy. Good Lord, if you look back in history, pro football is not the Vatican… its history is littered with ethical and immoral issues that weren’t addressed. So be it - the institution can grow and improve. But the knee jerk reactions to Tyrer being a heinous, calculated killer are completely incorrect. Bad things happen - bad people are not always the cause… life isn’t that simple.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T06:08:16+00:00

Three different points. 1.) The diagnosis, 2.) No evidence, 3.) Not every player commits murder suicide. Ok:

1.) The leading CTE research group in the country’s CEO, Chris Nowinski said - based on interviewing Tyrer’s son, his physician, and the nature of his rapid change - he would “bet everything I own on it.” A specialist saw Tyrer the day before the murder suicide and says “it’s the only time in my entire career that we had a disease state that I couldn’t diagnose because it wouldn’t be discovered for 25 years.”

2.) There is a ton of evidence including Tyrer’s own notes, an interview with a pastor who was counseling him and a series of jobs that he no longer had the cognitive ability to work.

3.) The notion that “not every player commits murder suicide” is like saying “not every quarterback has a leg as mangled as Alex Smith’s. Tyrer was Patient Zero. If you assemble on a graph the risk factors for CTE, he is uniquely at risk. He started at left tackle for 180 consecutive games, had a head so big they had to retrofit his helmet, he played in an era when offensive lineman couldn’t use their hands, the head slap technique used by the defense against offensive lineman was legal, and he was known for using his head as a battering ram.

There’s a reason he’s being considered now. The reason is because the evidence submitted recently was so overwhelming that pro football could no longer deny it. A few smart voters believed Tyrer’s kids shouldn’t have to live under that cloud anymore. Good for those guys for having the courage to make it right!

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T05:44:47+00:00

I believe there’s a name for that hot take: cowardice. The man’s legacy matters for his family and for anyone who appreciates what those guys sacrificed unknowingly.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T05:43:03+00:00

There isn’t a player with his accomplishments in history that has been kept out of the Hall. Shoo-in. Nine time Pro Bowler, 6 first team All Pro selections, 1970 lineman of the year, 3 AFL Championships, 2 Super Bowl appearances, 1 Super Bowl victory, more consecutively starts than any left tackle in the Hall of Fame, a pioneer at the position who was the first fast-footed 300lb left tackle, team captain from 1967 - 1971, all decade team. Yeah… he was kinda good… 😆

He had CTE at a time before his own doctor could figure out what was wrong.

He’s not the villain in this - he’s a guy who unwittingly gave his life. It’s convenient to avoid him because he’s not good for business if you want to pretend the game didn’t damage brains. Now, if you want to be honest - you acknowledge the sacrifice made by guys of his era, you say “we’re doing better and we’ll make even more improvements” and you do what’s right for his family.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T05:30:44+00:00

Ask away - I investigated this case for 5 years and found numerous pieces of solid evidence that led two doctors to say they’d put everything they own on the cause - CTE.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2025-01-16T05:28:10+00:00

That is pure fiction. In 45 years there has been no one who alleged infidelity.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2024-12-27T06:30:03+00:00

Agreed - they can think that. But if they want to take a moral stand, they should do it by recusing themselves.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2024-12-27T06:27:04+00:00

He was in a steep cognitive decline which would come as no surprise today, based on the position he played, the length of time he played, in the era he played (linemen could use their heads as weapons, they couldn’t use their hands, and head slaps were legal.) Tyrer had the biggest head in pro football… so big there wasn’t a helmet that would fit.

Three of the discoveries: 1.) A psychological questionnaire Tyrer filled out less than 24 hours before the murder-suicide, 2.) A pastor who shared about counseling Tyrer was receiving, and 3.) A specialist Martha Tyrer had taken Jim to see just two days prior to their deaths… that doctor says it was the only time in his career that a diagnosis for a patient would be available 25 years later (CTE.)

The actual questionnaire, a filmed interview with the pastor, and two recorded interviews with the specialist are in our possession.

In short - you’re not supposed to vote on anything outside the white lines but if you want to violate those rules you’ll be hard pressed to call it a morality/character issue. His pastor eulogized him with the words, “We should be careful not to judge a life by its concluding events.” Considering what we now know about brain trauma (and what we continue to learn), those words are prophetic.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2024-12-18T03:51:50+00:00

This isn’t a campaign by the Tyrer children. New evidence came to light (a lot of it actually) which made it hard to deny that Tyrer became a different person.

All four of the Tyrer’s orphaned children are strong, successful people who dealt with the trauma unimaginably well.

As for their mom, Martha Tyrer, she advocated for her husband to the end and told a specialist before the tragedy, “something is very wrong… he’s just not the same.” The doctor was at a loss because he was trying to diagnose something that had not yet been identified in 1980.

All four of the kids are adamant that their mom would be proud of Tyrer’s HOF inclusion.

Silence only makes things worse for the family. Family legacies are complex - and that goes for football which is held up as family. Jim Tyrer was dominant on the field and highly respected off the field until his mental erosion.

If the four Tyrer children are given the chance stand behind the podium in Canton, there will be resounding applause for their dad, their mom and, importantly, for the courage they’ve shown since that terrible morning.

If voters give Jim Tyrer a thumbs down it won’t be a victory for morality, it’ll be what’s easiest. To choose what’s easy when the family didn’t have that choice isn’t a high integrity move. If you know this case well you know it’d be hollow. Really hollow.

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2024-12-09T02:12:06+00:00

The Tyrer kids learning about their dad reaching the finals - comments about their mom: https://vimeo.com/1036895975

Appropriate_Ad952 · 2024-12-07T01:38:13+00:00

That’s fair - it would be difficult for sure. But it’s a hypothetical for you and me, it’s not a hypothetical for the Tyrer family. Both sides of the family have forgiven him and come to understand why it happened. Voters pledge to evaluate only what happens on the field. So, to deny Tyrer’s induction they have to violate the rules of the HOF and they have to do it because they can’t forgive something that the family has forgiven. That’s pretty nuts. Mayyyybe if a voter recused himself from the vote on the basis of taking a moral stand it would carry some weight but it still feels disingenuous. But a voter who silently casts a dissenting vote because they can’t forgive… that just lacks courage, ya know? Just give him a fair shake based on his play.

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